Does anyone else Hate telling people?

[annanicole]

I Hate telling people that I'm pregnant. My husband ans I had a really rough time with our first pregnancy and thought we wouldn't have anymore kids. But we started talking about it and bam we're pregnant. Where we didn't plan it, it's a blessing and a joy none the less.

Well everyone we tell with the exception of a few, are all snarky like oh....we didn't think you were having any more, and stupid things like that. And wow not 1 but 2 surprise pregnancies.

Then we have to explain and it's just annoying. why can't people just say "Oh wow that's awesome, Congratulations."

so anyways, I hate telling people I'm pregnant. I just want to be pregnant and have fun with it. Anyone else?

[Austin'smom]

Me!!! I really hate having to tell. I was 20 when I found out I was pregant with my DS. Granted, I was married and had already graduated university and owned a home. But, it still wasn't looked upon favorably. Now I am remarried to the most wonderful man every and we just got a positive yesterday. We are super excited, but we've agreed to keep it to ourselves for a week or so. I'm scared that it won't be taken well again even if I am older, a wonderful mom and in a more stable marriage. Silly I know!!!!

[andbabymakes4]

I hate telling! I have thought of just not telling and letting people think what they want. I wonder how long till they realize?

[leerypolyp]

I hate telling, but I'm not sure why. I just kind of wish I could refrain from mentioning it for a few more months. Except, you know, to the WHOLE INTERNET.

Mister Husband is hot to share the news, though, so shared it has been. It makes me uneasy to accept congratulations.

[lovely rita]

I always feel sheepish telling. I don't know why-- it just feels like such a weird kind of attention on something that still feels really personal this early. I almost feel embarrassed, I don't know.

[RunnerMommy]

I feel the same too! Well, I was excited to tell dh, but everyone else is a little awkward for some reason or another. Its fun to tell my parents but at the same time I feel like when we tell them they are imagining us doing the deed. . Silly I know, but I just feel that way. And friends who've been trying or had losses is tough. And more random friends is just kind of weird. I have trouble bringing it up in conversation naturally. 'Oh, yes, by the way, I'm pregnant'. hehe. So this time I'm not telling anyone except our mw, all of you and dh until at least 12 wks.

[kalirush]

I'm that way. Mostly it just seems sort of private, I think. Besides, when I tell people, they seem to have all these expectations about how you're supposed to feel. "Oh, you must be so EXCITED!" etc...

It took me months into my first (planned, mind you) pregnancy to get over just feeling sort of freaked out and overwhelmed and move into feeling excited. I thought it was because it was my first, but I feel the same way now. Maybe I'm just weird... all the other women I know who are pregnant on purpose are jumping up and down at a BFP. It's not that I'm not positive and happy about it, I'm just also nervous and worried and unsure.

[andbabymakes4]

Originally Posted by RunnerMommy

Its fun to tell my parents but at the same time I feel like when we tell them they are imagining us doing the deed. . Silly I know, but I just feel that way.

i feel like this too! Especially with my first pregnancy, I thought that as I waddled around everyone "knew" I had had sex now and this time around I feel almost the same. Last time, especially the end of my pregnancy I felt like people were thinking "she got what she deserved" (cause I was so swollen and miserable). heheheheh I never think about stuff like that when I see pregnant women but I think people are thinking that about me. I'm strange, I know.

[jr'smom]

I love telling my family, but I'm worried about telling my patients. They'll say "congratulations" and be happy for ME, but I know most of them will be thinking how much it sucks for THEM that I'll take a couple months off.

I've already told my office staff, and while they are happy for me, I know they too dread the time I'll be gone. (One of the ladies who has been through this with me twice before must also be dreading how sick and foggy-headed I get during pregnancy! )

[riaketty]

I'm putting off the moment I have to tell my parents or DH's parents. My mom will be snarky and "I told you so!" type thing. My dad will be happy but worried.

I don't know what DH's parents will be like... we're young, we wern't married when I got pg the first time, and now it's 'unexpected'... I'm scared they're going to think the worst, or else go "oh, again?" and i'll be crushed.

My older brother already berates me for not vaxing, etc... I'm scared he'll do the same with this baby. It's nerve-wracking.

[Minerva0302]

I'm really dreading telling most of my friends. None of the other couples that me and my SO spend time with have children yet. Same with my girlfriends. I don't think most will be especially supportive.

My sister and mother are the only ones who already know and they've been great so far. I know my partner's parents/family will be thrilled, however, which makes me feel a little better. We're not going to tell them until I'm a little farther along.

As far as nonfamily goes- I think we're going to hold off for as long as possible!

[annanicole]

cool, I was thinking it was just me for awhile.

about the awkward kind of attention, nothing like shouting Hey we had sex and as a result there's a baby in my belly!!!

LOL

[Bloomingstar]

Originally Posted by kalirush

It took me months into my first (planned, mind you) pregnancy to get over just feeling sort of freaked out and overwhelmed and move into feeling excited. I thought it was because it was my first, but I feel the same way now. Maybe I'm just weird... all the other women I know who are pregnant on purpose are jumping up and down at a BFP. It's not that I'm not positive and happy about it, I'm just also nervous and worried and unsure.

I don't think you're weird at all! This is my first, and planned, and I still feel like "oh my god what did I just do?!!" hahaha. I think it takes time to sink in--my sister claims that's the real reason we get 9 months. I am really wishing I could just go along not saying anything and people will just notice a belly one day and I will escape making announcements to the more random folks--the belly will announce itself. sigh.

[quietserena]

I figure when I've got a big belly and a stranger says something about being pregnant I'm going to get all teary eyed and say: "Can't a girl gain a little weight without people JUDGING her?"

[Prism]

Serena that's hilarious!


I too hate the 'congratulations'.
Since this was completely unplanned and unexpected,
I feel like 'what am I being congratulated for? I didn't do anything!
well.....I mean, I did, but I didn't mean to!

[homeschoolingmama]

I got a horrible response from my MIL. She was pretty upset. I am not sure why. She thinks 4 is a family She even started attacking our homeschooling choices. Whenever we tell someone their eyes bug out of their faces. Oh we get all the comments. Gosh forbid we have FIVE children!!

[kalirush]

Originally Posted by homeschoolingmama

I got a horrible response from my MIL. She was pretty upset. I am not sure why. She thinks 4 is a family She even started attacking our homeschooling choices. Whenever we tell someone their eyes bug out of their faces. Oh we get all the comments. Gosh forbid we have FIVE children!!

I'm from a family of five! I loved it. My mom got her tubes tied after the fifth one, by the way, and her MIL was really mad about *that*.

Why do other people think our reproductive choices involve them in some way?