stbx: soon to be ex, but lmao at your guess momo7!
post #61 of 131
6/7/08 at 1:10am
Emily you are an AMAZING woman! I am SO f'ing PROUD OF YOU for standing up to him! An having the conviction to stay calm when he showed up to get the car.
If one of the girls had an emergency, you'd call 911. Thats what it's for.
I'm literally sitting here jumping for joy that you found the strength we all knew you had. GO EMILY!!!!!
(and whenever someone says something that bothers me, I literall remind myself that sticks and stones (and fists) can break my bones, but words can't hurt me. Words are just....that. words.)
Stay strong momma!
(and don't forget to document, document, document. How it will help? You lawyer can use it to say "on June 5, 2008, did you or did you not arrive with your parents to take away the family vehicle in full view of the minor child?" even if they never use it, any documentation you can provide dates, times, people involved, etc. may help to make your stbx (I too like the revised acronym!) look bad.)
He is deranged! My ex started constantly saying that he couldn't trust me, couldn't trust my word. This made me absolutely NUTS!!! Never in my life had I lied to him... his stack of lies was like an abyss swallowing him up! I said something in frustration to my lawyer once and she told me that happens all the time. People who are dishonest, who lie, cheat, manipulate, bully, etc. assume that everyone else does it too. And also, on some very deep level that may never come to the surface, he knows how terrible he's being. And he knows that you are a good person and a good mother. And he can't face himself in the mirror right now. He is deflecting on to you because it's the only way he can live with himself and his choices and the abyss he has dug for himself.
In the end, Emily, your life will be better and his will be worse. Not that you are seeking misery for him or anyone. But life catches up to people who operate this way. He can't possibly be happy deep down or he wouldn't be this cruel and irrational. You will grow into a new and wonderful happiness over time based on truth and integrity. And he will be stuck in his own meanness, insecurity, etc. You will not be the last person he treats this way.
Just get the $$ together for the daycare and sign the forms yourself. Leave his spot blank. Give the forms to the daycare lady. That should be all you need.