This weekend was time for the children to go to their dads house. At his house, first, he was shouting because he believed I was late. I was exactly on time. I pulled over on the street far from his house and waited until the exact time, then pulled up to his drive exactly on time.
I walked the children to the door, and he showed me he had a letter that was addressed to me. He asked me if I wanted it. I said yes. He proceeded to pass it to me, through the door. I reached out to take it and he slammed the iron door on my hand. I can't tell you how much pain I was in. It was horrible. And my children were on the other side, stunned.
At home they are telling me (no coersion on my part) that he took out his anger he has towards me, on them. He didn't pay cs last month, and I couldn't pay my phone, so I didn't have a phone (I'm not month to month...just buy minutes each month).
So he started screaming at the children that they didn't call, and that they need to make me get a phone. He called me all kinds of horrible names, and my son got upset and cursed at his dad. I really wish he hadn't done this, although it shows me how much he does love me. I don't want him punished because of defending me.
Their dad punished him with pushups for cussing. I told my son to never cuss at anyone. My son was very frustrated about how ex was treating me, and my daughter told me that she couldn't watch while my son was being punished because ex was being so harsh with him. She started crying and told her dad that she wanted to go him right then. On top of it, she arrived with a fever, and ex would not allow me to tell him that she was sick. Apparently she was feeling sick at her stomach by the time bedtime came, and she again asked to call me so I would pick her up. She told him she was sick. He refused to let her call me. (my phone was working on weekends and through out this weekend...but now, until I pay, I don't have a phone again).
I was so worried about my kids because of the hostility that ex showed me at drop off. I called on Saturday to talk to the kids, but ex kept hanging up on me.
I tried again on Sunday, and he finally answered but gave me a tongue lashing first before allowing me to speak to the kids. Finally, put my daughter on the phone, but as usual, kept the phone on speaker phone. I asked dd if the phone ws on speaker phone, and she admitted it was. I asked her if she could take it off. At that moment, ex began yelling at me telling me that I didn't deserve to talk to her at all. Then he promptly ended the conversation with my dd and put my son on the phone. I spoke to him, again with speaker phone on. The kids just can't say anything when the phone is on speaker.
When I was talking to my dd on the phone, she told me she watched Major Payne (movie apparently). She was punished after getting off the phone, for telling me about watching that movie. Why did he punish her? Because she said she watched the movie, when he said she didn't watch the whole thing, so she shouldn't have told me.
She has a fever, she wanted to come home, she also had diarrhea and he had her chewing some seed as a response to her problems.
When she came home, she cried and cried. My son was mostly angry (seems to be the mode he responds to unfortunately). He was shouting that he is in 5th grade, and he is not stupid. Apparently his dad was saying he didn't know much. Their dad showed them the PPP, the child support amount ect.
I am so sad for my kids. They don't deserve this type of treatment. I did call child abuse services two weeks ago, and I haven't heard anything. They told me they would let me know if they were going to proceed.
Also, my daughter was put in my son's room to sleep. In our PPP, she is not to sleep in his room, and he is actually to sleep in his room, since there is an alarm on the door, which is mentioned in the PPP, to be used each night. I'm just coming here to lay my head upon your shoulders. I feel so helpless, and without the money to pay for attorney's fees, I don't know where to turn.
I walked the children to the door, and he showed me he had a letter that was addressed to me. He asked me if I wanted it. I said yes. He proceeded to pass it to me, through the door. I reached out to take it and he slammed the iron door on my hand. I can't tell you how much pain I was in. It was horrible. And my children were on the other side, stunned.
At home they are telling me (no coersion on my part) that he took out his anger he has towards me, on them. He didn't pay cs last month, and I couldn't pay my phone, so I didn't have a phone (I'm not month to month...just buy minutes each month).
So he started screaming at the children that they didn't call, and that they need to make me get a phone. He called me all kinds of horrible names, and my son got upset and cursed at his dad. I really wish he hadn't done this, although it shows me how much he does love me. I don't want him punished because of defending me.
Their dad punished him with pushups for cussing. I told my son to never cuss at anyone. My son was very frustrated about how ex was treating me, and my daughter told me that she couldn't watch while my son was being punished because ex was being so harsh with him. She started crying and told her dad that she wanted to go him right then. On top of it, she arrived with a fever, and ex would not allow me to tell him that she was sick. Apparently she was feeling sick at her stomach by the time bedtime came, and she again asked to call me so I would pick her up. She told him she was sick. He refused to let her call me. (my phone was working on weekends and through out this weekend...but now, until I pay, I don't have a phone again).
I was so worried about my kids because of the hostility that ex showed me at drop off. I called on Saturday to talk to the kids, but ex kept hanging up on me.
I tried again on Sunday, and he finally answered but gave me a tongue lashing first before allowing me to speak to the kids. Finally, put my daughter on the phone, but as usual, kept the phone on speaker phone. I asked dd if the phone ws on speaker phone, and she admitted it was. I asked her if she could take it off. At that moment, ex began yelling at me telling me that I didn't deserve to talk to her at all. Then he promptly ended the conversation with my dd and put my son on the phone. I spoke to him, again with speaker phone on. The kids just can't say anything when the phone is on speaker.
When I was talking to my dd on the phone, she told me she watched Major Payne (movie apparently). She was punished after getting off the phone, for telling me about watching that movie. Why did he punish her? Because she said she watched the movie, when he said she didn't watch the whole thing, so she shouldn't have told me.
She has a fever, she wanted to come home, she also had diarrhea and he had her chewing some seed as a response to her problems.
When she came home, she cried and cried. My son was mostly angry (seems to be the mode he responds to unfortunately). He was shouting that he is in 5th grade, and he is not stupid. Apparently his dad was saying he didn't know much. Their dad showed them the PPP, the child support amount ect.
I am so sad for my kids. They don't deserve this type of treatment. I did call child abuse services two weeks ago, and I haven't heard anything. They told me they would let me know if they were going to proceed.
Also, my daughter was put in my son's room to sleep. In our PPP, she is not to sleep in his room, and he is actually to sleep in his room, since there is an alarm on the door, which is mentioned in the PPP, to be used each night. I'm just coming here to lay my head upon your shoulders. I feel so helpless, and without the money to pay for attorney's fees, I don't know where to turn.
Can they write letters to the judge... something??
I'm so sorry you have to deal with this.
BTDT w/ both my ex and client's ex's and it is a wonderious way to insert a third party impartial view to a Judges chambers.
