Originally Posted by Collinsky
With my first, I wish I'd known that even if I felt totally confident and prepared, I could still freak out during transition. I was totally unprepared to feel any worry, and completely ignorant of how a small worry can snowball out of control when you're in labor. I wish I'd also prepped my husband that I might express some fear, and let him know what to do in that case, and that it didn't mean anything was wrong. That even women who know "everything" about birth and are completely confident can feel afraid and might need reassurance in transition. We were both totally unprepared for that.
I wish I'd known that having a houseful of relatives, even in the kitchen being very careful not to "bother" me... would feel horribly invasive and be something that I regretted.
I wish I'd known my husband makes a mean ziti, and that after giving birth it is Da Bomb. He made it because it's easy to make in bulk and save. I ate a million pounds of ziti when I was postpartum. I couldn't get enough of the stuff.
And I wish I'd known that waterbirth really was THAT big a difference.
THANK YOU! This is just the type of thing I like to hear about!
I do know how much I can freak out during transition at least, and have tried to prepare dh for it as well as I can (this is his first baby, so first birth all around)
I've found a few really good UC vids on YouTube that has some mamas freaking during transition that I have been able to show him and let him know that will probably be me! And I've shown them to the kids, too.
My last hb, during late transition while I was just trying to wait out a cervical lip I had, my mw had at some point stuck her head in just to ask if I was doing ok. Yes, I replied, but as soon as she left I turned to my then dh and told him I was pretty sure I was dying and that he should probably get me to the hospital
I remembered during that time what my BFW instructor had told us during the class, that when we felt like we might literally die we were really close and to try to remember that physical pain cannot kill you. I just kept thinking that I knew she said that, but she had NO IDEA what was going on, cause I REALLY WAS going to die then. And then wouldn't she feel stupid to find out that pain COULD kill you.
I'm not talking about this to worry anyone, cause really? I have short, very intense labors, and yeah, it can get very intense and hurt a whole lot, but it's over quickly from that point, and you immediately forget about it when you hold your baby most of the time. And you feel SO PROUD and MIGHTY once you get to the other side. It's incredible and powerful. And wonderful.
And yes, food is extremely important for immediately afterwards! It's one of the very few times that I actually really love pasta. It's carbalicious and great for refueling after such a workout as labor!
That ziti sounds great!