Hey, after 5 days I've finally gotten the hang of it.
Yes, I took the stem completely off mine. MUCH better!
I also called Diva and it turns out to be a common complaint - the feeling that it is slipping out - I've been told that some Kegals will help - 100 - 200 per day.
I really do love the Diva - especially when it's up high and not down around my ankles!!!
I'm going to try the Kegals for the next month before my cycle starts and se if it makes a difference. Now, I actually have to remember to do them!
I'll post back next month to report.
sunnmama - I just grab the bottom, give a slight squeeze, and gently pull. I think it breaks the suction to gently squeeze.
3boysmom- I mean it's touching my underwear - falling out!! Yep - it's kegal time!!