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Polite suggestions please? JWs won't leave us alone.

post #1 of 199
Thread Starter 
Apparently "we're active in a different Church and we're not interested" isn't clear enough. It's a waste of their time and my time, and I only throw the Watchtowers in the trash unread. How can I politely tell them not to visit us every week?

Thanks for any suggestions.
post #2 of 199
I suppose calling the local church and asking to be removed from the list would be a good start. Explain that you will not answer the door to them and you have officially notified them that you have asked them to stay off your private property.
post #3 of 199
I didn't really have issues with the JW ladies coming to my door; they were very nice and I didn't mind chatting with them whenever they came to visit. I would NEVER agree with the religion but didn't mind discussing it.

Then they (feeling encouraged by my lack of venom, I guess) left a copy of some book about "what the Bible is really saying" or something. They encouraged me to read it and write questions in the margins. I went through line by line, writing exactly the ways in which I disagreed with what the book (and the Bible in general) says. I handed it off to them pleasantly enough the next time they came over, and said they are certainly welcome to visit again if they'd like, but I will never be a convert.

That was about six months ago, and they seem to feel that I am a lost cause, as I haven't seen them since.
post #4 of 199
In our case I'm nice but just tell them basically what you said and don't take their materials. I think not taking the materials is key. Taking the stuff indicates possible interest. So "I'm sorry, I am happy with my church and would not like to talk...no, I don't want your Watchtower. But have a great day!". I don't think I like the idea of contacting the church if you need to. But in my experience not engaging in dialogue and not taking the stuff is enough.
post #5 of 199
Thread Starter 
That's the exact book they left here yesterday! It's winter here, so it's going on the fire today.

Ringing the church is a good idea. Thanks for that.
post #6 of 199
We live 6 houses down from the JW house. When we first moved in and the came to visit (unannounced of course) dh was in the living room putting on his boxers because I was folding laundry. They haven't been back in almost 8 years.
post #7 of 199
I either don't answer the door or if I feel like it open it and nicely say I'm not interested, thank you and close the door. I do the same thing with the LDS boys that come. I'm not rude, but I'm not interested and honestly don't feel like standing there discussing religion with them. Sometimes a No Religious Solicitors sign has helped, sometimes they ignore that.
post #8 of 199
I tell them thank you, but I am a committed Catholic. They look at me like I am Satan incarnate and walk away quickly.
post #9 of 199
Not exaclty polite, but my FIL is notorious around the neighborhood for screaming obscenities in Italian at the JWs. They haven't been back since
post #10 of 199
We are Catholic and have been known to answer the door with Rosaries in our hands.
post #11 of 199
We too have been harassed by weekly visits from JW's and LDS . We made it clear that they are wasting their time (DH and I are both Baptist) .

Somehow no matter what it never stopped them - so we finally put a sign up that read "No Soliciting of ANY KIND".

If they still knocked on the door after that I would point to the sign and say "I don't feel that I could possibly have an intelligent conversation with someone who can't read" and then I would close the door. I know that sounds harsh but that was only after a last resort of telling them week after week that we were not interested.

By the way -- it did the trick ---- they all stopped knocking cause they didn't want to talk to me -- the rude lady
post #12 of 199
All I say is "im disfellowshipped" and they usually turn around and leave without another word.

Possibly the only benefit of being officially "out"
post #13 of 199
Tell them your an apostate and you have a lot of things you would like to tell them about their religion. You will never hear from them again.

Or, if you want to debate with them, read up on effective techniques here.

If you want to be polite, ask them to please put you on their "do not call list".
post #14 of 199
I'm the world's worst at saying no and as a result was dealing with weekly visits for awhile. These ended the day our miniature poodle found the box of condoms under the bed, dragged out a whole strip, and rushed in to greet the visitors ... still bearing a mouthful of condoms. I was momentarily mortified -- until I realized they were even more embarrassed and eager to get away. (The dog was WELL rewarded afterward.)

Then, there was the former co-worker who (after about six months of monthly Saturday morning visits and polite requests to be removed from their call list) answered the door in the nude. He lived in that same apartment for 3 1/2 more years without another visit ... though I'm not sure the poor women who were calling on him that morning would have dubbed his approach "polite."
post #15 of 199
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Originally Posted by vickjul View Post
They quit coming to our house the day our miniature poodle found the box of condoms under the bed, dragged out a strip, and rushed in to greet the visitors ... still bearing a mouthful of condoms. I was momentarily mortified -- until I realized they were even more embarrassed and eager to get away. (The dog was WELL rewarded afterward.)

Then, there was the former co-worker who (after about six months of monthly Saturday morning visits and polite requests to be removed from their call list) answered the door in the nude with a loud "What the **** do YOU want?!?" He lived in that same apartment for 3 1/2 more years without another visit.
post #16 of 199


Some of these are not exactly polite. But funny.

We actually don't mind missionary visits from any church. Dh *loves* a good debate. However, once they realized dh was very firmly rooted in his faith and knows his Bible through and through, they stopped asking to come in. They still occasionally leave material in the door, but they only knock when his car is gone.

If he spots their car parked on our street, he goes out to chat with them and says "So, remember that Bible verse you were talking about? I wanted to discuss it more with you...." and their desire to get away from him becomes more and more apparent in their faces the longer he stands there. I feel sorry for them.
post #17 of 199
My next door neighbors are very nice people. Very nice. So I'm afraid if I tell them what I really think of them coming by to talk about their faith with me every other weekend, they'd be rather upset. I've been thinking of putting up really obnoxious pagan symbols and wordage, though, to possibly get the point across that I am just. not. interested.

I really do love talking to them about gardening and our community. It's just when they are in witnessing mode that I want nothing to do with them.
post #18 of 199
I *may* have discovered a way to deal with mine. The first time they came I was too shy/polite/wishywashy to stand up for myself, so I meekly allowed myself to be handed some literature and read a bit of Psalms on how the earth will never be moved, hence (apparently) the Apocalypse will never in fact occur. I did venture a feeble objection at this point, but the woman was incredibly old and frail and tiny, so when she said 'No, that's all metaphorical' I felt it would be like kicking a kitten to push the issue further.

But the next time she showed up, I was in No Mood because my Catholic mother-in-law was about to show up, and I didn't think I could handle a JW-Catholic-Reformed Baptist threeway without ushering in a little personal neighborhood Apocalypse. So I listened in a vaguely agitated way while she exposited a bit more Bible at me, until she said something about free will.

Me (thinking 'Smokering, are you a man or a mongoose?'): Ah. Actually I'm a Calvinist, I don't believe in free will.
She (puppy dog eyes): What?
Me (thinking 'Great, now she's going to fall and break her hip just to make me feel bad'): I don't believe in free will, I'm a Calvinist
The other woman, a girl about my age and fortunately more robust-looking: Oh, what's that? I haven't heard of that.
Me (taking a deep breath): Really? Well, it's kind of the opposite of Arminianism. it's the Reformed position. You know, um, Calvinism as in John Calvin; total depravity, unconditional election, limited atonement, irresistable calling, perseverance of the saints--

They were scuttling down the drive just as MIL got out of the car, and I haven't seen them since.
post #19 of 199
They wanted to discuss bible interpretations with me, so I told them that this is an atheist household and we just wouldn't be interested, but I hoped that they had a wonderful day.

It seemed to work, they haven't been back.
post #20 of 199
Dh loves to discuss the Bible with them, and share his own witnessing successes {which in fact left one woman stuttering something about 'wow. you are what they talk about in class' whatever that means} but since he's not here I simply say 'look, I've got elementary schoolers arguing the merrits of the 155mm towed vs the MLRS self contained upstairs and I really don't have time for anything else. So unless you want to offer your input on modern American artillery and back it up against kids who live and breathe this stuff, I'm not interested." I've used it on the Mormons, the JWs, and the Kirby peeps and none of them have returned. Now if only our Schwanns door to door guy wasn't a retired Marine...
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