Originally Posted by ~sweet pea~
: I totally get this. Maybe it's my inner diva. In the interest of being completely honest, I'll risk being asked to turn in my MDC membership for lack of crunchiness commitment. I think you have to really love
the idea of giving birth at home or really hate
hospitals. I don't fall into either category and truthfully, the idea of giving birth at my house
just isn't appealing to me...
Originally Posted by Qestia
I'll turn in my MDC membership now if needed when I say I'm also really really thankful I had access to the epidural, which, while I was well educated on the risks, was perfect in my experience. No pain, quick recovery, no headache/nausea, I could feel when to push. I look forward to getting one again, if necessary and timely, though I'm also doing hypnobabies too.
Nah, MDC isn't ALL about HBs and UCs and stuff!
I think the spirit of this community is about respecting ourselves and our bodies and knowing what's right for US. We're educated and wise women who are not afraid to stand up for what we want and need. And if that means we have made the choice to have a hospital birth, or an epidural, or a UC waterbirth, whatever we choose should be what's right for us and not just what the crowd mentality leads us to believe.
I think it's awesome that there are mamas on here who've had positive hospital births. You just HAVE to be in the right place in your heart and mind before doing a homebirth, and if you aren't then it's not for you. Absolutely no shame in that!
My first - well, I was active-duty military back in the day when you didn't have a choice. You get pregnant, you go to the hospital to birth. End of story. It was a terrible experience.
Second - I took a Lamaze class with a midwife at a birth center, and honestly if she'd clicked with me on a personal level, I'd have probably gone with the birth center that time. After all my very first experience with birth as a 7-year old was watching my SIL birth my oldest nephew in her home, on her couch, with her MW. Homebirths were not a foreign concept for me, but I didn't have the level of self-confidence needed to attempt it just then.
Third - I did the same hospital with the same doc (even the same room) as I did with #2, because it never occurred to me to do something else. DS was only 15 months old, DD#1 was 3-1/2, and I was too tired to care about how it happened. I know that sounds bad, but I was also quite young. The epidurals, by the way, never worked for me. My transition goes so fast, and I have a slight curvature to my spine, that it just never took, in any of the attempts.
Fourth - different state, different DH, different frame of mind - and no insurance. Birth center was cheaper and I loved the MW. So I ditched the hospital mindset and went with the birth center.
Fifth - I took the plunge entirely and went with the homebirth. I loved it so much it actually hurt me to think I would not be able to do it with #6... but after I left the H, my options were much more open and now I WILL be able to HB with my best friend and a different, but much-loved MW.
Like PPs have said, it's what's best for you. Your birth can be beautiful no matter where it happens... it's all in how you view it. Besides, the birth is not the most important thing - the BABY is.