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post #1 of 54
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but I'm dying to know from women who have had kids...

DH is, well, not exactly what you'd call well endowed. Which is not at all a problem for me, our sex life is great. But I wonder if that would change if I gave birth. Then I think that maybe if that's my biggest worry then I shouldn't be thinking about having a kid anyway.

But is it even true? Or a myth? Will my vagina be different?

I am SO blushing as I type this. I can't ask anyone IRL because I really don't want to have a discussion about the size of DH's penis.
post #2 of 54
Awww, wouldn't worry. Everything pretty much "sprang back" to normal for me.
post #3 of 54
It took a while, but things went back to normal fairly quickly for me. Just Kegel kegel kegel.
post #4 of 54
I have noticed a change in my vulva, not vagina.
I have scar tissue now from a tear, and it's a bit sensitive at times. Other than that, there is not much difference in our sex life.
post #5 of 54
my vagina went back to normal ASAP.
My belly is what got all stretched out!
post #6 of 54
I'm thinking that things are actually tighter now.. my kids are 7 yrs, 3.5 yrs and 3 months :

why worry..?..
post #7 of 54
You'll be ok. Like a PP, I have a scar from an episiotomy & tear (hospital births and I do not mix!) and it can be sensitive occasionally, even though it's been 8 yrs, but other than that things are pretty much normal. After my most recent birth, though, I have had some minor issues w/ prolapsed organs. Not terribly bad, thankfully, but enough that it is slightly noticeable from time to time. The baby is 6 mos old.
post #8 of 54
We didn't DTD again until probably 3 or 4 months PP. And I'll be honest, it was like losing my virginity all over again. Of course, I was kind of tense and terrified it would hurt, so that probably didn't help. (I had very minor tearing of the inner labia) But, I wouldn't worry about it. It's the same as it was before, muscle tone wise.
post #9 of 54
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Originally Posted by vegemamato View Post
I'm thinking that things are actually tighter now..
Umm, that's what my DP said about my...y'know. And he's in a similar size class to your DP. Our DD is 17 mos. Things are super here!
post #10 of 54
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Originally Posted by OakBerry View Post
I have noticed a change in my vulva, not vagina.
I have scar tissue now from a tear, and it's a bit sensitive at times. Other than that, there is not much difference in our sex life.
: Our vaginas are amazingly elastic!
post #11 of 54
My ex-husband, who is the father of my child is larger than the man I am with now. I am more satisfied with my sex life than ever before in my life. The body bounces back. Keep in mind that the most important sex organ in your body is between your ears.
post #12 of 54
I have to say I feel no difference from before and after and my dh is also not well endowed.

Like a pp said the first time after each kid it was like loosing my viginity all over again.

I just asked dh and he said there was a slight difference between tightness is just slight. He has no problem with it The looks though now that is like night and day. :
post #13 of 54
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Originally Posted by frontierpsych View Post
my vagina went back to normal ASAP.
My belly is what got all stretched out!
Mmhmmm.
post #14 of 54
Yep. No complaints here
post #15 of 54
I wished my DH were smaller cause it really hurt after (all four times).
post #16 of 54
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Originally Posted by Kabes View Post
I wished my DH were smaller cause it really hurt after
:

I had a c/s with DS so no babies have passed through there yet - but my friend has had two vaginal births and she said her stuff was *tighter* afterwards.
post #17 of 54
<---also wishes her DH was a little smaller!!

DH says I was noticably tighter after having a baby.
post #18 of 54
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Originally Posted by frontierpsych View Post
my vagina went back to normal ASAP.
My belly is what got all stretched out!
Yep. And somehow my butt never went back to normal.

I didn't notice any difference before or after (or after or after or after - four kids, you know!)
post #19 of 54
I do feel 'looser'. A change in position helps though so we just have a new favorite position...

The thing about it hurting, etc. is a different issue for me. It took about a year to be totally comfortable while having sex again.
post #20 of 54
I feel a smidge looser side-to-side (not all around or front to back, just side-to-side, and that's lessened over the months), but sex is just fine.

I wish guys would figure out that bigger is not always better!
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