Originally Posted by dnr3301
I don't necessarily think of the birth as "the main event" though, so regardless of what happens at the birth, I still put time in with the family through prenatals and postpartums, not to mention random phone calls and emails. I think of the birth as a little more than half of the work. I worked out one birth and I got $3/hr for it.
okay, i cant let this go apparently. if someone hires a *birth doula* that is what they hire her for. not prenatal interviewing and getting to know you's, yk? i'm talking if it's the doula's fault, not the client's, due to the doula's illness or any valid or not so valid reason. ime doulas provide a back up, and if the doula and/or the back up are no shows at the birth, that is a serious violation of an agreement at a time a woman is most counting on support. imo that is a serious breach in professionalism, and i wouldn't care about her expenses or her time beforehand. i've also spent time and had expenses to get to meetings for... what? a contract that she broke? not cool, man. i think the mama shouldn't pay a cent and the doula should do... something? to make it up, somehow. personally i would want to know if i was hiring a doula who would reneg on such an important contract, and i would pass the information around liberally if that happened to me. wouldn't you?
by the same token, if it's not the doula's fault, the fee is due. like if the pregnant mama needs a c/s or any other reason that the doula's services are not required/wanted after a contract is signed (barring fetal death as a PP mentioned), of course the fee is due. but it makes no sense that the pregnant mama should pay if either party cancels or renegs on the contract... that is seriously unfair IMO.
i feel lucky, reading this thread, that my doula was rock solid in her availability to me, and provided a solid back up in case something unforeseeable happened that would make her unable to attend my birth. i would have been screwed otherwise, big time. it would have ruined my experience of the birth of my child had i called my doula when i needed her to have no call back, or a 'sorry i'm feeling a little under the weather...'
it's kind of a big freaking deal, imo.