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post #21 of 35
6/9/08 at 3:41pm
Every single person in the cafe at the Flamingo Hilton in Las Vegas.

Stupid me didn't print out or even study the BF'ing law before I left.

So while we sat with our large family (and my mom -- the lactivist) everyone in there stared at us. Not stared like "what an adorable family, and how well behaved the children are! All four of them!" but like we were on a reality TV show and they were going to vote whether or not we sucked as parents. : Yes of course I am assuming, but I'm telling ya, that was the vibe. Or maybe it was "what the hell are all those kids doing in a Vegas Strip Hotel?" Actually we're here for the pool -- thanks.

I was SO UNCOMFORTABLE with all the staring I left the table to latch. I couldn't find a comfy place to do it in the menzzanine (sp?) area to latch so I ended up walking all the way to the bathroom -- the smell was hideous. Never again I say.

I recently did read the law and am not concerned. Hey NV even has a nipple clause in their law! But wow, that was a first for me.

Good thread
post #22 of 35
6/10/08 at 3:19am
I have no issues nursing in front of anyone LOL. I do pretty much whip my boob out everywhere and I actually don't really care if anyone sees or is uncomfortable, which makes me mean. It does help that out of my extended family of siblings and cousins I am the only one who was formula fed (Mom had to work full time, I had severe food intolerances and she had no support or experiance as I was the first). My family thinks I am providing an important educational service to my younger siblings and cousins. Now if I had someone leer at me often I think I would try to not nurse in front of them though. Thats just creepy.
post #23 of 35
6/10/08 at 4:27am
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Originally Posted by lerlerler View Post
I've basically nursed in front of everyone...

but my 12 year old nephew? I am very self concious about coverage
Ditto.

I am okay nursing in front of anyone else though.
post #24 of 35
6/10/08 at 8:40am
My old Board of Directors. I worked at a non-profit for the first six months of my son's life and I had been there for 3.5 years prior. They had an emergency meeting and I usually had childcare during the monthly meetings since I take minutes and more. I couldn't that day, so I was nursing him in the meeting. No one cared at all and that made me feel better.

I'm on the Board now and expecting in August. I already told them I plan to come to meetings unless someone is uncomfortable with a nursing baby. All of them said they're fine with it. Surprisingly most of them either nursed or their wife nursed their children for some period of time and think it's a beautiful thing.
post #25 of 35
6/10/08 at 11:48am
i prefer nursing privately most of the time. i don't mind in front of my mom or MIL , sister or dp...or my best friends...but other than that i usually would rather be alone. my son is at that toddler stage where he needs quiet to nurse anyway.
post #26 of 35
6/10/08 at 11:55am
Nah, I have no problem nursing in front of anyone.

Just wanted to mention I'm also a successful BFAR mom
post #27 of 35
6/10/08 at 1:16pm
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Originally Posted by bellymama View Post
i prefer nursing privately most of the time. i don't mind in front of my mom or MIL , sister or dp...or my best friends...but other than that i usually would rather be alone. my son is at that toddler stage where he needs quiet to nurse anyway.
Ditto, only without the toddler part. (Well, my son IS a toddler now, but he's no longer nursing; I EPed until he turned 1.)

When he was very tiny and still nursing, though, I was VERY uncomfortable nursing in front of others, except my mom, my DH, and my best friend. There were a couple of other places, like LLL meetings and my moms-and-babies yoga class, where I didn't mind, either.

I have VERY large breasts, and when he was still nursing, he was at the point where he needed a lot of help latching on. He popped off frequently, too. I never did find a way to manage things without flashing the whole room! (He stopped nursing altogether at 2 1/2 months, for reasons I never quite figured out, which is when I started EPing.)

With the next baby, I plan on using a cover, at least until he/she can latch on without a lot of help from Mom I think if I had tried one with my DS, I would have been more comfortable nursing in public, and it wouldn't have turned into such a stressful experience for me -- and, thus, DS.
post #28 of 35
6/10/08 at 2:38pm
Thread Starter 
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Originally Posted by Mommy2Haley View Post
Nah, I have no problem nursing in front of anyone.

Just wanted to mention I'm also a successful BFAR mom
post #29 of 35
6/10/08 at 2:47pm
not nursing yet, but I can imagine the only thing that would make me uncomfortable nursing around someone is if THEY made it uncomfortable. Like if someone stared directly at my breast the whole time or just seemed unable to make eye contact... that might make it awkward for me! Other than that I can't imagine being too uncomfortable NIP, it's just internalized pretty well since I'm around it enough.
post #30 of 35
6/10/08 at 3:59pm
Nope, no one makes me uncomfortable. My whole family has seen my birthing video, showing my yeti yoni and everything so showing a little boob doesn't bother me in the least.
post #31 of 35
6/10/08 at 4:24pm
With my first, I would get uncomfortable whipping it out at the rec center play room and places like that in front of all the other little ones. I am VERY large chested, and always have to have a hand on the breast, and in general I just show more than most women. It's usually pretty darn obvious what I'm doing - even now with 4 1/2 years experience. Anyway, the children would inevitably stare and ask questions, and I wasn't sure how to handle it. I was terrified that one of their parents would be angry with me. But with a little practice and more confidence I learned to answer their questions and be ok with it. It's actually pretty sweet how interested most little kids are in what babies do. It's a good feeling too knowing that now they know what breasts are for. I just dread the day some random parent accuses me of inappropriate conduct because, heaven forbid, I told their child that my breast makes milk and my baby drinks it when they were still feeding them lines about bottles and storks.
post #32 of 35
6/10/08 at 10:54pm
it was my sfil...creepy dude with friends who smack my ass NO JOKE.

I thought I would NEVER bf in front of him. He refers to it as "being on the tit." and it's not cute, the way he says it.

but then E was hungry and all my reservations flew out the window. i still made sure to cover carefully, but the baby took first consideration.

(i like that it happened like that. )
post #33 of 35
6/11/08 at 4:09am
I will not nurse in front of anyone in the So Cal adult volleyball community. I am persona non grata in this circle anyway, and refuse to give them reasons to give me more sh*t.

Very difficult situation to explain in detail. Stupid, really. But that's that.
post #34 of 35
6/11/08 at 9:25am
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Originally Posted by mytwogirls View Post
I was uncomfortable nursing in front of my brother in law at first. He is the type who makes all the gross and disgusting bad mannered jokes and I thought FOR SURE he would make some comment to me about nursing since I was the FIRST ever woman in the family to nurse. But, he surprised me. He never made a comment so after about a month I got comfortable with him. Other than him, I have not been uncomfortable nursing in front of anyone.
I have the same thing. My ex-h's brother has made gross comments, so anytime I've had to breastfeed at their house, I always cover up. Also my nephew (actually my great-nephew but that makes me feel old) he's 18 but he was in a car wreck when he was 9 and he says very inappropriate things about breasts, so I always made sure that I covered up or went to another room. Of course, he can't help it, his brain was shook up in that wreck so we don't pay any attention to his comments. My ex-BIL though, knew better and it was just icky.
post #35 of 35
6/11/08 at 6:10pm
I've been uncomfortable a few times and before it happened I imagined I'd just go somewhere else but when it happened... the first time, I fixed an eagle eye on the guy and smiled. Made sure he wouldn't see what he was staring for and chuckled when he was disappointed.

The second time was recently. A guy we know who always, always stares at my chest. Why I don't get, I'm an A cup so not much to really see, lol. But he fixes on the nipple zone when I'm nursing dd and I just adjust to foil his plan of seeing nipple, keep nursing and watch him. Because I want to see him get frustrated and give up, I am evil like that. I'm just sick of it, it's stupid, it's gone on since ds was born five years ago. Get over it buddy, they are just nipples.
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