*UPDATE* another question about moms and visiting ... - Page 2

[pokeyrin]

[QUOTE=prothyraia;11388849]How on earth is it a punishment?

Sometimes our decisions make other people unhappy; that doesn't mean that we're trying to punish them. It's incredibly self-centered to assume that just because someone is doing something that makes you sad, they are out to get you.

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[zak]

We babymooned without interruption and visitors for a week with DS1. It was soooo nice. With DS2, MIL/FIL were travelling through (we don't live near any fam) when he was a day or so old, so they stopped in for 45 minutes (brought lunch, started laundry for us, just looked at the baby). Then we had various friends bring meals buy, very short visits (under 30 minutes, more like drop the food and run). It was also very nice.

My mom wanted to come up and see DS1 right away (at the time we were 4 horus away), but she waited like we asked and came when he was 1 week old. With DS2 she couldn't get off from work anyway and didn't see him until he was 5 months old. :/

BabyMoon how YOU like!!!!!! You only get to do it once (well, per child!)!

[superfastreader]

Here's an email I sent to my parents & my MIL--we love them & have good relationships but they are all high maintenance in their own way. Thankfully they respect our wishes. We ended up letting my parens drive up 8 days postpartum, the day after Thanksgiving.

I can't believe it's already July! I figured it might be a good time
to throw some stuff out there re: showers, visiting us after the baby,
and the holiday.

Right after the baby is born, I think we will want to have some time
where it is just the 3 of us before John has to go back to dealing
with work, probably the first 10 days to 2 weeks. I know you guys
will be anxious to meet the baby, so we promise not to let it drag out
too long

Since the baby is due on 11/16, our plan for Thanksgiving is to make
no plan. It's likely to fall during the time when we are being alone
as a family, or I will be in labor or overdue and miserable. We just
think that the easiest thing for us is to opt out this year, to save
us stress and anxiety during what will be a crazy time.

Christmas--we will celebrate Christmas here, since it will still be
very soon after the birth. Family is more than welcome to join us!!
Teeny tiny reindeer hats and Christmas garb for Baby F are
optional, of course! Neil should start growing his Santa beard now

Hope this helps you figure out travel plans--

[luckymamato2]

Originally Posted by 1972momma

Update up top, ladies, thanks for bearing with me!

I posted on the other thread, but yes we did make our moms wait. I think they were disappointed that they couldn't come right away, but they respected our wishes that we wanted a week alone with our new family member.

I think for any future births, we will have to instate some other kind of system since we only live 30 miles away now. I think we'd probably ask for a few days alone, then 1 hour visits in small groups if they call first to schedule. I'd hate for several people to show up at the same time, or even on the same day.

So sorry she is pouting and playing the victim.