Train time!

[redebeth]

Would you let an 8 year old ride Amtrak alone? Their policy is to allow 8 and up to ride by themselves, after you fill out forms and wait with them. They are chaperoned. My son would be traveling 40 min. with one stop between dad's house and mine. I want mama feedback as I am wishy-washy on this.

[dawningmama]

Hmmm, I dunno. I think it depends on the kid. My son (now 10), I probably would have before he was dx'd with type 1 diabetes. My dd is 8 now and I think she'd be fine, but only if she felt the same. My dd who is 6---yeah, I'd probably let her go when she's 8. She's very independent and self-confident by nature. She's also quite good at asking for help when she needs it.

What does your son say/feel?

[alllyssa]

No way. An airplane yes, but not a train with stops, people getting on and off. No way.

[redebeth]

He's is very independent. He would be absorbed in a book the whole trip, I would think. I should say that he will be very close to 9yrs. old if/ when we start this.

I have asked him what he thought, and he sounded kind of mixed about it. I haven't been on a train with him in about a year, so I am not sure if he remembers what it's like.

Part of my thoughts about the safety aspect include weighing the chance of him getting nabbed against the likelihood of a car accident. The stretch of highway that we take is very dangerous, and there are always jams from bad accidents there. This would eliminate that very real danger, but replace it with a different one. A less likely, but possibly more serious one.

I would really like to be comfortable doing this. I have driven a ridiculous amount over the last three years because of this situation, but I don't want that to cloud my vision. I feel like if this was really dangerous, Amtrak wouldn't do it. You know?

[dawningmama]

Well, I think there are probably lots of 8 year olds who are ok with this. I'm thinking mainly of kids who live in areas with lots of public transportation. We have friends who live in Queens and Brooklyn whose kids take public buses to and from school and extracurricular activities at that age or very close to it.

We don't get the chance to use much public transportation out here in the 'burbs, but it is something I'd like to work on and get my kids comfy with.

[1growingsprout]

Probably but it would depend on the following
1. how busy is the train, is there a less busy train time that would work?
2. are you confident his father would be at the other end to meet him 100% of the time
3. will ds have a cell phone for emergencies
4. is it possible to you to buy a ticket (i dont know prices on trains) or something like a monthly famiily pass where you could ride with him, make sure his dad is there then take the next train home.... same thing to pick him up if needed.

[fork]

My only concern would be him getting off the train at the wrong stop. I've rode on amtrak a lot, and It is always pretty chaotic at stops. I'd call and find out what they do, if anything, to be sure the child doesn't get off at the wrong stop. If they had an employee with the child for all the stops to make sure they stay put until the right stop then I would be fine with it. They do have people standing at all the doors during stops to help people out, so perhaps they are all made aware of the child and that is when they make sure he isn't getting off at the wrong stop. I don't think I would trust that method if it was a full train though.

[guest^]

Absolutely not.

IMHO, eight is waaay to young. Too many what ifs. Too much for a young DC to handle-no matter the maturity.

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[kennedy444]

Totally depends on the individual child but since it is only 40 minutes and there will be a chaperone, YES, as long as child was totally comfortable and not scared at all.

[nextcommercial]

I rode from St Louis to Chicago and back often at that age. I rode the train from Arlington Heights into Chicago often too. (about 45 minutes I think)

That doesn't mean I would let my own 8 year old do that by herself though. It's hard to say. I mean, if he's used to riding the train, he's chaperoned, and you know his Dad will meet him at the station, I think I would take him on a few trial runs first though. Just to make sure he knows all the landmarks, and you are sure he won't get off on the wrong stop. Even with a chaperone, I would want to KNOW my child knew how to do it completely alone just in case the chaperon wasn't paying attention.

[lovemy4boys]

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[redebeth]

I agree with the thought that urban kids are used to this stuff. Starting in 6th grade I would take the 22 Fillmore from one end of SF to the other everyday and I survived just fine. And that wasn't in very nice neighborhoods.

I would love to do this with him, but the cost is prohibitive. It's $15 per way so for me to go and bring him back that would be $45 8 times a month. Ouch. The point of this is to let up on the amount of driving I have to do, for environmental and monetary reasons, as well as the time it takes me. I also do think it would be more of an adventure than sitting in the car 8 more hours a month. (he spends about 42 hours a month riding in a car. Geez!)

I would be on the receiving end, his dad would put him on the train.

The cell phone for the trip is a good idea. I've taken this train ride a couple of times, and it's never been very busy. He would be taking it at off hours in the evenings on weekends or opposite commuter traffic weekdays.

I don't know. Is it wrong to trust a major corporation with my precious child? You can trust them, right? Okay, just kidding. I'm at a loss because I agree with everyone here.

[tessie]

I used to do a 200 mile train trip (with multiple stops) to my Grandparents from age nine upwards. I was fine with it* but it really depends on the child. I also don't think the world has become less safe in the intervening twenty years.


*Apart from a few years later when I had to take along my younger sister - so annoying!

Oh.this was in the UK, but I don't suppose that makes much difference.

[Ann-Marita]

Originally Posted by redebeth

I would love to do this with him, but the cost is prohibitive. It's $15 per way so for me to go and bring him back that would be $45 8 times a month. Ouch. The point of this is to let up on the amount of driving I have to do, for environmental and monetary reasons, as well as the time it takes me. I also do think it would be more of an adventure than sitting in the car 8 more hours a month. (he spends about 42 hours a month riding in a car. Geez!)

Maybe you could do the trip with him once or twice (or more if needed), just to get him familiar with it all. Then try it once without you riding with him. You could check in every 10 or fifteen minutes with the cell phone.

[dawningmama]

I think there are a bunch of smart-commuter tips you can give him---where is best to sit on the train, make friends w/ your conductor, etc. And I would probably tell him to look around and if he spies a mama and a kid to sit in their vicinity. I know if I were riding the train w/ my kiddos and I saw another kid alone, I'd probably keep my radar up for him.

[StephandOwen]

Originally Posted by Ann-Marita

Maybe you could do the trip with him once or twice (or more if needed), just to get him familiar with it all. Then try it once without you riding with him. You could check in every 10 or fifteen minutes with the cell phone.

This is what I would do. Make the trip a couple times with him on the train until he's 100% comfortable with it. Sure, it's extra money that I'm sure you don't want to spend, but if it helps him become comfortable with the trip then I can't see the harm in it.

Originally Posted by dawningmama

I think there are a bunch of smart-commuter tips you can give him---where is best to sit on the train, make friends w/ your conductor, etc. And I would probably tell him to look around and if he spies a mama and a kid to sit in their vicinity. I know if I were riding the train w/ my kiddos and I saw another kid alone, I'd probably keep my radar up for him.

Great tips!

[Jessy1019]

Assuming he's been on a train before and was okay with the idea, yes, I would.

[Needle in the Hay]

Originally Posted by redebeth

Starting in 6th grade I would take the 22 Fillmore from one end of SF to the other everyday and I survived just fine. And that wasn't in very nice neighborhoods.

I think I took that bus once. It was like a lesson in city demographics.

I would definitely go with him. If his dad is unwilling to ride the train back with him, then I guess I'd go with the chaperone thing and really make sure DS knows where he has to get off and to keep track of time, etc.
It would be hard for my DS even though we take trains all the time. It's old hat to him but he doesn't usually pay much attention to the stops as they are announced, though of course he's younger than your son and easily distracted in general.

[belovedofbast]

If your son is fine with it, and you are confident in his abilities, I say, try it out. What I would do, the first time, is ride it with him. My mom used to do this when I was going to a new place that would require repeat trips (school, dentist etc) so that I would be comfortable with it, and that was that. I appreciated that she did it once and I was good to go after that.

[violet_]

Sure!

But I'd probably take a trip or two with him first, and make sure he has a cell with your and Dad's numbers programmed in. As long as he's chaperoned, I think it's fine.

To the poster who said their kids flew at age 5 -- what airline was that? It seems like more require kids to be 8 or so. We have a 7 yo we'd like to be able to send places occasionally.