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post #41 of 90
Ooh, I've got some prime deals:

One 6 year old: brilliant, sensitive, cantankerous. Great memory, you'll never need to write another list. Comes with own library and Polly Pockets (also dready, but with shoes). Requires 500 books a day for optimal functioning. Really, really touchy, but extremely loving.

One almost 4 year old: brilliant, charismatic, domineering. Budding ballerina, darling of dance teachers everywhere. Comes with own dance gear and pink hair dye. Very snugly and endearing. Possible future supreme dictator.

Order now and I'll throw in a couple of geriatic pugs...
post #42 of 90
We could all do an unschooling kid exchange. Mine needs to be a little older, able to sleep without me, etc, but in another year or two we can have exchange unstudents.
post #43 of 90
LMAO at "Exchange Unstuents"
:

actually, I really like the idea of doing student exchanges with other unschooling families around the world, when the kids are in their teens
post #44 of 90
Cool idea! Exchange unstudent!

I was thinking about this about a week ago -- how it would be nice to have an unschooling teenager come live with us.

But - we would need more space first.
post #45 of 90
Hey, Pia!!!!! DH is going out of the country (back to Prague) on business on Wed so I will give you a call I've missed our talks so much!!!!

Here, we are busy still with Pokemon tournaments, swimming, having friends over, playing around with languages, reading, watching movies, playing games...same old, same old. And it's glorious!
post #46 of 90
Now I want to start an unschooling family exchange program. The kids could meet others like them and the mamas/dads could just relax and talk...

Anyone wanna see Alaska?
post #47 of 90
Oooo, I would love to send dd to Alaska!!

An unstudent exchange is a very awesome idea! I love it!
post #48 of 90
i wanna see alaska! but i think i dont really want to feel it. too cold!
post #49 of 90
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Originally Posted by majikfaerie View Post
we're back!
China was great, we had a blast. Soooo many things happened, and of course the rainbow gathering.
now we're back in thailand, and preparing for another homebirth with a really lovely couple who are hosting us in their home.

we had a funny pizza dinner tonight that turned into a lesson in political structures - somehow it became a race to see who could eat the most pizza, and then our friend had the idea to invite DD into a 'coalition' with him, so they could win. but of course, then the rest of us joined into another coalition which resulted in way more 'votes' (pizza). it was pretty funny.

anyways, i'm not going to spend ages writing out our whole month of adventures in china and thailand, but there is some stuff on my blog if anyones interested.
DD was thrilled to get the postcard!! We went to the library and took out a few books about China and Thailand. When we got there I asked DD, "was it Thailand or Taiwan" and in exasperated tone of someone who has ACTUALLY heard of those places (which she hasn't) she said, "Thailand!"

Anyway off to check out your blog
Thanks for remembering us on your big trip!
post #50 of 90
Bedhead and majikfaerie, come on up! It's not cold in the summer time. Today it looks like we're living in faerie land. Our house is tiny, but the hostel across the street is great. The mountains are beckoning...
post #51 of 90
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Originally Posted by KaraBoo View Post
Hey, Pia!!!!! DH is going out of the country (back to Prague) on business on Wed so I will give you a call I've missed our talks so much!!!!
Cool, Kara!

We have been busy watching Indiana Jones today. At the cinema and at home. Fun! We have two more to see -- the next few days.

After the movie we went for a Mexican burrito, and ds was telling dh about all this stuff about things he knew about in the movie and in general. I was just listening and observing...and I just sat there...kind of in awe. My *baby* is such a big boy, he knows sooooo much! And he is so passionate about his knowledge, so interested. I could cry tears of joy. Every day I see proof that he doesn´t need any school!!!!

I love unschooling! Just thought I´d remind you.
post #52 of 90
OK I have a question.

What do you say to other moms/dads who send their kids to school when they rant at you about things that are wrong with the teachers/school system? Do you use it as an opportunity to talk about unschooling? If so, how do you do it without coming across as judging their decision to send their kid to school?

I guess I'm thinking about this from my own perspective too. Before I knew what unschooling was, I would have been very receptive to info about it if presented in the right way. but what is the right way? Is there a right way?

Or do you just keep your mouth shut and let them rant? I'm in a somewhat awkward position as 16 yo ds is still in school, and most people assume dd is too, so they assume I'll commiserate. When we mention 'unschooling' and explain a bit about it, people look at us like we just grew a second head most of the time.
post #53 of 90
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Originally Posted by BedHead View Post
OK I have a question.

What do you say to other moms/dads who send their kids to school when they rant at you about things that are wrong with the teachers/school system? Do you use it as an opportunity to talk about unschooling? If so, how do you do it without coming across as judging their decision to send their kid to school?

I guess I'm thinking about this from my own perspective too. Before I knew what unschooling was, I would have been very receptive to info about it if presented in the right way. but what is the right way? Is there a right way?

Or do you just keep your mouth shut and let them rant? I'm in a somewhat awkward position as 16 yo ds is still in school, and most people assume dd is too, so they assume I'll commiserate. When we mention 'unschooling' and explain a bit about it, people look at us like we just grew a second head most of the time.

I used to use it as an opportunity. But, then I realized that I really don't like it when I complain about something and they use the opportunity to tell me how great (insert whatever 'mainstream' thing here) is, or tell me that I just shouldn't be doing what I'm doing. Like if I complain about waking up to my 7yo's feet in my face, I don't want to hear 'Oh, he should be in his own bed anyway.' Ya know what I mean? I think it totally depends on the situation though. I don't mind a friendly discussion about different methods and just sharing different experiences but I think it's easy to cross a line too.
post #54 of 90
hipumpkins, so glad you got the card! I sent a few to various folk, you're the first confirmation we got

bedhead, it definitely depends on the person and the situation and the complaint. oftentimes it's best to just respectfully listen and let them rant.

then next time you see the person, drop a few hints about how great unschooling is
post #55 of 90
We'd be up for Alaska when we are a little older and richer. Dh visited relatives there when he was a teenager and would love going back.

Re: People complaining about school/teachers, I just tend to shake my head sympathetically and say I'm glad I don't have to deal with that (not in a smug way). Most people just want to vent and get some sympathy. They'll ask if they want more info about homeschooling since they know we do it.

Ds has done a little more letter writing, actually he is drawing the letters rather than writing them, the way beginning writers do. I bought a couple Calvin and Hobbes books for myself as a birthday present since I think it's nice to get things I can share with ds. He was thrilled.

It's so nice he could wait until he was interested in writing rather than spending the past 3 school years (pre-k, k, and 1st) being "encouraged".

It's dh's day off and he took ds to tour a beer factory.

I'd better get off line and take advantage of my free time and get some of our flaking lead paint recoated.
post #56 of 90
Thread Starter 
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Originally Posted by BedHead View Post
OK I have a question.

What do you say to other moms/dads who send their kids to school when they rant at you about things that are wrong with the teachers/school system? Do you use it as an opportunity to talk about unschooling? If so, how do you do it without coming across as judging their decision to send their kid to school?

I guess I'm thinking about this from my own perspective too. Before I knew what unschooling was, I would have been very receptive to info about it if presented in the right way. but what is the right way? Is there a right way?

Or do you just keep your mouth shut and let them rant? I'm in a somewhat awkward position as 16 yo ds is still in school, and most people assume dd is too, so they assume I'll commiserate. When we mention 'unschooling' and explain a bit about it, people look at us like we just grew a second head most of the time.

I never let people assume we go to school. (Ok, one time I didn't clarify with an elderly gentleman with dementia stuffs who wouldn't have understood at all, and it would have only further upset/confused him so we just let it be.) I have no trouble saying we didn't care for the school thing so we left it behind. I try not to get preachy about it though. I try to use language that reinforces the fact that unschooling was the decision our family made, not that I think every single family has to do it.

People get really defensive sometimes. I guess it's just unavoidable. It's also not my problem LOL!
post #57 of 90
Thread Starter 
Phew my family has been a bit busy lately! Lots of stuff.. good and not so good happening for us. I guess that's life.

We have an old fam friend coming to stay with us for awhile so we are getting the garage ready for her. We planted some peas. The solstice is almost here and then we have a camping trip! Now if the warm weather would really show up that would be nice.
post #58 of 90
I'm going to remember the advice to never let people assume we go to school. It's kinda hard, though, since ds DOES go to school and dd doesn't! How to explain why one does and one doesn't?? I guess just that it was the right thing for her and not for him. Then they ask why and that's where I stumble. I would have unschooled ds if I'd discovered it before he went to school, but since he's adhd and he only has one year of high school left, I figured it would be better for him to stay in. He has come such a hugely long way, and many mainstream things work really well for him. It's so hard to explain to someone who doesn't even think outside of mainstream ideas, and for me too since I didn't think outside the mainstream until a couple of years ago myself. I will get the hang of it though! Unschooling is so awesome for dd that once she'd been doing it for a while longer and people can see how awesome she's doing and how happy she is, they'll get it.

We're really looking forward to summer solstice this year for the first time. Dd wants to 'do some stuff around the fire' so she's been researching that on line - it will be interesting to see what she comes up with! We'll be camping with my parents on Friday night, and they're strict Lutherans - we're technically Lutheran as well, although not very good practitioners, and we've been investigating some pagan practices which would probably give my parents a conniption. Dd seems to want to invent her own, which I think is cool.
post #59 of 90
FINALLY. Dd sent me a pic of her hair. This one is obviously touched up a bit, the hair color is fairly accurate, although it's a bit pinker than this shows.

http://i292.photobucket.com/albums/m...cture004-1.jpg
post #60 of 90
bedhead - your dd's hair looks really cute

we went to a weekly meeting of Phuket expat housewives, which was fun, we sat around eating cake while the children played. DD was really happy to have some kids to play with. but honestly, all the other mamas were talking about what bleach they use to get their whites white, and having botox shots and spraying incecticides in the garden (so the children won't risk seeing any bugs while playing! : )
hmmmm...

and we're planning for 3 days in sydney on the way home - i'd like to have more time, coz i'm dreaming of all the mega cool stuff we could do - the science museum, the aquarium, local unschooling groups....
decisions decisions
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