So we decided we wanted another child when my son was almost 1 and had 4 miscarriages in a row. We stopped trying for almost 2 years at that point because we were both at the point where the chance of another miscarriage was too painful to bring about. I got an IUD at that time and had it removed in April 2007. After 8-9 months of TTC with no results we decided it was not in the cards and that we were geninely happy with our son being an our only child for a long while longer (since I am only 27, my husband 28 we felt we had a lot of time to change our minds 3-5 years later). Well, we ended up pregnant by surprize (obviously, or I would not be here). While we are happy and know that we will make it work, I am a bit nervous about having kids 5 and 1/2 years apart. If you have a large age gap with some of your kids, could you please share the positives and negatives to the arrangement as you see it. I suppose 1 plus is that our son is in school for part of each day, giving us time to just focus on the baby's needs. Another is that our son is old enough to know what is going on and is really excited (in a way a 2 year old can't be). Mostly I am concerned that the age gap will mean they can't be close and make sharing a room harder (which they have to do from the time the baby leaves our room at age 2 or so until my older son is 10 or so because that is the earliest we will buy another house.) I don't have issues with kids sharing rooms but I wonder if it will be hard for a 3 year old and a 9 year old to share? Thoughts?
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5/27/08 at 10:56am