What should my next step be? - Page 2

[nummies]

Originally Posted by hollyvangogh

That's sad. I had parents with babies in several of my classes. Never had a single problem. I guess my University was unusually family friendly, but I think that should be the norm, not the exception.

And I agree. I am not saying that they shouldn't be allowed in class. I am saying that they weren't allowed.

[amandaleigh37]

Personally, at a year old I would probably have my husband come to the campus and walk around with the baby while I took the test. Like you said, once she's asleep she's "out for a solid 2 hours" right?

I mean, I definitely think they should get a policy in place for moms testing with newborns or babies who just can't be apart from mama that long. But I'm not sure that's worth fighting for a one-year old. I'd definitely try to talk to someone (nicely) about what they might do for other/future lactating students who may need to feed a baby during the testing period.

Good luck.

[beccalou79]

Update: I took the test this morning (and I'm pretty sure I got an A! Whoo-hoo!) while my husband stayed with our sleeping kiddos. It was a sob-free experience for all of us, I'm happy to say.

Also, my professor e-mailed me back today to say he's going to check out alternate arrangements for me to bring my baby with me to future tests-- a gesture I definitely appreciate.

[FREEmom1120]

Glad to hear it worked out well and that you might be accomodated next time!!

[Emmeline II]

I had to leave my 1.5 year old VERY attached nursling for 3hrs to take a mid-term and a final. She cried most of the time. Maybe your dh can have your children at/near the testing site so you can nurse as soon as you are finished?

Oops, K you already took the test. You'd think online classes would be more accommodating. We are taking them online for a reason.

[EKilgore]

glad it went well. just to share my experience, dd was born 2 weeks after the start of the semester. i took 2 weeks off, then returned to class with her in a sling, then when she was a little bigger i went to class with her and a family member in tow. the family member (dh, mil) would sit with her in the hall and get me if she needed to nurse. i took some tests in the testing center with dh holding baby in the hall and the prof instructed the staff to let me leave the test to nurse if needed. worked out great!

[readytobedone]

Originally Posted by beccalou79

I understand what you all are saying. We've just never been apart before. Yes, my husband is, was and always will be a fantastic co-parent, but when she's upset she wants me, and I hate, hate, hate the thought of her somehow getting upset while we're apart and then crying unconsolably for two hours. It may not sound like a big deal to some, but it is to me.

aw, mama, the first separation is so hard, but you get better at it! your DD will be just fine with daddy for a couple hours. my DD is 1 and goes 5-6 hours without breastmilk if she's at daycare or with daddy. she is totally, 100% fine and loves me (and my milkies ) just as much as before.