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post #121 of 202
It's amazing some of the things kids come up with.

The other day, David informed me that he needed to go outside to pee. I asked him why. He replied "I want to pee like the dogs." I had a hard time not laughing at him. I gently explained that peeing outside was only allowed when a toilet wasn't handy.
post #122 of 202
That's okay, Jaden is now eating her food off her plate like a dog.
post #123 of 202
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That's okay, Jaden is now eating her food off her plate like a dog.
I'm glad David hasn't tried that one yet. LOL!
post #124 of 202
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The other day, David informed me that he needed to go outside to pee.
T is obsessed with peeing outside. Is it a male thing? A territory marking thing?
post #125 of 202
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That's okay, Jaden is now eating her food off her plate like a dog.
Lukas is pretty much a fulltime dog! We have food and water dish on the floor. And somehow each morning (and several times a day) he requires me to "drive" to the shelter to buy him. He walks around on all 4's and last night we played fetch...
post #126 of 202
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T is obsessed with peeing outside. Is it a male thing? A territory marking thing?
Nope, Robin is an avid outside pee-er. I blame it on a few factors:
1) China, where children are potty trained on the sidewalk, and I wasn't willing to pay for a 2-year-old to use a hole in the ground when the same ground is outside for free.
2) the amount of time we spend in the woods w/ no potty
3) my laziness and unwillingness to take 2 small children to public toilets or carry a toilet everywhere.

I'd just as soon help her pee outside than deal with her and Eli trying to touch every gross thing in store bathrooms. But now she's insisting on peeing outside by *herself* which is very different for girls than boys... She does like to pick what she's going to pee on. Today it was rocks.

Sarah!!! Thanks for the encouragement. You're my grad-school hero!:

Augs - that is hilarious. Robin talks about me pushing out Eli "like poop" (since she got to witness it - and from the "Welcome with Love" book which has a profile view of the head coming out)

I love Lukas' commitment to the pretend play. And that he's a shelter dog!

Robin's party is this coming Saturday. MIL is coming to town to help me get ready for it (not that it's so much, I'm just losing my mind at the moment). I did buy the favor/activity: I got start and heart wooden "magic wands" from Hobby lobby and items to decorate them with (glue, sparkly confetti, glitter paint). SO the kids can decorate their wand at the party and take it home for their favor.

gotta hit the hay!
post #127 of 202
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self-indulgent rant, sorry.

I hate how absolutely violent I feel when I don't get a good night's sleep because I wake up to my son kicking me in my back. Twice. It feels bad to want to put him in his room, lock his door, and go lay down in bed with earplugs in. And today we will go to my mom's house which normally cheers me up because she will play with him but all I can think about is that her house has this odd combination smell of old cigarette smoke and some kind of perfume or fabric softener which always gives me a headache, and that she's always running cold so she won't have the air conditioning on and I will get overheated and end up at home this evening with a migraine.

Plus he's being mean to the cat which is one of the major triggers of evil b**** mama. Sometimes I find myself wishing that she would turn around and scratch him, hard, to get the point across that she doesn't like what he's doing, but she lies there and takes it. I mean, what kind of a mom am I who wants her cat to scratch her kid?!

uuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuugh I hate feeling like this and I know it is only going to get worse once little brother is here!

Pardon me while I go crawl under a rock.
post #128 of 202
It's not going to get worse when his brother's here. It will be different, but not worse. Yes, two kids sometime means twice the work, twice the struggles, twice the drama. But it also changes the older child, changes your relationship with them, etc. - and not for the worse. Plus, your heart gets a bit bigger, and can put up with all the things that are twice as much as before (including twice the smiles, twice the giggles, twice the love).

Boy, I needed to reflect on that perspective. Don't get me wrong, 2 kids is no joke (feel free to chime in you moms of 3...). But just like you couldn't imagine making room for one and feared it would be too much, but somehow made it work, you do the same thing with #2. I remember being certain that Robin would be my "favorite," that the new baby would never have the same echo as my first-born, and also certain that neither would get the attention they deserve. I couldn't believe everyone who said not to worry and that it would work out...but they were right.

Hang in there, mama. Being tired, hormonal and pregnant will bring out the fierceness, for sure. Breathe deep.

As for hoping the cat will scratch...I tell Clint all the time that we parent by natural selection. For example - if Eli choses to bang his head on concrete, he'll either figure out to stop, or go through life with massive welts. Or, Eli will either learn to stop trying to catch the chicks, or take some serious pecks from Mama Chicken. It's a Darwin moment, IMO. My name is Bennet, and I ain't in it.
post #129 of 202
Holy moly, Jen, I am not even close to being pregnant and I echo your sentiments exactly! I've been the evil b**** Mama since I started working, and no matter how many times I explain that when Mama works we have money for nice things, it just DOESN'T. SINK. IN!!!

I have been reading along, but I have been too busy to type. Tonight I just don't care that it's 4am and that I am a week behind in my email.... Almost Four is getting the best of me, and I know that everyone here will understand! You Ladies Rock!!! :

ETA: LOL, my 500th post....
post #130 of 202
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Well, in good news:

My mom has quit smoking. After 50+ years. ::: so her house still smells a bit like stale smoke, because it's in the carpet, the walls, the everything, but at least she's not adding to it day after day.

When we drove up, it was impossible to get down my mom's street, because there was a GIANT backhoe in her driveway, digging a 12-foot trench for laying storm sewer pipes. So we parked in the neighbor's driveway, cut through their yard into my mom's and T had entertainment all day while those big machines were working not more than 15 feet in front of the bay window (perfect spot for child to sit).

Around 2:30, I dozed off in my mom's rocker/recliner while T was playing with legos or cooties or something. They ended up going outside and finding some manner of yard work to do (which they can always find). My mom woke me up at 4:30. I felt a bit in a fog but better for having slept.

I figure that it will be worse when little brother arrives because lately T has been SOOO whiny - everything comes out in a whine, really - and he has been really bad at doing anything at all for himself. Just lots of button pushing and a complete inability to do anything by himself. I am tempted to put away 99% of the toys because it's like he has so many things to do that he can't do anything. (Maybe he suffers from the same overstimulation and brain clutter that I do when our house is not clean, which causes me to not be able to do anything because there is too much to do.)

I had a weird night's sleep and woke up with a racing pulse and feeling vaguely sick, but it seems to have remedied itself somehow... and yet, I want to call Jo, tell her that I want her to tell her boss that her wife is sick and that she needs to go home, and crawl back into bed for the rest of the day. Barring that option, I might turn on the olympics for the afternoon and sack out on the couch, hoping that the child doesn't break anything or injure the cat.

There is a woman in one of my DDCs (I straddle Nov and Dec) and she has 6 children and is pregnant with her 7th - and she homeschools - it exhausts me just thinking about it. (Well, and our own chumani - Sarah, are you still out there?)

post #131 of 202
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loss of an original DDC member

Some of you may not remember back this far, to the very, very very beginning of the Sept 04 DDC, but first there was Caroline... and then there was Shannon, Shannon0218. Shannon was so hopefully pregnant after 2 miscarriages, and then miscarried again. She never left our DDC, though, and really lent great support and sunshine to all of us.

She died. In January. And I just caught whiff of it now on MDC via someone else's sig.

She miscarried due to a blood clotting disorder and finally carried a baby to term a couple of years ago; she also had brought her 2nd daughter into the world just a few weeks before she died.

I'm just still overwhelmed with sadness. She dreamed of me giving birth on her bed! And I named her 2nd dog (Bedlam). But what I find saddest is that she was one of ours, if only for a short while, and she leaves 2 little daughters behind, whom she wanted so desperately.

Sigh. Sniff.
post #132 of 202
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Some of you may not remember back this far, to the very, very very beginning of the Sept 04 DDC, but first there was Caroline... and then there was Shannon, Shannon0218. Shannon was so hopefully pregnant after 2 miscarriages, and then miscarried again. She never left our DDC, though, and really lent great support and sunshine to all of us.

She died. In January. And I just caught whiff of it now on MDC via someone else's sig.

She miscarried due to a blood clotting disorder and finally carried a baby to term a couple of years ago; she also had brought her 2nd daughter into the world just a few weeks before she died.

I'm just still overwhelmed with sadness. She dreamed of me giving birth on her bed! And I named her 2nd dog (Bedlam). But what I find saddest is that she was one of ours, if only for a short while, and she leaves 2 little daughters behind, whom she wanted so desperately.

Sigh. Sniff.
I didn't know her but.... I'm glad she was able to experience her dd's for whatever time it was.
post #133 of 202
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Originally Posted by JenInMpls View Post
Some of you may not remember back this far, to the very, very very beginning of the Sept 04 DDC, but first there was Caroline... and then there was Shannon, Shannon0218. Shannon was so hopefully pregnant after 2 miscarriages, and then miscarried again. She never left our DDC, though, and really lent great support and sunshine to all of us.

She died. In January. And I just caught whiff of it now on MDC via someone else's sig.

She miscarried due to a blood clotting disorder and finally carried a baby to term a couple of years ago; she also had brought her 2nd daughter into the world just a few weeks before she died.

I'm just still overwhelmed with sadness. She dreamed of me giving birth on her bed! And I named her 2nd dog (Bedlam). But what I find saddest is that she was one of ours, if only for a short while, and she leaves 2 little daughters behind, whom she wanted so desperately.

Sigh. Sniff.
I am sorry to hear that. She was a ray of sunshine for our group.
post #134 of 202
How sad. Really, there are no words.
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post #136 of 202
It's September 1. My little girl is 4. I hardly believe it. :

She has a friend who is younger than her, but physically bigger who in in a booster, and she's been asking for one too (I have 2, in boxes in the basement, for when she outgrows her new carseats). I've explained to her that the carseats are the safest, that her body still fits in her carseats (she outgrew her gracos and we replaced them/handed them down to eli), and that she's going to be in the carseats until she outgrows them. So this morning she jumps out of bed (She and I had a "spend the night" party last night in my bed - we watched a movie, made popcorn, played games and painted toenails purple and pink - so fun!) and her first question was: "Mama am I so big now that I'm ready for my booster?" Like she grew overnight.

Speaking of movies, we have "my Neighbor Totoro" from netflix and she and I both love it. She wants to play Satski and Mei all the time now - i'm satski and she's mei. We're going to get the other films by the same director - if we ever get this one returned...
post #137 of 202
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One-time MDC Sept 04 baby Oz also loves Totoro.

I can't believe the 4th bdays are happening! We went to Anna Banana's on Saturday and had a great time celebrating Mielle's bday.

happy bday Robin!
post #138 of 202
Aw! Happy Birthday Robin :
She sounds lovely. :

My little Jaden is starting her first day of preschool tomorrow.
I hope I don't cry when I drop her off...she really is getting so big. I love how they are growing, it's so much fun.
post #139 of 202
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She died. In January. And I just caught whiff of it now on MDC via someone else's sig.

Sigh. Sniff.
Jen I am very sorry to hear that! So sad. Can I ask what happened?!

So, I had a 'backyard birthday party' for Ceci... it went pretty well, the weather co-operated and everyone came. Whew. What I didn't plan for enough was how all the moms would just want to sit and ignore all the kids and I would run around taking a constant head count. It was fine, I had my mom to help and I know how it is, but we have a lot of territory for kids to explore... but they were happy with the playset, the flower beds, the kiddie pool and our newest 'sandbox' aka our excavation test hole. Thank goodness everyone went home in one piece.

Jen, congrats on your mom and a nice visit!! : A little bit of rest always helps...


Augs, have you moved now?!

Becca, Ceci pees outside also. Always. She takes her pants off and goes for it. I've tried to convince her to go to the back of the house... but she prefers the granite in the front yard. Whoa, its a lot of exposure when she pees!! Carl pees on the rocks and then says 'agate!' and tries to pick up the wet rocks. Awwww.
post #140 of 202
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Jen I am very sorry to hear that! So sad. Can I ask what happened?!
She had a clotting disorder, which is what caused her to miscarry her first 4... it seems that after she had her 2nd - which was risky and dangerous because of the risk of clotting - she suffered a brain aneurysm. At least I think that's the story. Her death was related to her clotting disorder, for sure.

Sigh.

My son is being a little sh** this morning.

And his new, custom-made soft leather indoor shoes for preschool just arrived in the mail and the first thing he said was "I don't like those. They're gross." WHERE DID HE LEARN THIS PRAY TELL?!
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