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Ladies, thank you! I'm feeling more optimistic today, just piecing life back together. I have an appt with my reg doc, I'm hoping there may be some herbal concoction she has up her sleeve to get me thru this part. I really do appreciate your prayers & thoughts
post #22 of 147
skullcap and motherwort are good for postpartum anxiety.
post #23 of 147
kara. glad you're having a better day, and i hope you find something that works for you, med or not. i've dealt with anxiety in the past, and sometimes just having the meds on hand can help, even if you don't take them. you're going through so much right now, the anxiety/panic is understandable; you'll be in my thoughts.
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we really have nothing to complain about, but whether it's just the very hard PG (and delivery) or being older (or both) we are in agony with newborn sleep here.

we've started using sposies at night (so we don't have to change the freakin diaper once an hour at least) and even got a paci to use during his worst period. : I'm sure my crunchier friends will tar and feather me.
The lack of sleep is killing me! Sophie is a pretty good sleeper, but the gas makes her so freakin' squirmy! Even in the co-sleeper she keeps me awake because I can hear her thrashing around in there. But no tarring and feathering here. You do what you gotta do.

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Started EC from the start and have caught a few poops and lots of pees (and missed lots too ). It's exciting.
Sophie seemed to go through a growth spurt at 2 weeks too. I remember her nursing constantly. Way to go on the EC! I am feeling too overwhelmed at the moment, and also the logistics intimidate me. May I ask your technique? Are you going bare bottom? Prefold/loincloth? Split pants? etc. It's the whole removing the clothes and diaper that literally get in the way for me. Yeah. I'm lazy. How was your first day with dh gone?

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Mmmmmm my baby still smells new despite being 2 weeks old.

I'm tempted to introduce a bottle soon but we're still working on nursing. He's latching much better but still "clicks" a fair bit - any tips? Guess I should go ask in the bf'ing forum about that. And he has a hard time finding the nip on his own so until those two issues are resolved, and he's gaining a LOT of weight each week, the bottles will stay in the cupboard.
Sophie just smells like spit up . I'm also thinking of introducing the bottle soon (she'll be 5 wks on Th). When you say "clicks", can you elaborate? Sophie sometimes breaks her latch while sucking, but then re-seals right away. Is that what you mean? It bugs me (not physically, though) but doesn't seem to bother her. I've just assumed it's a positioning thing.

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Z moved out today, and is planning to move the rest of his things on tues. I feel so confused, and have been crying non-stop for about 3 days now. I look at Mac and just start balling because I can't understand any of this. I'm trying desperately not to lose it, I need to be strong for Mac, my other children and myself - but man, it's super hard.

It wasn't this hard to be a single parent before.

Ladies, please (whatever your beliefs may be) pray for us. We really could use some goodness right now.

I don't really have a huge support network, and I needed to just tell someone and get out of my own head. This should be the happiest time right now, and I feel like I'm losing that
nak I'm so so sorry Kara . I didn't realize this was happening . Sending lots of light your way .

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We're just hanging out, waiting for my mom to get here on Wednesday. Being home alone with all 6 kids isn't too bad until about 4pm and then I'm tired and cranky. We went to the zoo with everyone yesterday and that was fun! We had to arrange transportation and the hardest part was installing FIVE car seats. I can't wait until we buy our new, bigger, van this summer.
about the blow-out up to the hairline!!As for managing SIX kids under the age of 7, 2 of whom are newborn twins? All I have to say is this:

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Battymama - I know what you mean about the crying!

I don't remember it bothering me this much with DS1 either because it's normal for babies to cry. But Everett? Well somehow I figure since he hasn't been traumatized since birth because of having a UC etc. then he shouldn't ever have to cry
DH keeps trying to calm me down and remind me that it's okay for a baby to cry a little but honestly, it just upsets me SO much!
: I figured w/ a great birth and my team of healers, we would be golden, but such is not the case . In actuality, things aren't too awful, it's just not what I was expecting. Digestive stuff is still our main issue. The reflux is still improving, but the gas is out of control. Sigh.

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Hi everyone. I keep meaning to post but time is short! Post Partum has been a bit tough. I'm feeling good but we're having a few problems. I'm having trouble with Gage's latch and have bleeding nipples since Thursday. Now I also have cracks. It hurts like hell to say the least. Since he's either sleeping or nursing, they aren't getting a chance to heal.

Poor Gage is not a happy baby. As I mentioned he's either sleeping or nursing. Anything in between involves constant screaming. He's never awake and content. It makes me so sad. The worst is night time, he just cries and cries. DH has slept with him on his chest for the last couple of nights, it's the only way we get sleep.

My 2 year old has a bad cold. On top of a difficult adjustment for him, he's sick.

My incision was bleeding so I went to the doctor this morning. She said something about a blood clot underneath ? and had to open it back up. Thankfully it's not infected but she had to clean it out (only the last couple of inches) and pack it. I'm on antibiotics and have to go back again tomorrow to have it all done again. She said we should know by now how often I'll have to do it, if it's a lot they'll get me home health care.

DH told me I'm doing too much and I admit I have been. I've been feeling so good so I'm doing a lot. Not because I have to, my mom and Jim are doing it all, but because I want to. I'm up and down the stairs a lot, but DH has said enough. He was going to go back to work Wednesday but he's taking at least another few days. He doesn't want me overdoing it.

I'm still in good spirits, I get my down moments but I have so much support here at home that it helps a lot.

Hopefully now that I'm going to be resting more I'll have more computer time and can catch up. Unfortunately I have to go. Gage has his first appointment today and we're taking Holden to check his cough.
My goodness Amy, your plate is full. Lots of s for you and healing vibes for your incision, your poor nipples and your 2yo.

We are doing okay. I need more sleep. We have a second NAET appt on Wednesday to treat Sophie for sensitivities to foods in my diet. Problem is, the foods must be present in my milk in order for them to treat her, so I've been instructed to load up on a ton of different foods tomorrow (in the 24 hrs leading to the appt). I'm nervous as all get out. So scared that tomorrow and tomorrow night will be awful. But who knows? It seems like my diet change has helped her, but she still has episodes, so I can't be certain. Maybe she will surprise me and be okay. If not, I sure hope the NAET works, or we're in for a few miserable days. Cross your fingers for us.

At her appt with the holistic ped last week (right at 4 wks) she was 10 lb 10 oz and 22" long (up from 8 lb 4 oz and 20 3/4 at birth). So she's growing away, despite the fact that it seems like she spits up half the milk she drinks .
post #25 of 147
Kara, I'm glad you're feeling better today. Anxiety can be so hard to deal with, especially on top of other stress. I hope that you are able to find a treatment that brings you relief. Skullcap is helping me keep most of the panicky feelings away.

Amy, I'm glad that you've been feeling so well after surgery, but I do hope you are able to slow down and rest a lot. I hope your incision and nipples heal well, and that little Holden is feeling better soon.

Shana, how has your back been feeling? I hope your pain has left.

We are doing pretty well here. I'm rather annoyed with my body as af returned Friday, exactly 6 weeks pp. I should have figured--she was awol for the 11 months we tried (well, wanted) to conceive before going to fertility meds, so it stands to reason that she'd show up when I want her to stay away. Bah.

Samuel is up to 7.5 pounds now and has filled out a lot. He looks bigger to me every day! I just wish he would sleep a bit without being held. He will not sleep for more than an hour in the co-sleeper, and I just can't sleep when he is in bed with me; it provokes my anxiety. It doesn't help that his heavy sleep period is during the day and he sleeps much more lightly at night. I'd love to reverse that!
post #26 of 147
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Way to go on the EC! I am feeling too overwhelmed at the moment, and also the logistics intimidate me. May I ask your technique? Are you going bare bottom? Prefold/loincloth? Split pants? etc. It's the whole removing the clothes and diaper that literally get in the way for me. Yeah. I'm lazy. How was your first day with dh gone?
I'm taking it super easy. His only clothes are a t-shirt and a prefold with a snappie, but, yeah, getting the diaper off is the intimidating part to me too. I'm getting better at predicting when he's going to poop, so those are the ones I try to catch. If I'm up to it, I'll take off his diaper and hold him in the newborn EC position and sing him his pooping song (Nora Jones-- Come Away With Me, for some reason. Hopefully I'm not setting him up for some very embarrassing prom moment ) or make the grunting sound. If I'm not up to it, I'll keep the diaper on and go through the same routine then change his diaper right after.

For pees, he's likes to wait until the diaper is off to go anyway, so I just take it off for a change (so he's already wet and then wets again) and make the psssstt sound while he pees onto another prefold (or a hemp nursing pad that is waaay too itchy to serve its intended purpose).

It's a slow process, but we're learning together. I think holding him in the EC position over the sink/toilet/bowl with the diaper on was a great first step for us.

First day with DH gone went well, and today's been even better. Thank you for asking . Luckily, DH works 5 minutes from home, so he came home for lunch and is going to do so all week. Oop, looks like he wants to eat. Haven't mastered nak, so I'd better go!
post #27 of 147
My sweet Kierah is six weeks and two days! Time is flying. Makes me kind of sad... She weighed 11 lbs, 2 oz on Sunday when I weighed her! She's up 6 pounds!!! She is such a butterball! I love her fat, lil' leg rolls. My first dd was a long, skinny lil' thing. Kierah's gas issues aren't as bad since I doubled up on her probiotic. I've noticed she has more bowel movements now also. She seems a lot more content in the mornings. She still grunts, but usually it's b/c she's hungry or wet. Her yeast rash is slowly, but surely going away. I am really hating my diet. It's so boring! I've been really strict with myself, and have barely cheated at all. I know there are worse diets with more food restrictions, so I shouldn't complain! I do miss milk, cheese, sugar, and breads though! I am enjoying all the steak! YUM!

Shanana ~ Hugs! Sweet Sophie deserves a break and so do you!

Kara ~ Hang in there, sweetie! I'm sorry you are going through such a rough time!

Gotta get dinner ready while my little pudgy princess sleeps!
post #28 of 147
Today was a bad day. The twins? Oh no, they're angels. It's my OTHER children who are making me want to tear my hair out. Izzy dragged Claire out of her swing in the 60 seconds I was gone from the room checking on dinner, Noah left the yard and went into the alley behind our house (and is now grounded from playing outside until we move in July--more a punishment for me than him), Gabe got ticked at Hannah and threw a block at her face, hit her mouth, and gashed her lip open.....AND it's the two week growth spurt.

AHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH

There, I feel better!
post #29 of 147
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Only have a sec, but apparently it takes about 7 hours for food to get into your milk, because that's about when the shxt hit the fan here . At least there is no doubt in my mind that Sophie is sensitive to my diet. All I have to say is this NAET better work!!!! And next time I might pump and feed her pumped milk for the 24 hours before, instead of going through this. She is miserable. I feel so bad for her. And I'm positively dreading the night. At least mil is coming to help. 14 hrs until the appt ...
post #30 of 147
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Well, we are discovering that Declan is a much fussier baby than DS#1 - I don't think we knew how good we had it! He is just normal fussy and not screaming or anything, but he complains a bit after eating, especially in the early evenings. I know the evening thing is pretty common for this age, but DS#1 neverfussed at all, really, unless he was super duper full and had to power puke (rare). So it is kinda like being a first time parent all over again...!?

And I can hardly believe it but we bought a second-hand Baby Bjorn at a consignment sale today. I have tried Declan in the mei tei and in a couple of different carries in a pouch sling and more often than not, he refuses to settle. It seems to have something to do with when he stretches out and his feet hit fabric (at least that is what I convinced myself of!) so we figured it was at least worth a try to use something where his feet could hang free and clear. Eventually he can sit that way in the mei tei but it's too big right now. Anyway, I was always pretty adament about using slings versus the mainstream dangling legs carrier (isn't it supposed to be better ergonomically?), but I guess you gotta be flexible....!

Anyone else still have some residual jaundice? Declan does and it is starting to freak me out a little, even though the midwife isn't concerned...

Finally, Christine/Naturemama3, I hear you on the pacifier. I am trying to hold out to 6 weeks just to be sure my milk is nice and settled, but we are inching closer to trying it asap. I would happily nurse him for comfort in fussy times but he latches on and then gets very mad when the milk lets down!


Kaleb has gotten much better but his eyes still look slightly yellow to me. They originally wanted to admit him in the hospital but I refused and decided to do it on my own by sunning him and feeding on demand which he adapted to every 2 hrs on avg. They had him go in to be checked daily for the first 3 days after diagnosis and his levels went down consistently. They will probably have me get him checked again when I go in on Friday...we shall see.

As for the pacifier I have been tempted..but Kaleb has silent reflux and is quite gassy so I don't want to add something else filling him with air and I am afraid to cause any nipple confusion. So for now I am bottle AND pacifier .

I had my 2 wk follow up appt today and I am ow 121...4 lbs heavier than pre-pregnancy. I think that remaining 4 lbs in in my damn stomach though...grrrrr. I have been wrapping my belly but have not been consistent enough with it. So I need to do a better job so that I can knock that out ASAP. That's about all I got for now...bede bede that's all folks....
post #31 of 147
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Today was a bad day. The twins? Oh no, they're angels. It's my OTHER children who are making me want to tear my hair out. Izzy dragged Claire out of her swing in the 60 seconds I was gone from the room checking on dinner, Noah left the yard and went into the alley behind our house (and is now grounded from playing outside until we move in July--more a punishment for me than him), Gabe got ticked at Hannah and threw a block at her face, hit her mouth, and gashed her lip open.....AND it's the two week growth spurt.

AHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH

There, I feel better!
Oh, I hear you! I only have 3 kids but they are driving me insane. DS2 threw a book at me last night - it was a hardback, so that wasn't pleasant! I lost it
This a.m. we had a friend over and he attacked her little girl several times. I know he's adjusting etc but it was really hard to keep my cool. I felt so terrible about her little one.
Think we are going to be playing alone for a while, while DS2 gets this out of his system.........
I am really enjoying my baby but gee, finding actual *family* life tough going
post #32 of 147
Isaac is SMILING. Real smiles. Only a few a day, mostly right after we wake up in the morning, but they're just heart-melting.

He's still grumpy/restless (a lot of his crabbiness now seems to be related to wanting to move around) a lot of the time, but one big smile makes it all worth it.

ETA: I was dreading living close to parents and in-laws for the summer, but I have to say, they've been quite well-behaved. AND... grandmas and grandpas don't mind holding/soothing fussy babies while mom and dad chow down on take-out gyros from the best darn gyros-serving restaurant in Central Wisconsin.
post #33 of 147
right there with you on the crazy bigger kids. they ate half a jar of sorghum yesterday with plenty of it getting smeared on both couches. They're 5 1/2 and 9. I'd expect that from 2 year olds.
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Add me to the older kids making me nuts club. Ds is 5 and just not listening. Dd2 is 3 and just wants to touch Noah ALL the time. I can't get her to leave him alone. She keeps climbing up the side of the bassinet in the living room and I'm terrified she's going to flip it. Luckily dh is done work for the week, doesn't go back until Sunday night. I did bedtime all by myself last night and it was surprisingly easy. I'm not getting my hopes up, just so thankful it went well last night.

It took forever for the dr to call back yesterday, but Noah's collar bone is not broken. She's pretty sure it's just a bruised nerve. We're trying to keep it stationary so it can heal, which is easier said than done. He doesn't move his arm, mostly just his hand, but his arm flops around when he gets moved. We tried putting him in long sleeves and pining the sleeve, but it's not as still as it should be, plus it's almost 100 here, so I think we're going to try wrapping it to his chest with an ace bandage.

I'm feeling much better, except my pelvic bones are still so sore. Getting up and down on the bed is that hardest. Or sitting up to nurse him at night. Each day is better, but still so sore. He slept great Saturday and Sunday nights and then not so great the last two. Last night was so hard, I did break out the paci for a bit. I can't wait for tonight, dh will be home so he can either help or let me sleep in the morning when Noah is sleeping and the other kids are awake.
post #35 of 147
maybe putting the arm inside a onesie?

I'm with you on the pubic bone. ouch!
post #36 of 147
Some things are crap. No way around it, just plain crap. I honestly don't understand how anyone can just walk away from their child. I don't think it's for me to know, especially at this point but it still comes into my mind. I did have a major attack but my older kids' dad came over and sat with all of the kids so I could shower - he is truly a good person. I just keep telling myself, "It will get better!"

Some things are much better, Marley slept 6 hours last night and I was able to get some sleep too. Taking skullcap & motherwort which is helping A LOT. And when it's needed I'm simply amazed by the people who are willing to do anything to help. I didn't realize how many people care, and we are very blessed.

I also thank you all for letting me vent! Sometimes just that little bit of AHHHHHH helps
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It took forever for the dr to call back yesterday, but Noah's collar bone is not broken. She's pretty sure it's just a bruised nerve. We're trying to keep it stationary so it can heal, which is easier said than done. He doesn't move his arm, mostly just his hand, but his arm flops around when he gets moved. We tried putting him in long sleeves and pining the sleeve, but it's not as still as it should be, plus it's almost 100 here, so I think we're going to try wrapping it to his chest with an ace bandage.
Will he take to being swaddled? Is that OK with his owie? We got some "swaddlers" (for lack of a better term) from friend of my mom's. Basically, they help you swaddle the kid without having to perform blanket gymnastics. We were skeptical (we're SO not into unitaskers when it comes to baby items and thought a blanket was fine, just fine), but ended up using and loving them because DS is such a wild tornado of an arm-waver and it really interferes with his sleep. They're pretty easy to get his arms into (without having to wrestle him down like we did when trying to blanket-swaddle him) and seem to hold him pretty stable when we move him. The two we have are of different brands, but are essentially the same. *runs to go check brands* One is manufactured by Boppy, the other is Kiddopotamus. I know there's some controversy re: swaddling and hip development, but if it'll help him heal... might be worth looking into, at least for bedtime/nighttime when you might be handling him half asleep and in the dark.
post #38 of 147
Kara I wish we lived closer and could help you. I'm so sorry you're going through this right now.
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Some things are crap....
I'm going through some pretty bad anxiety myself (although it's more of the generalized type, with occasional random attacks thrown in just for fun, apparently), and it's awful. Things have in some ways improved, and in some ways gotten worse, since the first days after Ike was born. DH has had it up to *here* with me. No, he's not being the most supportive, and I can't say I entirely blame him.

Feel free to PM if you need a sympathetic ear (metaphorical, of course).
post #40 of 147
Kara, I am so sorry you are dealing with that right now. You are in my prayers.

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maybe putting the arm inside a onesie?

I'm with you on the pubic bone. ouch!
Christine I was totally thinking of you today while i was in tears over my pain. I can actually feel my bones going back to where they are supposed to be and it hurts so bad! It's exactly where most of my labor pain was and it's terrible. Was it like that for you? Does it still hurt?

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Will he take to being swaddled? Is that OK with his owie? We got some "swaddlers" (for lack of a better term) from friend of my mom's. Basically, they help you swaddle the kid without having to perform blanket gymnastics. We were skeptical (we're SO not into unitaskers when it comes to baby items and thought a blanket was fine, just fine), but ended up using and loving them because DS is such a wild tornado of an arm-waver and it really interferes with his sleep. They're pretty easy to get his arms into (without having to wrestle him down like we did when trying to blanket-swaddle him) and seem to hold him pretty stable when we move him. The two we have are of different brands, but are essentially the same. *runs to go check brands* One is manufactured by Boppy, the other is Kiddopotamus. I know there's some controversy re: swaddling and hip development, but if it'll help him heal... might be worth looking into, at least for bedtime/nighttime when you might be handling him half asleep and in the dark.
We tried swaddling with a blanket, but he comes undone so easily. Didn't even think about the swaddling blanket thingies. I will definitely have to look into getting one. Thanks!
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