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post #261 of 512
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Originally Posted by ishyfishie View Post
Maybe a dumb question, but I'd like to see my records from the hospital as well. Do you contact the hospital directly to request that or would I go through my midwives?
I called the hospital and they told me what building to go to to get them. I filled out a form, and then a few days later they called and told me they had them ready for me to pick up.
post #262 of 512
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Originally Posted by barefootpoetry View Post
OMFG. That's horrible! : How did you know it was your uterus? Did you know right then what she was doing or did you find out later? Did anything bad happen as a result of this? I ask because I am reading my medical records for the first time today and am finding a TON of stuff that no one told me happened.
This happened April 9th 2007. I didn't question the apprentice's reaction at the time (I should have) but a few weeks after the birth I complained to MW about seeing my vagina bulging out.

I just put lots of clues together and kept asking questions during my post-natal appointments. It was during a pp appointment when she admitted to pushing apart of my uterus back in.

Its been over a yr since then. I've been doing kegels like crazy and following the 'Whole Women' guide for wellness. My prolapse has significantly improved.

Mamas DON'T LET YOUR MW or OB EVER PULL ON THE CORD TO YOUR PLACENTA AND WAIT TILL YOU FEEL LIKE IT HAS TO BE EXPELLED! You'll know. It'll cramp like crazy. Just let your baby nurse a while. The sucking will cause the contractions your body needs to aid the placenta out of your uterus. NO ONE SHOULD EVER PULL ON THE CORD!

ok, sorry for derailing here.
post #263 of 512
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Originally Posted by fruitful womb View Post
This happened April 9th 2007. I didn't question the apprentice's reaction at the time (I should have) but a few weeks after the birth I complained to MW about seeing my vagina bulging out.

I just put lots of clues together and kept asking questions during my post-natal appointments. It was during a pp appointment when she admitted to pushing apart of my uterus back in.

Its been over a yr since then. I've been doing kegels like crazy and following the 'Whole Women' guide for wellness. My prolapse has significantly improved.

Mamas DON'T LET YOUR MW or OB EVER PULL ON THE CORD TO YOUR PLACENTA AND WAIT TILL YOU FEEL LIKE IT HAS TO BE EXPELLED! You'll know. It'll cramp like crazy. Just let your baby nurse a while. The sucking will cause the contractions your body needs to aid the placenta out of your uterus. NO ONE SHOULD EVER PULL ON THE CORD!

ok, sorry for derailing here.
WOW, is about all I have to say.
post #264 of 512
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Originally Posted by Shelsi View Post
This happened to me and is a big reason my first birth was so terrible. I had an elective induction (yeah I was super mainstream back then), I had taken no classes at all because I wanted the epidural right away. Well the contractions weren't showing up on the monitor. I was writhing around the bed in agony and crying which I never do in front of people. I kept begging for my epidural but the nurses just smirked at me and said I wasn't even contracting. They finally listened to me when I told them I felt like I had to poop and maybe that would make me feel better (of course I was starting to push at that point). I have nothing but hatred for those nurses who wouldn't listen to me. It still makes me really upset over 4 yrs later. They were just horrible. And I don't think I have that strong of feeling of hatred towards anyone else in my life.
What exactly is the point of those monitors? Seems like they mostly train nurses out of being able to properly do their jobs.
post #265 of 512
With my first (homebirth) I had a new midwife and her back up and as I was pushing she just got scared and said "I can't do this" as in I can't/don't want to catch the baby to which her back up said yes you can. I tuned out my midwife and listened to the back up after that. I was thinking later shouldn't that have been me saying that?!?

My third a transfer for drugs ( didn't get any long story did UC for #4) the anestheseologist was there running his finger up my back I said nevermind it's too late and he said no it's not. He didn't know babe was crowning and I was touching her head. No one else knew either until the nurse checked and hollered for the doc. I was then told not to push and I could hear them breaking down the bed so I pushed harder and the doc only had one glove on while trying to catch the baby. I managed to push her out before they broke down the bed so not one really caught her. I kinda wondered why they didn't let a nurse catch the babe who already had gloves on than someone fumbling with a glove. Seems kinda ridiculous.

I am so sorry for some of these things that have happened to women. It seems so many care providers have NO RESPECT, caring , understanding or compassion. I mean really clamping a hemostat on a woman's vagina and showing to her sounds like a sicko to me!!!How the hell do they think we survived as a species?!? IDIOTS!! Makes me want to scream sometimes.
post #266 of 512
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Originally Posted by SeekingSerenity View Post

Then he said, "Are you numb yet?" (I'd had an epidural, which had been over-dosed because it didn't work properly, and I was practically numb to my ears anyway.) I mumbled, "I don't know..." and he said, "Well you must be, cause see what I did?" And he holds up this mirror so I can see down there... and he's got a surgical clamp snapped onto my perineum, so it's dangling beneath the vaginal opening while my butt's hanging in the air over the edge of the bed! I remember squeezing my eyes shut because something about that horrified me.

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This is what I was refering to in my above post. The lack of humanity and respect for another person's body is horrifying. Man would I love to attach a clamp to his *you know what*!?! and then fillet his privats and see if he thinks that's funny.
post #267 of 512
"Do you want this baby to come out?" -- said by my first midwife when I wasn't pushing to her satisfaction.
post #268 of 512
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Originally Posted by sapphire_chan View Post
What exactly is the point of those monitors?
Electronic Fetal Monitors, internal and external, were originally developed for very high risk women in labor. The convenience of monitors were soon realized and soon every woman in the labor rooms had a monitor attached to them, thereby confining laboring women to bed, exposing babies to continuous and intermittent wave ultrasound, and giving all doctors a nice continuous paper strip to use as evidence in case of a malpractice suit.

The doctor who developed them decried their routine use for every single woman in labor.
post #269 of 512
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Originally Posted by applejuice View Post
Electronic Fetal Monitors, internal and external, were originally developed for very high risk women in labor. The convenience of monitors were soon realized and soon every woman in the labor rooms had a monitor attached to them, thereby confining laboring women to bed, exposing babies to continuous and intermittent wave ultrasound, and giving all doctors a nice continuous paper strip to use as evidence in case of a malpractice suit.

The doctor who developed them decried their routine use for every single woman in labor.
So they were, like many other tools of the trade, designed to assist skilled medical personnel in doing their jobs during high risk labors? And now people are being taught how to use the tool instead of the skills that should accompany the tool? Ugh, an engineer who relied that much on tools without knowing what the tools were supposed to be doing wouldn't have a job. And most of the time that engineer wouldn't even be the only line of defense for something going wrong.
post #270 of 512
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Originally Posted by fourlittlebirds View Post
"Do you want this baby to come out?" -- said by my first midwife when I wasn't pushing to her satisfaction.
Why no, I think I'll wait until they are ready to go to college to push the kid out!
post #271 of 512
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Originally Posted by Shelsi View Post
This happened to me and is a big reason my first birth was so terrible. I had an elective induction (yeah I was super mainstream back then), I had taken no classes at all because I wanted the epidural right away. Well the contractions weren't showing up on the monitor. I was writhing around the bed in agony and crying which I never do in front of people. I kept begging for my epidural but the nurses just smirked at me and said I wasn't even contracting. They finally listened to me when I told them I felt like I had to poop and maybe that would make me feel better (of course I was starting to push at that point). I have nothing but hatred for those nurses who wouldn't listen to me. It still makes me really upset over 4 yrs later. They were just horrible. And I don't think I have that strong of feeling of hatred towards anyone else in my life.
Same thing happened to me! I had one nurse actually tell me I should wait until the pain got really bad, I didn't want to waste my pain meds yet (I was pushing within the hour). When they finally gave in and had someone from Anesthesia come in and talk to me I was in the middle of transition and puking, so the woman left, and when my nurse came back in I asked again about pain meds and she said "Anesthesia was in here, you never said anything to them." Uh, 'cause I was busy puking and I had no idea who that person was, maybe?!
post #272 of 512
At a birth I was supporting last week - mama was doing a great job tuning into her body and ignoring all the hospital crap.

AS she was pushing on her hands and knees on the bed, the OB asked her to flip over onto her back for the delivery. She did not acknowledge him. then the ridiculous nurse burst out with "You have to turn over so the doctor can get the baby out!!!" then looked at me like I should make her do that.

Gosh, mama stayed right where she was and the baby came out all by itself, can you imagine that???
post #273 of 512
During my first birth (which ended in a c-section) I was in the process of being diagnosed as "failiure to progress". I had an epidural (I was completely uneducated about all things dealing with childbirth at the time) and absolutely couldn't move or feel anything below my chest. I was lying down on my back and wanted to sit up. I asked the nurse if she could please help me sit up. Her reply "You progress faster lying down". At the time, I thought that just didn't make sense, because of gravity and all, but what did I know, I was just a patient. Now of course, I know she was either a complete idiot or just didn't feel like putting forth the effort to help me sit up.
post #274 of 512
My dear dear husband, in the throes of transition with me writhing on the bed, spilling profanity like a truck driver, bent down and whispered to me..."Honey, you should know you're kind of being rude right now..."

Had I had the mobility, I would have reached over the clubbed him... LOL
post #275 of 512
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Originally Posted by finnegansmom View Post
My dear dear husband, in the throes of transition with me writhing on the bed, spilling profanity like a truck driver, bent down and whispered to me..."Honey, you should know you're kind of being rude right now..."

Had I had the mobility, I would have reached over the clubbed him... LOL
Lucky for him you had a baby to distract you later on.
post #276 of 512
For all you that have a sad story...:
I have cried, laughed and yelled at my computer reading this thread. Thank You all for sharing your very personal births.

For my first I spent 4months on bedrest, in the hospital 2x for mag and more, on major medication (trebutaline, vistaril, mag, steroids) for PreTerm Labor. I was transfered from my hospital (where I worked also) to a bigger hospital. The gurney in the ambulance was like a metal slab - cold, hard, and SUPER uncomfortable. My dear friend from the ICU was the nurse that stayed 3 hrs after shift change to transfer me. She was awesome (and she didn't remember me because we only worked together 1 time) but the ambulance guy was an idiot. I'm 28weeks at this point- I'm having ctx every 5 min, I have an amniotic leak and this guy says "Well, let's hope you get to deliver in a more comfortable bed!" My nurse punched him in the arm, as I layed there crying. Then in the new hospital- I'm greeted by 15 "resident" doctors- ALL who watched me being transfered to a hospital bed. They put me flat on my back- put a wash TUB with a baby blanket in it UNDER my butt and tried to do a speculum check while I'm trying to hold my hips up on this damn thing. I'm crying because this idiot that's a doctor keeps hitting my cervix, they are all talking ABOUT me, the door is open and I finally pulled the tub out and said "You ALL get OUT!!! I'm not a lab rat" and they all just stared at me like I was speaking a new language. Then the head doc says "well, do you want to keep this baby or have it die?" I told her to leave my room, or I'd have her malpractice insurance support me for life. She didn't say another word to me for 3 weeks that I was there. The idiot that tried to do the speculum inspection would come in EVERY morning at 5am and ask "How do you feel today?" idiot. My fav comment was "we can't call the doctor- it's 1am! He's sleeping, and I'm not waking him up to see if he changed your orders. He can change them tomorrow" yeah.

With Jacob's actual delivery my reg. OBGYN came in the room and my uber christian mother was praying quietly to her self. He asked what she was doing, she told hiim, he says "Why would you do that?" he later told my DH that if I didn't push faster (20 min from 4cm to delivery) things were going to get "Expensive" He's lucky I didn't hear that.

With baby #2 all that was said was "I'm betting you will be a c-section by the end of the day" by a mw. Yeah. I was in labor for 7 hours- one ctx delivery and MW had only 1 glove. She said "Wow- that was the best pushing I've ever seen! What's your secret?"

Baby #3 is too much for me to talk about. Let's just say it was my PTSD delivery. The PP nurse asked what the baby's name was, Jensen. She says "Oh, well I only like good itallian names, all those silly new names just sound dumb." Jensen was my grandmothers' name. Yeah. Same nurse "Well, you CAN'T leave with out your formula bag, what will she eat when you figure out that breastfeeding is too hard? No, you can't leave with out this bag- you will have to sign AMA if you don't take this bag." She got YELLED at by my OB- who over heard this conversation.

Baby #4. WOW- Ok My water broke the day my OBGYN went on 3 days vacation. I was 35 wks 6days. So, they didn't do anything but admit me that night- my DH couldn't be there because no one would help with the older children. I had a doula- but we had never met until that night! My nurse, had a TREMMOR disorder- shaking hands!!!! She kept trying to give me medication and an IV with all this shaking! I was so freaked! So- I was admitted at 4cm- ctx all night water gushing. So at 8am they start pit With OUT checking me!! Long story short I delivered in 50min after that. Well I had a head cold- and couldn't breathe through my nose. So, inbetween my every 2min pit contractions my Doula and Nurse would YELL "Kellie, you HAVE to BREATHE!! The baby will not get any oxygen if you don't breathe!" I was trying to swallow because my mouth and throat were totally dry due to being sick! So, they try to put on an internal monitor, and it hurs SO bad that I keep pulling it out becuase it hurts- the nurse says "Keep that on- how will the doc's know the baby is alive if you don't keep it on" DURING delivery!!! Then they start SCREAMING "OMG You are CROWNING! You are CROWNING!" like it's a new thing! then I hear "YOU can't do that on the bed! You can't deliver on the bed with no DOCTOR!! OMG YOU DELIVERED ON THE BED!!!" I'm so relieved that the pain is over I said "Pick him up you idiot!" which she did and starts SCREAMING "HELP HELP I NEED RESPATORY STAT!" over and over. This other nurse looks in and say "No, You need a towel!" I died laughing! So, the nurse is holding my little man in runs the Doctor and the other nurses and the anesthesiologist come in, looks around RUNS out, comes back and says to me "Is there anything I can do to help?" I laughed then too! I said Yeah, I need some pain meds- stat.

One of the worst was after my littlest was born- he was in the nursery because he had some breathing issues. I have severe pain due to over seperated hips- and had 20mg of nubain (pain meds) and was TOTALLY drugged after my delivery. My ped (new at the time) comes in and tries to tell me how he's doing and all I remember was "Well, he doesn't need a feeding tube yet, but he might in a few hours" and I passed out again. She told me later that she had said "No, he won't need any feeding tubes or any serious interventions. We won't vax him either because his lungs aren't strong enough" I didn't hear any of that.

The best was when my DS was released from the nursery. They called his ped at 2am to ask if he could go to my room because he was doing better. She said YES- Immediately! Then nurse brought him in and I was a blubbering puddle of mommy and she said "You have such a wonderful baby! I was extra careful because he's so perfect" It made my moment! I stripped him down and put him on my chest because it was the 2nd time I had touched him in almost 24hrs. I'm crying now just remembering!

Thank you all for sharing your stories! :
post #277 of 512
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Originally Posted by yarngoddess View Post
She got YELLED at by my OB- who over heard this conversation.
Ye-es!!! I love reading about good medical people giving bad medical people whatfor.

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Originally Posted by yarngoddess View Post
Then nurse brought him in and I was a blubbering puddle of mommy and she said "You have such a wonderful baby! I was extra careful because he's so perfect"
This made me start crying. Now there's a nurse who was born for her job.
post #278 of 512
When I was giving birth to Imogen, I started screaming "get her out," not really to the midwives, just because I was in so much pain, and at some point the midwife said, "no one can get her out but you honey." I guess she thought I was talking to her, but at the time I wanted to smack her.
post #279 of 512
the dumbest thing that was said at my birth was "i'm only giving you another half hour because if this baby comes down any further without coming out, we'll have to break your pelvis to do the c-section."
post #280 of 512
After dd3 was born (immediately after!) dh looked at me and said "I'm tired, I'm gonna go to your mom's and take a nap." I wanted to throttle him.

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