My son doesn't like me anymore :(

[neomia]

Lately DS has been such a daddy's boy. He wants hugs from him all day long and wants to sleep with him at night. Of course, this is totally a blessing for me as I will be wanting him to take over more of his parenting when the baby comes, but at the same time it is kindof sad as he seems to be pushing me away. Today was the worst it has been. All day, whenever I would ask him for a hug, he would yell "No!" at me. He has been acting like he wants nothing to do with me. I really can't blame the poor little dude. I am always telling him I can't do things, like get on the floor to play things or play things that involve running around. I always say I wish I could though. And my belly and breasts seem so sensitive that when he has tried to hug me in the past I am having to tell him just how to do it. Not to mention I have been more irritable in general, but I haven't been that bad I don't think.

Anybody else being shunned by there littles?

[Hokulele]

Oh mama, I'm sorry. That's so hard.

I'm having the opposite experience here. DD (almost 3yr) gets very clingy and wants me to be around her all the time. DH will take her to go put on her pjs or whatever and sometimes she just stands next to me and cries saying "I want mama to come with me." I'm trying to let DH take over as much as possible - partly because I don't want it to be too shocking when the little one arrives and my time is REALLY taken up. But partly also because I just can't move around that well, and I'm uncomfortable and grumpy.

DD wants to sit next to me on the couch all the time and pat my belly and tell me she'll help me feel better. But it is heartbreaking. I hate for her that she sees Mommy as "sick" and that she seems to want to shoulder the responsibility of making me feel better.

[lmonter]

Originally Posted by neomia

Anybody else being shunned by there littles?

A little. My 4.5yo is his daddy's shadow, and the 2yo's working on it.
The 2yo doesn't truly believe it's bedtime until hubby puts him down. I could spend an hour attempting it, and all it takes is 2 minutes with hubby before kiddo stays in his bed.

But yeah, it'll work out. I'm dreading when hubby goes back to work and I'm left with all 3 needing attention all at once. It's going to be interesting. *sigh*

[Chalex]

Not really shunning, but we are both a mess at times...lots of acting out lately.
It's almost like, "Hey, who's the pregnant hormonal mess? You or Me?"
I wish my DS could spend more time with his Daddy (then, I might get more shunning) I had to pack them a lunch and send them on their way yesterday morning. Of course, DS came back a tired mess (and wouldn't nap) which I got the deal with as DH laid down for a nice nap...argh!

[*Karen*]

Yep, DS who really didn't want to be even held by anyone but me asked DH if he could go to work with him today. He LOVES his dada now. I think it is because I haven't been able to do as many things with him recently but DH has.

[Qerratsmom]

My ds has gone in and out of phases like that too. I think its a pretty natural thing, especially beginning at around the age your son is. They suddenly realize that they will not grow up to be Mommy's but will grow up to be Daddy's so they want to emulate everything Daddy does and explore his world (so much more exciting than the world of Mom's you know!)

[balancedmama]

Yes, we are absolutely going through this right now. DD is only 21 mos but she really seems to sense some changes going on. It is putting a lot of strain on my DH, if he's around he pretty much has to hold her all the time. And the sling doesn't cut it.

I feel awful, she slipped getting out of the bathtub somehow this morning...but I was RIGHT there. She has a big goose-egg on her head now, and of course when it happened all she could do was scream "dada!"

[mama_ani]

I'm not in your DDC but saw your post from the "new posts" lists.
I had a little girl in April and my son (27 months now) did the same thing. He has just, in the last week, started clinging to me again (and shunning dh)

This too shall pass.

[klink2]

That must be really hard. It is not going on with me/dh, but I am going through a lot of emotions about dd not being my baby anymore. She is becoming so independent and attached to her friends and even her grandparents (she'll be 6 this summer.) I know this will make the transition with baby easier, but it is hard to see our relationship changing.

In your case, could some of it just be the novelty of having your dh home and accessible now? Not that it makes it any easier, but I would think that has more to do with it than you not being able to play the same way. Don't blame yourself.

[Ooey]

I am at the extreme other end of the spectrum and it's no picnic either!

My 2 year old DD is being SOOO clingy to me it makes me want to scream sometimes. She is constantly on me wanting hugs, kneeing me in the belly, following me around, screaming if I get up to go to the bathroom. The worst part is at night when she insists that I "snuggle" her meaning she must be right next to me (kneeing me in the belly once again) and I must have my arm around her or she will find it and put it around her. We have gotten her to sleep with dh (in his room) twice in the past month but in general she wants nothing to do with him if I'm around. She even started nursing again (by method of sneak attack) after 2 weeks of not that I really thought meant she was weaned. I'm sure it's not awesome to feel "shunned" by your DS but at least it will make the transition to having the new baby easier for him because he is use to being with daddy, and at least it gives you a chance to take it easy right now. I have a feeling we are not going to be so lucky dealing with her adjusting to the new baby

[neomia]

Kristin, I know that is part of it, but I think it is a combination. Like the fact I am not much fun AND daddy is accessible.

And he big time asks for dad when he gets hurt. Or if I yell at him, which yes, I have done more this pregnancy. Then he really starts crying for him. It is hard for my husband because he is trying to stay in his office alot looking for jobs, filling out apps and talking to recruiters but is being constantly interrupted.

I'm glad to know I am not totally alone in this though.