|If they carry it at all, they'll often take it from you and just give you a store credit.
Not anymore! We went through this at Christmas with Target and Toys 'R Us -- our kids were sent some things by clueless relatives (not being ungrateful, but they really are...these are people close enough that they should 'know' our kids better than that and send things some years and not others, etc...always strings attached and we'd prefer they just stay away, quite honestly)...
And BRU even gave my DH a horrible time about a warranted return (WITH a receipt) not too long ago -- well, the nasty manager on call that day did anyway.
Nobody ever threw me a baby shower while pregnant until, surprise, our new"er" church insisted this time (we just moved here last year and this is baby #5). I didn't ask for anything, but was really humbled at the outcome. I did receive several things I don't need without gift receipts. That's where ebay or 'paying it forward' comes in handy.
IMO, nothing was expected, so I dealt with it. I know where some of the things came from, but, alas, no receipt = not so easy anymore...and they're fully packaged and perfectly new and everything. I spent a looooooong time writing up all of the thank-you notes - wow! The graciousness was overwhelming.
I agree that every child should be celebrated; however, my DH and I (even through some very tough times) have handled most of the big needs one way or the other. That's fine; we're the parents. It was hurtful over the years seeing literally everyone else in my family have amazing baby showers thrown for them though - first or not. Oh well...