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post #41 of 184
Vagina. She's 6, she can learn the breakdown of it later when she's actually curious. My son knows he has his penis and his "skin" (ie. "pull your skin back when you pee" [he prefers it that way but he needs a reminder sometimes, we arent forcing of course]). Again, when he's older we'll get more specific.
post #42 of 184
We use the proper names; vulva, vagina, labia, clitoris, penis, scrotum & testicles – I am not a believer in giving our body parts silly and unnecessary nicknames

There is no need to be embarrassed – everybody has these body parts
post #43 of 184
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Originally Posted by Ann-Marita View Post
To me, saying vagina (the birth canal) when you really mean vulva (the visible, external female genitalia) is like saying "mouth" when you really mean "face".
That's an excellent comparison.
We use all kinds of terms. Mostly I refer to her vulva. But I've told her those are private parts just for her and people who need to help her keep them clean and healthy. My dd hears a lot of terminology. I was training as a midwife pre-babies, so I talk a lot to people of such things. I am also pregnant. So we talk about the baby in my belly and the baby in her belly. She told my family the other day that the baby was coming out of her vagina NOW. Not panicked just emphasized. My 5 1/2 year old niece asked my SIL what a vagina is. She was not happy. They use Tee-tee and we have adopted that because my dd said she likes it. It's like calling her toys her piggies or her abdomen her belly or even sometimes call her eyes peepers and such. I don't think it hurts to know little cutesy words that others use. I also think this could come in handy with a predator who may say something in slang terms.
post #44 of 184
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Vagina. She's 6, she can learn the breakdown of it later when she's actually curious. My son knows he has his penis and his "skin" (ie. "pull your skin back when you pee" [he prefers it that way but he needs a reminder sometimes, we arent forcing of course]). Again, when he's older we'll get more specific.
The foreskin? There's no need to pull back his foreskin during urination.
post #45 of 184
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Originally Posted by Storm Bride View Post
. . . I haven't really showed her where her clitoris is, because there's no reason for me to be touching it, and I can't figure out how to show her which part I'm talking about.. . .
When DD was in nighttime only diaps, she would lay on the bed so I could put her diaper on. She raised her bum, went spread eagle and NEVER failed to she would tell me to wait.

She would point to different parts, "what's that? what's that?" and I would tell her. Sometimes she wanted a mirror so she could see.

It made me feel uncomfortable because *I* am uncomfortable with my body. I don't want to pass on my body shame to them.

I'm glad I answered her questions instead of brushing her off. Last year she had a wicked bad UTI and the only reason we knew was she said "my 'rethra turns fire when i pee".
post #46 of 184
vagina works for me. but i don't have a dd. but i do use vagina when i talk about it with ds and we are talking about babies being born.
i also use yone (short for yoni) and vag (short for vagina) when discussing it with friends.
post #47 of 184
My DD is only 21 months. We say vulva. I may also teach her yoni when she gets older, more for a comfortable term to use with her friends as she hit puberty. I had never heard to term yoni until I a couple of years ago, and I was raised by an earth mother type, who taught me to say vagina. I definitely plan to teach her all of the parts of her genitals as it comes up.

Although I have identified her anus on many occasions, I generally say heiny. It's the term my mother used when I was little. I think it's cute. I talk about her cute little heiny. I tell her that she has poo poo on her heiny so I need to clean it off, etc. Yesterday her 3 year old cousin showed her how to strip one of her babies that happens to be an anatomically correct boy. She pointed to his little penis and said heiny I told her that it was actually his penis, which she repeated. We have identified daddy's penis before that. I'm trying to use vulva more often so that she doesn't just call the whole area heiny.
post #48 of 184
My son uses "wenis" which is his combo between weiner and penis. I sometimes joke and call it a wenis, but usually use penis.

He's asked about my parts, and I said vagina .. but this thread is making me realize that technically that's not correct.

I can't stand "fanny" "down there" etc they seriously creep me out. Why is it ok to say arm, or foot .. but we have to make up a silly name for vagina/vulva? To me it sends the message that those parts are embarassing or dirty. Not the message I want to send to my children.
post #49 of 184
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I can't stand "fanny" "yoni" etc they seriously creep me out. Why is it ok to say arm, or foot .. but we have to make up a silly name for vagina/vulva? To me it sends the message that those parts are embarassing or dirty. Not the message I want to send to my children.

Yoni is NOT a made up word. Sanskrit is NOT a silly, pretend language. Indeed, yoni is the only word that I can think of that actually honors body.

post #50 of 184
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I can't stand "fanny" "yoni" etc they seriously creep me out. Why is it ok to say arm, or foot .. but we have to make up a silly name for vagina/vulva? To me it sends the message that those parts are embarassing or dirty. Not the message I want to send to my children.
Yoni is NOT a made up word!!!

It's NOT a silly name!!!!!

That's really rude and disrespectful to a whole group of people.
post #51 of 184
Sorry guys, I edited. I had no idea the roots behind yoni, but a quick google fixed that.
post #52 of 184
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Sorry guys, I edited. I had no idea the roots behind yoni, but a quick google fixed that.
I'd buy that if 2 definitions hadn't already been posted up thread...
post #53 of 184
No, kessed, you are so right. Instead of a mistake, I'm really lying and knew the origin of yoni all along.

I do sincerely appoligize to anyone I offended, but I'm certainly not going to defend how much of this thread I read before posting.
post #54 of 184
I say "vulva" but my daughter has chosen to use the term "woman area".
post #55 of 184
The only reason the correct medical terminology comes across as crude is because people are too used to using pet names and nicknames for those body parts. Not teaching your child the correct terms only perpetuates the misconception that the proper names are something to be ashamed of, and why would you want your child feeling that way about any of their body parts?
post #56 of 184
Penis, scrotum/testicles, vulva here. I do not like silly names for genitalia. Nor do I find the proper terms cold or clinical. I find them empowering.

As for yoni, I know it is commonly used term but Sanskrit is not my native tongue and using the term does not feel right to me.

I'm also biased against it (and any other names that are not mainstream English terms) because I once had some horrible creepy hippy guy try to use it as a way of masking what I now recognize was an attempted sexual assault. Fortunately nothing harmful came of it, but his use of "yoni" in an attempt to disguise what he was doing has always stuck with me. Creep. :
post #57 of 184
I will continue with vagina. I don't see me needing to teach a 5 and 6 year old every single part of their "girly" area any time soon. Vagina is a catch all and I'm okay with that.
post #58 of 184
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I will continue with vagina. I don't see me needing to teach a 5 and 6 year old every single part of their "girly" area any time soon. Vagina is a catch all and I'm okay with that.
It's not a catch-call. It's a term for a very specific part. "Vulva" is the catch-all.

There aren't that many parts that they need to know. The stuff they can identify is pretty obvious..labia, vagina, urethra, clitoris.
post #59 of 184
Exactly, it ISN'T a catch-all. It's kind of like referring to the testicles as the "penis." If the difference between testes/scrotum and penis isn't too complicated for a boy, I don't see why vulva/vagina/clitoris is too hard for a girl.

My 2yo understands just fine what her vulva is, and vagina, even if she does insist on calling her clitoris a "wormy." I think it's sad that those terms would be considered "crude" by anyone.

We also use some slang terms -- just like we say "bellybutton" or "tummy" or "feeties." But the real words are used with ease and accuracy.
post #60 of 184
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Originally Posted by shukr View Post
'Tushie' might not be helpful, but most people are clear on what a 'Fanny' is.
Remember that this one differs greatly from UK to USA. In the US, it means "bottom." In the UK, not so much...
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