feeling down

[gabbyquilts]

I dont know if this is the start of ppd or the baby blues or if this is normal. I feel blah. I think i am getting ok sleep, link is a fantastic sleeper compared to his brother.
This is what I am feeling : we spent more than a year preparing and growing this baby and now its all over. I worked daily to prepare for a perfect homebirth and it went fabulous, and now its over. I spent increasingly more and more time and intimate moments with my midwives and next week is our last appointment and they will move on to helping new people and our relationship will be over. Also, my due date was yesterday and since Link came on the 10th, I feel like I was cheated out of my last 17 days of pregnancy, of attention, of anticipation.

I am having a hard time moving forward, and looking forward. what the heck is wrong with me?
gabby

[Molck]

. I'm feeling a lot of the same thing. I saw a picture of myself pregnant the other day and totally broke down crying. I keep thinking of the relationship DH and I had, just the two of us, and mourning the loss of it, mourning the loss of my old free/active/mobile/independent self (I'm still so wiped out by the birthing, I forget I won't feel this way forever...).

On top of that, like you, I find myself wondering if what I'm feeling is normal or if it is the start of PPD, and that scares me. I don't have an answer for you, but I have lots of hugs... I hope we're all feeling better soon.

[Galatea]

When you are pg, you are special, and then it all stops. That can certainly make you feel down. I suppose if you cross over into really bad feelings/thoughts, that would be something to worry about, but I think these feelings are normal. You're going from super-high estrogen to low estrogen, and that can sap your good feelings and energy.

The way I look at it, life is all about constant change. Having kids shows you how even things that take a long time eventually change. The babies grow so fast, and things both drag and fly by.

To feel special again, try wearing your baby in a sling and going out. You will get lots of questions and admirers.

Maile, you will get your relationship back with your dh. Just wait a month or so, and make time together. Little babies really allow you to do a lot together. Rent videos, go out to eat, whatever, but do stuff together.

[bdoody11]

Originally Posted by Molck

. I'm feeling a lot of the same thing. I saw a picture of myself pregnant the other day and totally broke down crying. I keep thinking of the relationship DH and I had, just the two of us, and mourning the loss of it, mourning the loss of my old free/active/mobile/independent self (I'm still so wiped out by the birthing, I forget I won't feel this way forever...).

I'm not in your DDC, but I wanted to tell you that I felt the exact same way after my DD was born. I think mourning was a crucial part of my adjustment to being a mommy. Going from 0 to 1 child is so huge, take your time. I promise that it won't always feel this overwhelming and, oh, there will be a day when your love for your child will simply take your breath away and you really won't miss your old life. You'll think of it fondly, but you won't ache for it. This new life is far too rich.

Be easy with yourself.

[bugnbean]

That sounds like a totally normal feeling to me as well. I feel so amazingly sad that I'll no longer be seeing my midwife in the context of being pregnant. We've developed a lovely relationship and she was part of some of the most uplifting and intimate moments of my life. I think letting yourself mourn is very normal...even if you are amazingly happy all at the same time.

[Shanana]

s for both of you. I am feeling too overwhelmed trying to deal with the reflux issues to know if I'm feeling any of this (although I do know I will miss my midwife. we are friends socially too, but she lives a ways away and I won't see her very often). I wonder if those with "easier" babies are hit harder by this kind of stuff because you have more time to think about it. So I just wanted to offer s.

Originally Posted by bdoody11

I'm not in your DDC, but I wanted to tell you that I felt the exact same way after my DD was born. I think mourning was a crucial part of my adjustment to being a mommy. Going from 0 to 1 child is so huge, take your time. I promise that it won't always feel this overwhelming and, oh, there will be a day when your love for your child will simply take your breath away and you really won't miss your old life. You'll think of it fondly, but you won't miss it. This new life is far too rich.

Be easy with yourself.

: Molck, I think it can be a real shock to go from no kids to kids. It is a HUGE lifestyle change, and I think it's normal to feel rather overwhelmed by it all.

[kalisage]

I dont have any advice to offer, just lots of hugs

& Maile

[Intertwined]

It's normal, but that doesn't make it easier. Lots of good food, plenty of water, make sure you're getting a decent amount of sunshine and activity (walk around the block with the baby strapped on), and be gentle with yourself. Your hormones are trying to adjust right now, so supporting them with good nutrition is important.

You ARE special. You're someone's mom. You are keeping that tiny person fed, warm, and safe. And you might be the behind-the-scenes now, no longer taking the centerstage bow, but as any actress worth her salt will tell you it's the behind the scenes that makes the show run.

I'm not there now, but I have been in the past. You will feel better.

[battymama]

i am in this place too, i feel like i have gained this amazing beautiful girl, who i adore on the one hand, but on the other i miss my "belly buddy" i loved that little one too. It just doesnt seem to make sense in my heart that they are one and the same, its been hard giving up the name we called her then and moving to call her poppy, and calling her she rather than he like we had been. DH still calls her by her belly name, but i dont, to me they are like two differnt people.

And to make matters worse i feel really guilty about these feelings, i found out that one of my friends from high school lost her baby a few month ago at 6 weeks old i feel like o shouldnt feel sad about anything because of what she is going through. totally irational i know but the news has just really knocked me for six.