I guess I belong here now

[s_kristina]

Do the little things like not having help when getting 3 kids around for bed ever get easier to deal with? I am so scared and upset right now. My h has just moved out thread in TAO http://www.mothering.com/discussions...0#post11310510

[DaughterOfKali]

Yes, you'll get used to doing things on your own.

Are there any mom's groups where you are? Try doing an online search.

Being a part of my local mothers group has really helped me feel less alone.

Hugs to you, mama.

[firstwomantomars]

I've been separated for five months and that time has made a world of difference for the "little" things you make reference to. I set up routines that worked for the kids but also gave me time to myself and stuck to them, because I knew it would help in the long run. Sticking to them even when I am discouraged/tired/exhausted/ has helped tremendously! The kids are much more aware of my personal limits and time to myself now...

But I remember the first few days and weeks and how enormous the whole situation seemed to me! And I do still feel that way some times (like this is a HUGE catastrophic situation and I'm stuck in it) and then I remember that I am not stuck, I am more than ever free and master of my own choices and decisions.

First, I thought "how will I ever do this alone"? Then, "well, I got through the last minute/hour/day/week, and survived" Then I felt very empowered to know I COULD do it (although I was/am still crushed at times). Now it's just normal daily life unless I happen to be in one of those days where I notice other "two-parent" families more and I feel sorry for myself...but not for long.

Life is too much fun when you are aware that you can decide and choose what you make of it to waste it on thoughts like those!!!!!!!

It will get better!!!