Where are you hoping to birth this baby? - Page 2

[Thursday Girl]

Originally Posted by jasonswife06

I want a homebirth but dh is freaked out about that idea. So I am searching for a nurse-midwife in our area or a decent birthing center. How far is too far to drive?

well with the price of gas, I find myself very limited. i found a birthing center/HB midwife I would love to look into, but it's over an hour drive.

[RunnerMommy]

I'm really really really hoping for an HBAC. I have my first appt. with my midwife in two weeks. Can't wait!!

[Nillarilla]

I'm really hoping for an HBAC with the midwife I had last time. We will see I have to call tommorow and see if I can get into her. There are 2 others in town but one I will not see as I have heard too many horror stories.

[midnightmommy]

We're looking at a hospital birth with a midwife. We really wanted a home birth, but I can't convince myself that we can find the money for it. Not to mention if we did get the money together than it would be a strain on our finances. We'll probably hire a doula though. That way we have someone there during labor to fight with the nurses, and help keep me going. I'm not sure if it's the same everywhere, but here the midwifes are just like doctors in that they are only there for the birth when it's in the hospital.

[PaigeAnThem]

Originally Posted by jasonswife06

I want a homebirth but dh is freaked out about that idea. So I am searching for a nurse-midwife in our area or a decent birthing center. How far is too far to drive?

That's what I'm wondering, too. I can't find a birthing center closer than and hour and a half away (but it's at The Farm, so it still might be worth the drive). I was interested in homebirth but haven't found any midwifes who are willing to do one.

My last birth was with a hospital midwife and I'm not entirely pleased with how it went down. I think they did what they could to keep it natural, but I still feel like I got hit with that intervention waterfall that ended in a c-section. My current plans are to go with them again, but I'm still looking around. I'm just anxious to go back to the same setting that I was in last time. I'm afraid it will make me nervous and unsure of myself again.

[Kimmiepie]

My plan is also a homebirth with midwife. This will be our first one.

[mamamillet]

I can't find a birthing center closer than and hour and a half away (but it's at The Farm, so it still might be worth the drive)

Paige-I am guessing you are in TN--whereabouts? I am in knoxville.

[Kelly1216]

Hi all! I'm planning a hospital birth, with my ob who I love!
Although, the hospital is 30 minutes away in good weather, so who knows what will happen in Feb. if it's a blizzard here in Michigan! My dh said homebirth if the weather's too bad! UC'ing is a little scary to me, but I'll do some research just to be prepared!

[midnightmommy]

Gosh I hadn't really thought about blizzards. I was up in Cadillac in Feb this year. Got stuck in a pretty major blizzard. I live in an area just outside the city of GR our streets are the last to be plowed. I may need to get some emergency supplies as well. My last labor from start to finish was nine hours. My transition was about two hours. I was planning on having back up stuff just in case anyways, but now I'll take it more seriously.

[AKislandgirl]

I would love to do a homebirth but we don't have any midwives in our little island community. I'll be at the hospital with my OB who did natural childbirth herself. She is great (I used to nanny for her) so I'm comfortable with this. I'm interested in having a doula if I can get one here.

[CityChic]

I would really love to have a homebirth. However, my DH is not comfortable with that so we have a midwife that works at a birthing center. It is a happy medium I suppose.

[bzmum]

This time around I hope to do a VBAC at the hospital with my wonderful midwife. With my first, I went with a planned home birth, however certain circumstances brought be to the hospital after 5 hours of pushing. I had a c-section and a healthy baby, yay! Our hospital just did a full maternity addition with private, single stay rooms. I sooooo hope I can do this naturally because I don't want to deal with the recovery from surgery with a newborn and toddler. Good luck to all the moms planning a home birth...its an awesome and comforting experience!

[firefly mama]

Well, my first was born in water in her bedroom (at home), and my second was born in water in the living room (at home), so I'm thinking perhaps this one will be in water in the kitchen?

Even though I'm a doula and attend lots of hospital births, a hospital birth wouldn't feel right for my pregnancies. For my first two I had an extremely experienced midwife who happens to live 6 blocks away. Right now she has an apprentice who is a good friend of mine, so I'm thinking of offering she could use me as her first primary birth (under the supervision of the experienced midwife). I'm also interested in starting an apprenticeship in the future, so I'll probably manage much of my own care (with their supervision).

[Everrgreen]

We want to have a homebirth with a midwife. And I would love to give birth in water.

I'm going to call the midwife today!

[aprilsfools]

We are having a homebirth with a MW. We switched around 25 weeks from a hospital birth with a CNMW and doula.

I was feeling more and more nervous about the birth with the CNMW as the pregnancy progressed. All the ones I had seen in the practice were not much different IMO than OBs, the hospital had a very high epi and c-section rate (despite the practice of 17 MW), and the homelike rooms we saw on the tour didn't seem so homelike to me. A birthing center is not an option because I was not willing to travel all the way across the city during rush hour. The car ride is one of my biggest fears.

However, I never really considered a HB because I never thought DH would be on board.

Randomly, I rented The Business of Being Born on night and right after seeing it DH turned to me and said, if you want a homebirth I am totally on board with that. Before that I had read him a ton of information about natural birth in general, and during the film he kept saying, OMG, I am so glad you have been doing your research.

Meeting with our MW cinched it for him. It was the first time he had ever been asked how he was doing during the pregnancy, felt about the birth, etc. and he had been to EVERY apt. with the CNMW. We have both commented in the past couple of months at how much better our care is since we switched.

So, give your DH a chance. Present him with the information. Show him the BOBB, ask that he at least meet with a HB MW for you (my friend did this with her DH and that is what did it for him).

GL!

[PaigeAnThem]

Originally Posted by mamamillet

Paige-I am guessing you are in TN--whereabouts? I am in knoxville.

Hey! I'm in Nashville. I moved back here from Knoxville while I was pregnant with my first so I could be near my mom.

[SuperB]

We are planning on a home-birth with a midwife. Possibly a water birth. There is also a birth center about 30 minutes away if for some reason we can't do a home-birth.

[mamabens]

I want a homebirth with a midwife but I'm not positive we can swing it so what we've discussed is go ahead & get an ob loacally & go there up until birth, but 'accidentally' have the baby at home. We're only thinking that because insurance will cover it & we're really low on funds like most people right now. I am discussing witht he midwife though to see if we can work something out. Wihs me luck. My first 2 were hospital births & I was not very informed so I did waht the dr wanted. Not this time.

[my_baby_love]

Originally Posted by merebella

When my parents asked what doctor I'm going to I told them that I'd be seeing a midwife at such and such place. My dad replied, "Oh, good. So what doctor will you see." He didn't get that the midwife does the whole deal... I think I'll be doing a lot of explaining!

LOL! My dad said the exact same thing when I was pregnant with DS. He never was 100% on-board with the homebirth/midwife thing, but at least he eventually stopped asking about my doctor!

We are planning a homebirth, just like with DS. We had a good experience, and I couldn't imagine doing it any other way. We are trying to move, though, so I don't think I can use the same midwife as with DS . I will probably at least start care with her, though, because I really, really like her. I have another midwife all picked out in our new location, though, so if we move I should be all set!

[tulipmama]

I'm planning to have a hospital birth with a CNM--he's actually a male midwife! I was dubious, but all my LLL friends love him, and his office is literally 4 blocks from my house, so I met with him last week-- he's so great! We're definitely on the same page about the birth. He meets you at your house when you go into labor and you decide together when it's time to go to the hospital. Then he stays with you the entire time you're in labor so the nurses don't harass you about an IV,epi, etc. He has 3 children who were born by homebirth, but he only offers hospital births because we have an unfriendly local attitude toward homebirths and he is not the "underground" type. I was pretty eeked out about seeing a male midwife (kind of misses the whole point, eh?) but he is way more understanding about the birth I am seeking than my female OB I had for my first birth (before switching to a CNM) was!