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post #41 of 96
Hello all.

We've been TTC our second since last August and each month it's getting harder and harder for me to just relax and think "it will happen when it's supposed to happen". I'm finding it especially hard as we weren't even trying when I got pregnant with my son, and in the past, I had an accidental pregnancy whilst on the contraceptive pill. I just don't understand why it's not happening now! The jealousy I feel towards women who had babies at around the same time I did, and now have had or are pregnant with more, is unbelievable, and I dislike it in myself so much.

This month we got really excited, as on day 30 of my cycle a pregnancy test produced a very faint positve result, which was repeated on day 31... but then during the afternoon of day 31, my period started. TTC was taking over my life so I've had to stop charting and to try and stop myself from counting the days, but having paid so much attention to my cycle for so many months, I know now when I'm about to ovulate, or am ovulating and can't stop focussing on it. I can't remember the last month I didn't use a pregnancy test towards the end of my cycle!

I want another baby so much. I don't feel it's time yet for us to seek medical help- I don't know if I'll ever want medical help to conceive, TBH- but I have started to look into other areas, such as crystal therapy, if only to help me relax about it all.

So, that's why I'm here. Good to meet you all
post #42 of 96
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Originally Posted by mamus View Post
Hello all.

We've been TTC our second since last August and each month it's getting harder and harder for me to just relax and think "it will happen when it's supposed to happen". I'm finding it especially hard as we weren't even trying when I got pregnant with my son, and in the past, I had an accidental pregnancy whilst on the contraceptive pill. I just don't understand why it's not happening now! The jealousy I feel towards women who had babies at around the same time I did, and now have had or are pregnant with more, is unbelievable, and I dislike it in myself so much.

This month we got really excited, as on day 30 of my cycle a pregnancy test produced a very faint positve result, which was repeated on day 31... but then during the afternoon of day 31, my period started. TTC was taking over my life so I've had to stop charting and to try and stop myself from counting the days, but having paid so much attention to my cycle for so many months, I know now when I'm about to ovulate, or am ovulating and can't stop focussing on it. I can't remember the last month I didn't use a pregnancy test towards the end of my cycle!

I want another baby so much. I don't feel it's time yet for us to seek medical help- I don't know if I'll ever want medical help to conceive, TBH- but I have started to look into other areas, such as crystal therapy, if only to help me relax about it all.

So, that's why I'm here. Good to meet you all
Hugs, mama. I could have written your post almost to the word. We've been TTC our 2nd since August as well. I hope your stay here is very short.
post #43 of 96


mamus ~



If you are seeing RE when did you make the jump from seeing a ob to moving onto seeing a RE?

July will be 1 yr of ttc #3 and 1 very early m/c. Dh has a phsysical appt on the 3rd and will bring up getting a SA done.

post #44 of 96

New to it all

Just wanted to say hello. So glad to know we aren't the only ones TTC even after we had our 1st w/o problems.
post #45 of 96
It's hard sometimes when you are hanging out with other moms, (which is hard to avoid when you have one child already) and you are with your one child and they are complaining about all the kids they have in tow, and that common remark "My husband just looks my way and I get pregnant!" That one always gets me.

~jo
post #46 of 96
Thread Starter 
My favourites are "so, are you planning to have more?" I say "well, we'd like to", "well are you trying?" I think, yay we hump ALL the time or yes, we're trying to get the money together for another IVF or mind your own bee's wax!!! But I hardly ever say those answers..
post #47 of 96
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Just wanted to say hello. So glad to know we aren't the only ones TTC even after we had our 1st w/o problems.
Hello right back and welcome!!!
post #48 of 96
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Originally Posted by kungfufugirl View Post
It's hard sometimes when you are hanging out with other moms, (which is hard to avoid when you have one child already) and you are with your one child and they are complaining about all the kids they have in tow, and that common remark "My husband just looks my way and I get pregnant!" That one always gets me.

~jo
Or the pregnant mom who says "We wanted another but we didn't think it would happen so soon"
:

Honestly though, any comment bothers me now. I am just starting to deal with this entire infertility issue and am very bitter. I am hoping that with some time and maybe some answers I can come to some peace and acceptance.
post #49 of 96
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Originally Posted by DustysSweety03 View Post


mamus ~



If you are seeing RE when did you make the jump from seeing a ob to moving onto seeing a RE?

July will be 1 yr of ttc #3 and 1 very early m/c. Dh has a phsysical appt on the 3rd and will bring up getting a SA done.

I had to see one from the beginning. I had no choice because of my fiancee's situation.
post #50 of 96
P.S. AF showed up on Thursday and I am so excited because this is the first mensus that I have had since I had my daughter in March of 07 because I was breastfeeding. She stopped breastfeeding as of 6/08 and AF came 6/17. I am going to start keeping track again. I can usually tell when I am ovulating. But the sad part is that I still have to wait to start trying until next year. I just want to cry thinking about it.
post #51 of 96
I saw the RE for the first time today.

Let me address how I made the jump. We have a 5 yo and have been trying for the last 2 years. After 6 good months of hitting the sweet spot of the month (over a 12 month period) I saw my OB-Gyn. She tested me and asked DH to get tested. My tests didn't look good. It took DH at least 6 months to find time for his test. Then I saw a nutritionist - took supplements for about 4 months - no luck. Thought about accupuncture. Thought about becoming OK with 1 kid - now 5. Thought I was OK with one kid but still tried. Went to DD's pre-school graduation and broke down in tears at all the moms with babies and pregnant bellies. Decided I was not really OK with having just one kid and called the names of 2 RE's I had collected. One got me in today and we liked him. The other appointment is in August - we may still go to it.

We will try Intrauterine Insemination (IUI) - the turkey baster thing in about a month when I ovulate again. Now that we saw him it's happening pretty fast, but hey, we've no time to lose!
post #52 of 96
Hi everyone, what a great thread!

I was dx with insulin resistant PCOS, then a blocked tube (after having a lap done).
DH and I have been blessed with a spirited 9 year old ds. We had no problem getting pg with ds, it happend the first month we tried. Then 6 years ago we started to TTC. None of my Dr's ever helped me folllow up and DH and I after 2 yrs of trying thought well it's not meant to be, our ds will be our only.
I could never get rid of the feeling that I was not done. I always felt like something was missing, I was missing my 2nd child.
My Dh is in the military and gone a lot so timing is always an issue. On top of that I have not O'd in many years. Again I had no idea. I had countless trips to the ER for bursting cyst's. And many many visits to the Dr for never having AF...grrrrrr Nobody could ever put all the pieces of my puzz;e together.
Until 2 years ago, I finally had a Dr who looked at all of my issues, and dx me with PCOS!
This year I finally had an OB who would help! I went in for a Lap, and found out my right tube is blocked and my left tube was only a trickle. I was put on clomid, did nothing for me. I then was referred to an amazing RE. I was so worried with my tubal issues, that IVF would be our only choice. I was so relieved to hear him tell me I was not a candidate for IVF, and only for IUI if DH was not available at cycle time. I was put back on metformin(couldn't stand it, and was never told why I needed it), I need to lose some weight which is going great for me; nothing like wanting another baby to get me to put the cookies down
I go in for an HSG next month, then will cycle in August, with letrozole, and an HCG trigger.

Well that's my story,
post #53 of 96
This is our 11th cycle of TTC #2. Ds will turn 3 in October and is nursing 3-4 times a day. Would an OB or RE even consider working with us ttc while nursing? or would they push for weaning first? I've been having pretty regular cycles for about 8-9 months now. Timing may not have been spot on every time, but I'm starting to get worried that there might be something *wrong*.

Futher thoughts anyone?

Thanks!

Laura
post #54 of 96
Ryan'sMom - It's really going to depend on your RE or OB. Some will say they can't do anything until you wean while others may be willing to do testing and such. As I was told by a lactation consultant, "unfortunately, it is possible, but not likely, that you would have to wean in order to conceive." Some women here have decided to wean and others have taken a medical route before weaning. Both are really tough personal decisions.
post #55 of 96
Julia'sMom- Thanks for the response! I think I have decided to go in for my annual exam with my OB and just casually bring up the subject of our difficulty of ttc#2 see where the conversation leads us. Nothing wrong with just talking, right? I just might not like what he has to say.


Another question For those of you who have had some testing done, have you had to pay out of pocket or will some insurance companies cover it? Just curious.

Thanks!

Laura
post #56 of 96
I guess I'll join, as I'm feeling really miserable at this point.

We've been TTC for four years now. We've also spent two years in the adoption process, met a darling little boy in Russia, and were expecting a court date any day now. I just got a call from our agency, and his mother has turned up, out of the blue (after her new mother-in-law got a "friendly" anonymous phone call) and is probably going to take him back. Great for him, really, the best outcome, but I feel like I've wasted two whole years. And my daughter doesn't get the brother we've been getting ready for all summer. Life sucks, just now.

Now, I'm trying to decide whether to get back on the fertility-medicine roller coaster (we never did get really serious about it), or just suck it up, deal, and keep on with the adoption stuff. Maybe both? At least with the adoption, it was easier to let go that month-to-month anticipation/depression cycle.
post #57 of 96
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Originally Posted by ryan'smom View Post
Julia'sMom- Thanks for the response! I think I have decided to go in for my annual exam with my OB and just casually bring up the subject of our difficulty of ttc#2 see where the conversation leads us. Nothing wrong with just talking, right? I just might not like what he has to say.
Definitely worth asking! There are some less invasive things they can check (blood tests, semen analysis) that can sometimes offer some answers. good luck to you!!

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I guess I'll join, as I'm feeling really miserable at this point.

We've been TTC for four years now. We've also spent two years in the adoption process, met a darling little boy in Russia, and were expecting a court date any day now. I just got a call from our agency, and his mother has turned up, out of the blue (after her new mother-in-law got a "friendly" anonymous phone call) and is probably going to take him back. Great for him, really, the best outcome, but I feel like I've wasted two whole years. And my daughter doesn't get the brother we've been getting ready for all summer. Life sucks, just now.

Now, I'm trying to decide whether to get back on the fertility-medicine roller coaster (we never did get really serious about it), or just suck it up, deal, and keep on with the adoption stuff. Maybe both? At least with the adoption, it was easier to let go that month-to-month anticipation/depression cycle.
It sounds like a real rollercoaster for you. You are welcome here and I hope things get easier for you, I know the "right" answer is hard to figure out. take care.
post #58 of 96
Hi, I am new here, glad to have found this thread. We have been trying to conceive living child #4 since Nov 2005. I have had 4 losses since then. The hardest being 10/07 at 16 weeks. I miss my daughter every day and dream of what life would have been like with her.

We went to a RE in May and started clomid last month. My lining was too think so this month, I took less clomid and my lining is normal for this cycle. I took a trigger shot of Ovadrill tonight so I should ovulate in the next 36 hours. I am praying that this works.

Take care all!
Jen
post #59 of 96
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Originally Posted by momoftworedheads View Post
Hi, I am new here, glad to have found this thread. We have been trying to conceive living child #4 since Nov 2005. I have had 4 losses since then. The hardest being 10/07 at 16 weeks. I miss my daughter every day and dream of what life would have been like with her.

We went to a RE in May and started clomid last month. My lining was too think so this month, I took less clomid and my lining is normal for this cycle. I took a trigger shot of Ovadrill tonight so I should ovulate in the next 36 hours. I am praying that this works.

Take care all!
Jen
Jen I am so sorry for your loss.

Prayers and thoughts for a great O, and great eggs!!!
post #60 of 96
Had a mini meltdown after my u/s today that shows what might be a large follicle or a cyst... not sure. Was telling DH about it and he says "@ least we have one child already". That is supposed to make it all better?? IF I cn't ever get preg again... she will be more than plenty and I will be happy. But I gotta be able to tell myself I tried.... I have always dreamed of having 3 children... will be ecstatic w/ 2 @ this point. Just a crappy day...
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