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post #21 of 111
that's a good question. I can't think of anything off hand...
post #22 of 111
Ditto to Romana 9+2--I didn't have a pushing urge (at first) with either of my births.

I attempted a UC at home with my first, but didn't have a pushing urge. I was too scared to push without it and ended up in the hospital---pushed the baby out within 20 minutes at the direction of a host of medical staff telling me to PUUUUUUUUSSSHHHH. Wish I had just stuck it out at home and gone for it.

With #2, I didn't really have a pushing urge until I gave a couple voluntary pushes--then the urge arrived BIG TIME. I don't know what would have happened if I hadn't tried the first few tentative pushes, though.
post #23 of 111
Every time, I forget how cold and shaky I get after giving birth. The most important accessory is someone who loves you enough to run a nice hot bath for you after you birth a baby.
post #24 of 111
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Originally Posted by Unoppressed MAMA Q View Post
Don't get in the birth tub until you can no longer bake the cinnamon rolls.
good one!
post #25 of 111
don't have expectations. Let the process unfold how it will be.
post #26 of 111
have a good meal on hand for right after! i didn't think i'd be famished at 2 am but oh yes, i downed a great meal!

that i would feel like a watched pot by my hubby (hard to get around that really)

that labor wasn't as quick as i thought it would be for baby #4

that my baby could have a super short cord that makes it hard to nurse while attached to the placenta! hee hee
post #27 of 111
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that i would feel like a watched pot by my hubby (hard to get around that really)
That's part of why my dh isn't invited to active labor. I feel like a watched pot when he's sitting near me as I type up a post. (Heck, the cats give me that feeling occasionally.)
post #28 of 111
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Have stuff on hand to bake. Like cinnamon rolls, yum.

Don't get in the birth tub until you can no longer bake the cinnamon rolls.
I woke up to a dream of cinnamon rolls the day before last. They were huge, like the size of a dinner plate, and had lots of cinnamon goo in them.
post #29 of 111
OT, but I really need this cinnamon roll recipe. :
post #30 of 111
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OT, but I really need this cinnamon roll recipe. :
I just really need a cinnamon roll *drool*
post #31 of 111
That it might be awful. I think i sort of set myself up to "fail" because i only read positive birth stories, and I REALLY bought into the "if you do everything right, it wont hurt that bad" line. And for me, it DID hurt that bad..like was said earlier, I really thought death would come before the unimaginable pain I experienced...but than again, it was not just my first UC, it was my first birth, so i had NOTHING to compare it to, or any way to be prepared....a first time UCer who has already experienced BIRTH is i think going into it with a little more foundation, you know?
post #32 of 111
okay I thought of something.
I wish I'd known that peeing would sting like crazy after. I wish someone had pointed out to me that after vomiting like crazy and not drinking so much as a single sip of water in the previous 24 hours, downing a huge glass of mango juice would produce some seriously acid urine on my poor yoni.

and I wish I knew that my "friend/doula" (who turned out to be neither) didn't have a freakin clue about birth and I should have done the opposite of everything she said.
post #33 of 111
:This is a great post, thanks guys. I am planning a UC and I am researching like crazy. I love advice from moms who have actually UC'd before. keep them coming
post #34 of 111
Well I had placed myself in a very private situation with only my ex-partner ther and my dc so I wasn't under pressure from anyone else. Practical stuff, well, I birthed in a 2-person tent and the back of a van(both my home at the time)and had limited stuff around me and wouldn't have needed much, maybe some good food and oils and herbs and the like, ooh a comfortable bed! What I really would like to have known is that I could have gone further with my self-confidence, I felt like my first birth, hospital transfer against my wishes and for no real reason, kinda left some negative coping skills during birth and I kinda resorted to these a bit during uc as well. I feel I could have had a more connected birth experience rather than I just want this over, which is 'normal' I guess when the going gets tough. I think I would have liked to try some meditation/yoga/breathing etc through pregnancy and just feel that bit more confidence and belief in the birth process so as to be 110% onboard with my experience. What I'm trying to say is I could have prepared myself more mentally in a spiritual/holistic way for birth and reaped the benefit thereof.
post #35 of 111
I wish I had known that sometimes that poopy feeling really is poop! I also wish that I had known that first baby can really take 36 to 72 hours to get born! So I should have relaxed more and not walked a zillion miles! I wish that someone would have told me that this was the most intense thing that I would ever feel and that I might NOT stay encontrol the whole time!! I wish I had remembered to have some wine in transition with my second child. With my first it totally took the hesterical edge of so I could feel him moving down and really process what was happening.With me second I was just a little crazy with the whole end part.
And lastly once you see your babe for the first time It changes a part of you forever. There is a overwhelming feeling of change.
post #36 of 111
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That it might be awful. I think i sort of set myself up to "fail" because i only read positive birth stories, and I REALLY bought into the "if you do everything right, it wont hurt that bad" line. And for me, it DID hurt that bad..like was said earlier, I really thought death would come before the unimaginable pain I experienced...but than again, it was not just my first UC, it was my first birth, so i had NOTHING to compare it to, or any way to be prepared....a first time UCer who has already experienced BIRTH is i think going into it with a little more foundation, you know?
Yes, that too. Though I don't think I could have UC'd my second, it was even worse than the first. It's one of the main reasons I won't consider UC for myself in the future.
post #37 of 111
I was really thankful to have a backup mw for pp. Actually, the mw herself did not make herself available to me at midnight, but her assistant, who was in training and had been my doula at dd's unmedicated hospital birth, came right over (to my hotel room!) and checked out my placenta. It was taking so long (like 7 hours total) and I was almost ready to transfer because of it but she was so much better. I ended up peeing a ton right after she left and then the placenta came out. I'd peed before then but apparently my bladder wasn't emptying all the way. I ended up peeing all over my placenta, heehee. No shakes for me!

Anyway, it was really great to have a non-hospital option to go to just to talk things over at that point, I really really appreciated not having to leave my space in the middle of the night to deal with a transfer. So if you can find someone friendly to you, even if it's over the phone so they can give you suggestions, it's a plus.
post #38 of 111
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All these responses are great! I love MDC! I am learning so much!
post #39 of 111
I wish I had educated myself a little more on birth complications. Kelvin was persistent posterior and I didn't know how to get him to move into another position. I think my birth would have been perfect if I could have turned him. Because of that I had a 3rd degree tear.

I wish I had educated my mother more and set some guidelines for her attendance. She thought of herself as a midwife, I wanted her advice and knowledge but not her interference. She wanted to do cervical checks...um...no. Also, she encouraged lots of hard pushing, maybe I wouldn't have torn if I just let my body do its thing.

I wish I had known not to go to my family doctor at the local hospital to get stitched up at 8pm. He didn't do a good job at all and also the anastesiologist wasn't in and he didn't want to call him in for just a few stitches. Well, 1 1/2 hour of stitches later I had gone through pain worse than 10 births. I admit I did have an amazingly easy 4 hour labor.
post #40 of 111
lol Everyone's talking about food, and so will I.

I had no one to cook for me and so I had to live off a very old, dry pizza and cheezy bread parked on the night table for three or four days...

and I gave birth at 12:35 pm and never got to eat until after 8 that night!! I was sooooooooooooooooooooooooooo hungry! I hadn't eaten since the night before. Labour is a lot of work (haha pun intended) and you will be starving and very thirsty afterward, even if you drink during.

Also, have a sports bottle in the bathroom to squirt water on your, ah, sore area, while you are peeing and expect to yell a lot of hoo's and ha's!

Finally, TAKE pharmaceutical grade fish oil for as much of your pregnancy as possible, about 2.5-3 g's a day, or more if you're in poor health. I believe this is the major reason my labour was so tolerable. I think it hurt less than my periods!

Other than that, I have no regrets! I want to post my birth story here. I just finished it, but it's five pages long so I don't know if that will fly =(

Hopefully it'll be up soon...
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