I Need Midwife Advice

[holothuroidea]

I've been stressing out lately over all of the "medical" stuff. Testing and blood draws and so on...

Anyway, I'm overwhelmed. I have a lot of feelings that are very difficult to express, and I'm to the point that I just end up depressed and crying over it for long periods of time.

I've been having problems communicating things to my midwife. She really seems frustrated and annoyed with me and that really makes me feel worse. I think I need to talk to her about this and soon, before I bury it down and it doesn't get taken care of. I had my last appointment with her yesterday but I didn't take that opportunity to talk to her about it.

What I want to know is, would it be out of line for me to request a short meeting with her to discuss this? My next appointment is 2 weeks away, I don't want to wait that long.. and I really can't see talking over the phone.

I just need some opinions, what do you think is appropriate?

[Belle]

nak

why don't you write down what your exact thoughts with her are on your situation. it sounds like you get flustered with her in person so maybe an over the phone conversation would be more appropriate. Tell her you want to tell her some thing but wrote it down and you want to read her your thoughts.

GL

[Hayes]

Make an appointment now. I had some things I felt I really needed to discuss with my care provider, so I made an "office visit" appointment with him for next week.

[StarMama]

I would call her for sure and schedule an appointment. Follow your gut, you did hire her and you should aim for a good relationship so she can be a help at your birth and not a hinderance.

[CanidFL]

I agree. Make an appointment to talk about this and write down your thoughts. She might have reasons why she is doing all the "medical" stuff that wasn't clearly explained. Then you can have an opportunity to talk about what is necessary and what you aren't comfy with.

[tanyam926]

I agree w/the advice about trying to talk to her about it. But I also want to add that if you still don't feel comfortable, don't rule out looking for another midwife.

I met w/several mw when I started looking for care and I met w/one who I thought was my last option. We did not get along at all. Thankfully, I found a mw that I absolutely love w/some further digging and calling around. I can't imagine how stressed I would be if I didn't connect w/my mw. They are a part of a very intimate experience and I feel that I need to completely trust my mw in every way.

Good luck!

[MommyMidwife]

Make an appointment right now!!
Some of my ladies who don't feel comfortable asking things in person will just email me and that works real well too!
jeni

[SublimeBirthGirl]

Definitely talk to her. No matter where you give birth, choice of birth attendant is crucial.