I must be extremely stupid, that stbx keeps finding new ways to shock me with his destructive behavior.
How can I prove that he is telling the kids lies? How do I get it to sink in to my lawyer that he's a manipulative liar? The kids have been 100% alienated from my mother now. He's got them telling her they hate her, that she called the police on him (true, because he threw her!), and that that's why he's not at home. The kids now tell Mom that she has to leave, which completely undermines me being a student, because he's trying to get rid of my free childcare. It's worse than it was last time I talked about this. Last time? He just "didn't like" Grandma. NOW? He DEMONSTRATED to a 6 and 4 year old that Grandma "choked him and he had a reason for giving her a tiny nudge because he dind't want to be choked and die." My mom has severely arthritic hands and needs another joint replacement, and can barely open a bottle of pop, but she tried to choke him?! SERIOUSLY?! Except the kids believe him. On what planet is it appropriate to say that to kids? And how easily is he going to snow the legal system? HE IS CRAZY! I'm serious. Since we split up, he has been intent on punishing my mother because he assumes she's the reason we're apart. Because it can't possibly be that he's an emotionally abusive, manipulative jerk!
I know this is mostly a rant, but it keeps getting worse. I thought telling the kids that Grandma called the police was the lowest, until they came back and said that she tried to choke him.
AND THEN! Yestrday, I get a call at school from my frantic mother, because she bumped into DD#1 when she lost her balance, and DD said she needed to use the cell phone right away because Daddy said to call him immediately if Grandma did anything to hurt her or DS or DD#2, because Daddy would call the police and have Grandma taken away. My mother is terrified, but none of us want to give in to his behavior.
I've been documenting. I have about 8 pages in Word, including his blog entries, saying that my mother is evil and denying his responsibility for the assault, as well as everything the kids say, but I'm SO SCARED it won't be enough.
Can I DEMAND a psych eval? My kids are really, really suffering. Their relationship with my mom before the separation was pretty good. Since then, they're downright evil to her and he IS the reason.
Help. I need encouragement and hope because I can't keep doing this.
How can I prove that he is telling the kids lies? How do I get it to sink in to my lawyer that he's a manipulative liar? The kids have been 100% alienated from my mother now. He's got them telling her they hate her, that she called the police on him (true, because he threw her!), and that that's why he's not at home. The kids now tell Mom that she has to leave, which completely undermines me being a student, because he's trying to get rid of my free childcare. It's worse than it was last time I talked about this. Last time? He just "didn't like" Grandma. NOW? He DEMONSTRATED to a 6 and 4 year old that Grandma "choked him and he had a reason for giving her a tiny nudge because he dind't want to be choked and die." My mom has severely arthritic hands and needs another joint replacement, and can barely open a bottle of pop, but she tried to choke him?! SERIOUSLY?! Except the kids believe him. On what planet is it appropriate to say that to kids? And how easily is he going to snow the legal system? HE IS CRAZY! I'm serious. Since we split up, he has been intent on punishing my mother because he assumes she's the reason we're apart. Because it can't possibly be that he's an emotionally abusive, manipulative jerk!
I know this is mostly a rant, but it keeps getting worse. I thought telling the kids that Grandma called the police was the lowest, until they came back and said that she tried to choke him.
AND THEN! Yestrday, I get a call at school from my frantic mother, because she bumped into DD#1 when she lost her balance, and DD said she needed to use the cell phone right away because Daddy said to call him immediately if Grandma did anything to hurt her or DS or DD#2, because Daddy would call the police and have Grandma taken away. My mother is terrified, but none of us want to give in to his behavior.
I've been documenting. I have about 8 pages in Word, including his blog entries, saying that my mother is evil and denying his responsibility for the assault, as well as everything the kids say, but I'm SO SCARED it won't be enough.
Can I DEMAND a psych eval? My kids are really, really suffering. Their relationship with my mom before the separation was pretty good. Since then, they're downright evil to her and he IS the reason.
Help. I need encouragement and hope because I can't keep doing this.
