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post #61 of 112
after reading the movie it is, i would definatly allow it.
post #62 of 112
I would have no problem with my kids knowing about hiv. In second grade i knew what sex was and that it could result in pregnancies (in fact i thought it happened every time) and passing of illness. I probably didn't know about condoms, but it wouldn't have hurt me to know about them. Knowlege doesn't make children not innocent. I credit my parents' very open and no-nnonsense attitude towards sex with me waiting till my 20s to actually have sex (my friends were all haveing sex by age 15-16)

That said I imagine this film is not about sex but about tolerance.
post #63 of 112
sad as it is, in this day and age there are still people who discriminate against others based on their HIV status. i would totally allow my son to watch a movie about HIV. yes, it is an STD but it is also something that is a major factor in the lives of those who have it. it's not all about sex. herpes doesn't really affect your identity that much and people won't refuse to give you jobs if they think your might have it. it's easily hidden and there's really no reason to tell anyone unless they're your doctor or you're sleeping with them. not so with HIV. for better or worse, it's something people talk about and know about. i think kids need to know what HIV is and what it isn't. at this point they don't need to know all about how to screen sexual partners but they do need to know that it's not scary to give someone with AIDS a hug. you know, liberals (of which i am not one) don't spend nearly as much time educating young people about HIV as they did when i was a child and hard core hate mongers and religious extremists (of which i am also not one) have only redoubled their efforts. they hear about it just living in our culture and i think some of us don't realize it because when we were kids in the 80's it was ALL we heard about.

also, they left the sex part out. that leaves it open for parents to discuss it if they wish or to let their children's awareness of AIDS as a primal rally STD develop naturally as they age and watch the news.
post #64 of 112
I would say no and keep my child out of school for the day.
post #65 of 112
I would have no problem with it, and fully support it.
post #66 of 112
So are you going to see the movie first?
post #67 of 112
Now that I see what the movie is, I am changing my answer to yes.
That seems perfectly reasonable for second grade...esp since (as pp's have pointed out) there may be students at the school who have it.

I did the blood sisters thing with several of my girlfriends when I was little (but I was only about 6)
I hadn't even thought about warning ds about not getting in contact with other people's blood. I get so many good ideas here!!!!


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post #68 of 112
Thread Starter 
I don't think we're going to school that day. This is just one of those things that is what makes parenting so personal. I support everyone's decision for their own child, and I'm definitely glad this is out there for kids raised in super ignorant homes who hear awful things anyway.

That's all. I have no personal agenda against AIDS education. Far from it. I'm just saying it's one of many, many serious issues this world is facing, and I'm not trying to let him in on all of them as soon as possible. Also, the chance of my son swapping blood with someone who just happens to have a blood borne illness just doesn't seem very likely to me. That's all.

This all just makes me melancholy.

The "fast answer" in the title seems so silly now. No fast answers here.
post #69 of 112
Considering the fact that my son knows at least one person who is HIV positive at the age of five, I would let him see it. It baffles me that anyone would even say no.
post #70 of 112
redebeth,

why does it make you sad?
post #71 of 112
I haven't read all the replies.

I really think it depends on your kid. I am pretty much with you about not having them worry unnecessarily at such a young age, and my older son is definitely a worrier. I don't hide things from him, and I don't lie to him, but I don't deliberately expose him to "scary" things either. If he asked me what AIDS was, I would tell him. But I see no reason to bring it up at this point.
post #72 of 112
I think its totally appropriate. My child will definatly know about AIDS/HIV well before he is 7 or 8. This would the case even if he did not have a family member with the disease.

It is a big thing to worry about and something that we should ALL have to be aware of.

There was an estimated 2.5 million children living with HIV/AIDS worldwide last year. How can you ignore something like that?

I think the video is a good step to breaking down stigma surrounding HIV/AIDS. I think, however, this should start *at home* at an earlier age.
post #73 of 112
I'll be blunt. I think that the people who are saying OH NOZ! OUR LITTLE ONEZ CANTZ BE EXPOSED TO THE EVIL HIV!

are actually hiding a great deal of bigotry towards their misinterpretation of the disease. It's a 'gay' disease, it's a 'sex' disease and sex is bad and immoral!

And that attitude makes me feel ill.
post #74 of 112
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I'll be blunt. I think that the people who are saying OH NOZ! OUR LITTLE ONEZ CANTZ BE EXPOSED TO THE EVIL HIV!

are actually hiding a great deal of bigotry towards their misinterpretation of the disease. It's a 'gay' disease, it's a 'sex' disease and sex is bad and immoral!

And that attitude makes me feel ill.
I am not only ill but shocked because I suppose I live in my own little world where my kid's know quite a bit more than the average bear.

Do you guys listen to the news with your children around?

I keep the radio on NPR quite often. They know about the war going on and the realities of it beyond the ribbons on cars. I protect them from unnecessary evils but this doesn't seem like an evil to me. It's a reality. My oldest is almost six, he's not scared or depressed, he's just as happy and carefree as every other six year old boy he hangs out with. He just lives in the world with me.
post #75 of 112
I would have no problem with showing it. Accidents happen in gym class, sports, skinned bloody knee's at recess, etc. Kids should be taught WHY not to touch someone elses blood, and if they get it on them to immediately wash it off with hot soap and water.
post #76 of 112
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I'll be blunt. I think that the people who are saying OH NOZ! OUR LITTLE ONEZ CANTZ BE EXPOSED TO THE EVIL HIV!

are actually hiding a great deal of bigotry towards their misinterpretation of the disease. It's a 'gay' disease, it's a 'sex' disease and sex is bad and immoral!

And that attitude makes me feel ill.
Oh Good Lord. That's not what I'm saying at all. I also don't make a point of bringing up drunk driving, war, murder, rape, cancer, heart failure or SIDS. If it comes up, we'll discuss it honestly. Until then, I'll follow his lead.

We've talked about sex, and we've had numerous discussion about families that have two mommies or two daddies, or one daddy or one mommy, or whatever. Sex and gay couples are nothing scary for him to be worried about. They are a healthy normal part of our world. From the very beginning we've discussed romantic love as two people who care deeply for each other. We discuss marriage in terms of two people, men or women. It's is a complete non issue in our household. HIV/AIDS is scary for even adults, and I don't see any reason that he needs to be exposed to it the age of 7.

Maybe for some people it's a sex or homophobic issue, but don't paint us all with the same brush. In our case you couldn't be further from the truth.
post #77 of 112
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I am not only ill but shocked because I suppose I live in my own little world where my kid's know quite a bit more than the average bear.

Do you guys listen to the news with your children around?

I keep the radio on NPR quite often. They know about the war going on and the realities of it beyond the ribbons on cars. I protect them from unnecessary evils but this doesn't seem like an evil to me. It's a reality. My oldest is almost six, he's not scared or depressed, he's just as happy and carefree as every other six year old boy he hangs out with. He just lives in the world with me.
Yes, that's your child. Mine has terrifying nightmares about certain situations. Everything is "reality." The reality is someone could break into our house tonight and kill us all in our sleep, but that's not something I'm going to bring up unnecessarily.

And no, I don't listen to the news with my kids around. I don't listen to the news in general - I read it. If they ask, we discuss. If they need to know now, we discuss. For us, AIDS/HIV doesn't fit into either of these categories at the moment. (And I find most news to be fear mongering crap, so we choose not to have it our lives any more than necessary. We read to get the info we need.)
post #78 of 112
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HIV/AIDS is scary for even adults, and I don't see any reason that he needs to be exposed to it the age of 7.
I havent read the whole thread...but for me, HIV isnt "scary"....its just a disease, one that can kill you if you dont get adequate treatment. I inquired about a child i saw on an Ohio adoption photolisting, who was HIV+, but he was adopted before i could find out more info. My first response wasnt "oohhh scary" but rather "oh, HIV, i think i could deal with that"...when i was growing up, "AIDS education" really hammered home that HIV is a death sentence...that isnt the case anymore, with proper health care. Its more of a chronic, manageable disease that kids are growing up with. There are babies who were HIV+ twenty years ago, who are now thriving as adults.

I dont know why talking about this disease would make someone very sad, or not want to expose their child to the information....i would just tell my child that its a disease you can get certain ways, that left untreated can kill you, but with treatment individuals can live long lives. And that you can't catch the disease from all the normal human interaction (hugging, kissing, touching etc) but that you should be sure never to share blood with someone because its not only HIV you can be exposed to.

I just dont get how thats scary.


Katherine
post #79 of 112
You don't get how a disease that can kill you could be scary to a child? Kids aren't always rational. I've told ds a thousand times that little kids don't go to jail (and that I would never send him to jail - complete with discussions about how law enforcement and sentencing works), but every time I get mad at him for something he did "wrong" he gets all worried and says "Are you going to send me to jail?"

When the topic comes up, I will tell him pretty much what you said in your post. I just don't see the need to sit him down and show him a film about it at this particular time. When it's appropriate or relevant to him, we'll discuss it. I don't see why that's a big deal.
post #80 of 112
kids need to be exposed to the fact that its a scary disease because they could easily contract it from touching someones open wound on the playground! they need to be taught not to touch blood that isnt their own unless they have gloves on. I can't believe someone would bury their head in the sand and not teach their kids the safety aspects of this.
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