When will you tell - Page 4

[maliceinwonderland]

Originally Posted by Past_VNE

My grandmother reacts pretty negatively to my announcements. Each one has been interesting. With DS, I said, "Guess what? We're going to have a baby!" She replied, "The cats have been running crazily around the living room today." Then, a moment later, she asked how far along I was. When I told her I had just found out, she said, "Geez, when you tell people so soon, they have to wait a long time."

When I told her about my last pregnancy (m/c) she said, "Hmmm, that's not very good timing." Yeah, so we were busy. Who cared? We were thrilled.

This time, when I told her, she said, "Was it planned?" I told her that we were trying, yes. She said, "Well, that's good. If you weren't, you'd never know when it would happen again."

Lovely, eh? :

That's exactly the way my family is! I'm sure I've moaned about this before on MDC, but I've NEVER got a congrats from anyone in my family, for any pregnancy. When I told my mom about this one she said "You shouldn't tell people so early". My nieces and nephews who I'm close in age with and are my favorite people in the world said something along the lines of "Is that a joke? You don't need another one". I've never asked any of them to babysit or anything, so it's not like I'm the relative that has a bunch of kids and passes them off to other people all the time.

The only one I can count on to be excited is my mil, god love her. This is her second grandchild (ds was her first) and my SO phoned her at work to tell her. The first thing he said when she picked up the phone was "So, do you want a boy or a girl this time?" It took her a second to catch on but when she did I could hear her shrieking with delight from across the room. By the end of her shift she had told pretty much everyone she worked with. Have I mentioned I have one of the few awesome mils in the world?

[Past_VNE]

Awww, that's awesome your MIL is so cool. My MIL could be counted on as a loving, awesome grandma and treated DS like gold. We lost her in April to cancer, and I'm soooo sad for DS and this new little one. Words can't express what a loss it to our children that they won't know her. We miss her terribly.

[Enudely]

I've totally blabbed it to the whole world already. I've just got a strong feeling that it's going to pull through, and also If I do lose it (knocking on wood), I will want to talk about it and be upfront anyway. That's just how I am

[elspethshimon]

In two weeks we're telling my dad and the in-laws (my mum already knows). Crazy.

[tulipmama]

We're telling everyone after the 12 week ultrasound in one week. For now only my dh, mom and dad, and two close friends know. Still haven't told the kids or in-laws or all my other friends.

[Ghislaine]

We were on vacation in France with my parents and brother when I took the test. I had my husband confirm that he saw a line so he was the first to know. Then we went downstairs and let my parents and brother know. My dad then spilled the beans to at least one B&B owner because I couldn't have any of the wine she was serving. (They have cute little symbols on their bottles of alcohol over there to indicate that pregnant women shouldn't drink).

When we arrived in the States my husband's parents picked us up at the airport so we told them then. I was sure that my MIL was going to want to blab to the world right away but one of my husband's cousins had been tryig for over a year so MIL decided not to say anything.

We've since learned that the cousin is about 2 weeks behind us, but MIL is still being quiet because we've decided to keep quiet a while longer. I started spotting the day we got back from Europe otherwise I'd have told my extended family at the 4th of July reunion!

At this point I've told a few close friends and some online forums. A more general announcement will wait until mid-August at this point.

[Devaskyla]

I think everyone I know except my family. I'll leave that as long as possible.

[Cherry Alive]

If our plans work out, we will be announcing it to parents after we hit the 16th week over Labor Day weekend. We plan to have a BBQ and have all the folks over. After dinner, we'll bring out a "special cake" that'll be iced with a picture of a baby or fetus with a little speech bubble that says "Hiya, Grandparents!" It'll be a blast to see everyone get excited at once.

I normally have very loose lips and can be terrible with keeping secrets or fibbing to protect them, but I have no problem keeping this quiet. Partially, bc it's nice to just have it between DH and I so we can make plans without others "advice," and partially bc the last time I was pregnant my mom told my grandmother after I explicitly asked her to wait to tell any extended family (I lost a pregnancy before). Well, I lost the pregnancy shortly afterwards. Grandmother (who has a history of having loose lips and was was understandably excited and concerned) told other people in our family who had no business of knowing, and it came back to me in very negative ways. I felt pretty violated when it was over with.

Things are going very well this pregnancy. It's further along than any I've had before and I have a really good feeling about it, but I feel *very* protective right now. If I could get away with it, I'd keep it quiet up to 24 weeks or even until after the baby was born.

Still, we have told our close friends (who don't really know our parents), and I've told my sister. She lives in England and knows how to keep a secret, and this has actually brought us closer together. It's important to have a good support unit during a pregnancy from early on. It also helps us keep our lips tight til we are ready to tell other people.

[justKate]

Its just so hard for me to keep quiet! On one hand, I want everyone (including co-workers) to know, so that they understand why I'm not going for happy hour on Fridays, joining the new softball team, etc. On the other, I'm dreading the inevitable, "But you're young! Your career is just getting started!" Really, huz and I will be 27 and 29 before baby is born--so we're not that young, and before I got married I decided that his career would come first, otherwise I wouldn't have married someone in the military. I just don't know what to expect!

[mamamillet]

So the news is out at work--which is good. I swear I could feel people looking at the bump lately. Most of my wardrobe is form fitting tops so it is now kinda obvious. I work with all woman--about 25 of us in a small office so it spread quickly. I was a bit nervous or hesitant cause I know there are three other women trying as well, but everyone was really sweet!

[itsrtimedownhere]

i told my mom, my 9 yo brother and my aunt. it's still supposed to be a secret but my aunt has a big mouth and i forgot to tell her not to tell anyone. so everyone probably knows.

[sunriseiz]

Originally Posted by mamamillet

So the news is out at work--which is good. I swear I could feel people looking at the bump lately. Most of my wardrobe is form fitting tops so it is now kinda obvious.

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Kind of a relief, too. The gals acknowleged noticing 'something' last week, but I think they noticed a long time ago IYKWIM! I've been wearing shirts 1-2 sizes to big to try and de-emphasize my belly, but it's no use. Sigh. Now at least I can break out the maternity clothes and be comfy!

[hiro]

We have told everyone! I am too excited to keep it to myself!

[Jenivere]

We told our kids a few days ago then I e-mailed most of my family. I still need to call a few of them. My husband called his mom and four of his six siblings last night.