Originally Posted by 3_opihi
I just thought I'd ask. I met a man about a year ago, he has two sons, their mother is not in their life at all. I have three children also. Although there have been a lot of transitions, especially in the first six months, I just feel so connected with him and his boys. I love them like I love my own kids. I mean, they aren't my kids, but I love them. It's hard to explain.
I'm just wondering. Has anyone blended two families and had it be an overall positive experience for everyone?
From what you've said, I'd say they ARE your own kids. I think it's entirely possible.
Mr Toona always says to me that it's not blood that makes your family, it's love. At first I kind of yeah-yeah'd him in my head, but life's shown me otherwise, he's right on that one. Of course this is from a guy who's still on good enough terms with his exFIL to call him Dad.
And to answer your question about absolutely loving your stepkids, Yes. They can make life crazy (but all kids can from time to time), and their mothers can throw a wrench in things sometimes, but yes I love the DSC.
I think our multi-family blending has certainly positive aspects. I can't say positive for everyone because two of the other moms are just... well... they make it really really difficult. But I think our (DP and I) not playing into their games sure gives a positive approach to the kids.