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post #1 of 61
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Is there anything that you have done as a teenager that you would never repeat now as an adult?
post #2 of 61
Is this a trick question? LOL

Yea, theres a lot.
post #3 of 61
I was very shy as a teen - never dated, didn't go to parties. I can remember the exact moment all my friends were going out after the 8th grade semiformal and I just wanted to go home.

I don't know if I would change it and go to parties and date if I had it to do over...
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Is this a trick question? LOL

Yea, theres a lot.
: spill it out.. no trick, just curiousity!
post #5 of 61
No, not really. For one thing, I was a "good teen" and for another, I don't regret or feel bad about the "bad" things I did. They were all good experiences for me.
post #6 of 61
Uhm, "borrowing" my mom's car before I had a license. That went less than spectacularly. I only got caught because I came out of a lighted parking garage at night and didn't notice that the lack of headlights. Rats.

Oh, and I would have been differently selective as far as sex partners goes. My priorities were not in good places.

Otherwise I didn't drink, smoke, do drugs, and I had good grades (when I went to school).
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Originally Posted by fek&fuzz View Post
I was very shy as a teen - never dated, didn't go to parties. I can remember the exact moment all my friends were going out after the 8th grade semiformal and I just wanted to go home.

I don't know if I would change it and go to parties and date if I had it to do over...
That was me.
post #8 of 61
I skipped school, smoked a lot, purposely alienated myself from my peers, got poor grades even though I was plenty smart enough to do the work and never asked the guy I was madly in love with if he wanted to go out.
post #9 of 61
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Originally Posted by fek&fuzz View Post
I was very shy as a teen - never dated, didn't go to parties.
I don't know if I would change it and go to parties and date if I had it to do over...
Yeah that!
I don't regret it. I started dating at 17 with my DH and um that's all.
post #10 of 61
ummm... everything?



luckily I turned out okay in spite of myself. It's nice to be able to say that. my brother was the same way. He's 19 now and starting to grow up. Gives me the confidence to help moms of teens when they worry about their kids' futures because of the way they act at 14, 15... I'm just like "It's oooookaaaay, breathe! breathe!" lol!
post #11 of 61
I prefer not to think about it. LOL
I was a very dark child. Anxious, depressed, socially apprehensive, and worrying about things a child has no business trying to carry.

About age 16 I became a bit more socially confident and rebelled a bit, met dh, fell madly in love and got married just shy of my 18th bday. Would I do anything different.

Other than not living with my mom and step-dad, no. A lot of my problems were related to my home life.

I cut a lot of classes (excused by my mom to care for her and I had serious eating and anxiety issues) So other than could those times have been the "best" years of my life...I wouldn't change anything other than how I suffered those years, but that was formative and has made me the empathetic, insightful person that I am now and have been able to help a lot of kids because of it and we are still happily married and I hate to think if I did something differently (like go to a dif. school for college or postpone marriage) that I wouldn't have the family I love having so much today.
post #12 of 61
Oh dear g*d! I did so many stupid and illegal things as a teen. I was also a private school (good) student, accomplished athlete, great family girl from a fabulous family, wonderful friends, etc. I had/have a really GOOD life. Yet...I still did the whole teen rebellion thing and it's a miracle, quite frankly, that I escaped unscathed. I only got arrested once and it was when I was still 17 so I got SOOO lucky. That was my wakeup call for sure and I never did anything illegal again. I was just being a crazy teen rebel - I had no need or interest to alter the course of my life. Sometimes I can hardly believe the things I did...I guess it really is true that teen brains are not fully developed.
post #13 of 61
Spill it
!!
LOL

well, I stole a LOT of stuff, got admitted into a pshy hospital for cutting myself, drove the car to town when I was 12 years old, had sex a lot, lied about 10000 times to my parents, smoked, drank, dated a 29 year old man when i was 17...whew thats enough.
post #14 of 61
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Originally Posted by Transitions View Post
Spill it
!!
LOL

well, I stole a LOT of stuff, got admitted into a pshy hospital for cutting myself, drove the car to town when I was 12 years old, had sex a lot, lied about 10000 times to my parents, smoked, drank, dated a 29 year old man when i was 17...whew thats enough.
Well, I'm scard to spill it because my user name and siggy are too identifiable to other Seattleites and others from my profession are on MDC Don't want to mar my professional image. LOL!
post #15 of 61
I was mostly a bookworm and reader.
post #16 of 61
Well, I generally feel that we learn from all that we do, but there are many things I look back on and think "Ahhh man, I had no clue..."

I wouldn't have given in to the idea that I HAD to date/hook up/have relationships so young just because "everyone else does' or "that's what teenagers are supposed to do".

I wouldn't have put up with so much BS from people or so called "friends".

I wouldn't have stayed in school as long as I did

I wish I could have enjoyed my relationship with my mom more when I was that age.
post #17 of 61
I dated an alocholic that was 7 years older than me. I focused more time/energy on him than my education. I left him after 4 years instead of continuing to be miserable or making the situation worse by bringing children into the relationship.

I drank, ditched school, didn't try hard in my classes, didn't get along with my parents, ran away from home. I was a mess. I really hope my kids are different.
post #18 of 61
oh boy. i had my son when i was 17, and though a lot of idiotic behavior led to that happening, i wouldn't change it for the world.
post #19 of 61
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Is there anything that you have done as a teenager that you would never repeat now as an adult?
Too much to remember. And too bad to recount on the internet.
post #20 of 61
I would have done better in school. And maybe put myself in foster care.
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