What name do you use for your daughters private parts? - Page 10

[leerypolyp]

Originally Posted by Sierra

Regarding Spiritual Midwifery and Ina May Gaskin, and other thoughts on the history of the words we use:

1. The book has to be read as a product of its time. ...


2. Remember how in the book Stephen was a major default authority? Well, that was happening in real life too, and it really rubbed my mom the wrong way...it felt sort of cult-y to her and also very, and ironically, patriarchal... .

1) Yes, excellent point and 2) I have a friend of a friend who grew up there, and that was basically what she said too.

Now, back to the vulvas!

[EXOLAX]

We have two girls. Our general term is vulva, but we do get specific and our girls know clitoris, urethra, vagina. They use anus accurately and bottom/butt/booty (learned from a friend) as well as gluteus maximus, minimus, sacro-illiac... (all learned from a song about butt's).

FWIW our girls have blirted it out in public. One of them fell as a toddler backward on a poll after a LLL meeting and screamed "I HURT MY ANUS". Our youngest was prone to running around naked, doing sumo squats, pointing with both hands and exclaiming 'Vulva!'. Our DD's have taught my MIL more about her own body then she knew.

I also bring it up in normal conversation. While I feel we are very conscious of not offending other people this is one are where I will not give. It is more important for me that our DD's have a healthy relationship with their bodies then it is to not offend someone. While doing normal daily activities I will ask them questions. At the grocery store for instance, I will ask them both to get a box of cereal and in the same breath ask them if anyone has ever touched their vulva. It may not be normal for most people, but I want it to be normal conversation in our house. DH talks about it too. And yea, he has a penis and testicles, and an anus .

Just tonight we had this conversation after bath with our just 4 y/o:
"Mom, what's this right here that tickles when I touch it?"
"That's your clitoris"
"OHhhhh! I always wondered where that was and now I know!"

I wish more people knew....

[guestmama9922]

admitting that i have not read all of the thread.

my daughter uses yoni, vulva and vagina.
my son uses willy/penis/balls/testicles.
there are times when it's appropriate to know the real names, and times when they can be less technical, iyswim.

i have recently run across a woman on a major UK parenting board (it's horrible, trust me) and she very happily told everyone that they called her daughters parts
'her tuppence'.
i thought she was joking as in the same sentence went on to say she told her kids that the storks brought babies,
but alas, she was serious.
:shudder:

i just could not believe that anyone would use money to refer to their private parts.
i was shouted off the board for saying so.

[amitymama]

Originally Posted by powpow

i have recently run across a woman on a major UK parenting board (it's horrible, trust me) and she very happily told everyone that they called her daughters parts
'her tuppence'.
i thought she was joking as in the same sentence went on to say she told her kids that the storks brought babies,
but alas, she was serious.
:shudder:

i just could not believe that anyone would use money to refer to their private parts.
i was shouted off the board for saying so.

Ugh, I have a pretty good idea which board you mean. It's horrid.