My husband is why I will never deliver...

[BirthFree]

I NEED him to be home because I am not feeling settled without him here really - and I swear he's allergic to being home at night, he's been away almost every single night for at least 2 - 3 weeks. I swear this means I'm never going to go into labor and I. Will Kill. Him. if that's the case ( ).

I don't know how to express it any other way other than I don't feel settled without him here. ARGH.

It's just not helping my "I'm done now, thanks!" mood either...

[blessedmom68358]

Mine is doing a 12hr shift tonight, so isn't home either. He'll get off at 2-3am and then has a 35min drive home. Then, first thing in the morning, he has to take his car for inspection...after that, back to work until late tomorrow night. Ugh! I completely know what you're saying! God bless his hard work for us, but I hate being this pregnant with him gone. That said, I desperately need this baby to hold out past Sunday afternoon, so I don't miss my DD's first dance recital that she's so excited about (and no personal photos/videography is allowed).

[MamaHen2J&J]

Aww... I'm lucky with a husband home daily at 3pm..but I knowwhat its like to feel uneasy without him around... I sure hope it woks out... Hugs!

[elfinbaby]

Seriously. I have no idea what dh is thinking at this point. Job requires travel but I stupidly thought he'd tell his boss that in June it wasn't going to happen. He left for 5 days the first week of June. He's already been gone, sometimes halfway across the country 8 days this month. I've never birthed early but this is not something I'm willing to take a chance on. He'll also be gone from 12-8 tomorrow and sometime on Fri. Next week he has a dinner out of town scheduled on the 19th - I'm due the 22nd: The longest I've ever birthed is 6 hrs. The other 2 were 2 and 3 hrs. What's he thinking??

I don't think his boss even knows my edd. Dh is just the kind of guy that goes above and beyond at work. He does not disappoint. That's great but I think it's important to prioritize. We have lots of unfruitful discussions about his job and how it effects our family. Ugh. I hate those discussions.

So, yeah, I hear ya. I decided since I've been running around nesting (w/no help) for weeks, Sunday is my last day. I'm throwing in the towel. I need dh to do a few things this weekend but guess what? He just told me he's going to be working on a presentation that his boss is giving next week I'm so tired of this crap. It DOES make me feel very unsettled. Like I'm on my own - not in a good way. Like he's not available and I don't think it's selfish for me to feel like I need him more than his boss right now. But then he'd start with the "Do you want to live in a cardboard box?" discussion He's never been like this but he didn't have a job with responsibilities like this either.

I'm just going to try and spend next week with the kids. To hell with everything else. They've been totally neglected and I need to relax.

[PiesandAbrosmama]

This is a tough one. My hubby was a Flood adjuster last pregnancy and gone for emergancy's all the time. The last month on my pregnancy he was gone 21 of the 30 days! Anyway the day of my daughters birthday he was actually home, I couldn't sleep and I woke up went for a walk and had a little talk with God and said, "DH is finally home and today is my due date can I please go into labor" I went into labor 45 min later. Just saying my thoughts are (this is not always true) but that when we feel settled and have are main things in order we are free to let our bodies labor and it should I hope work out for all of you. Here's Hoping

[BirthFree]

I agree with "when you feel settled and safe you go into labor" that's why I'm annoyed at my DH lately about being gone. After today I will pass the birth dates of my youngest two and start to count down to the birth date of my oldest (gestational age I mean). I know they can choose their own birth day regardless of my expectations or past events but feeling unsettled just isn't helping.

Man elfinbaby, I'd be peeved at my DH re: his job. And oh my gosh, I agree, my kids have been neglected and I need to relax too. After school is done Fri., I'm sleeping in past 6 am. and will spend at least one day at home without driving ANYwhere.

[Spark]

Just offering you lots of and BirthFree!

[*Karen*]

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DH has been working a lot. But he actually has tomorrow and Friday off which will be nice. However, it is followed by a 14 hour day and then like a thousand night shifts in a row. I guess evening, 2-10 shifts. Which is a horrible shift in terms of helping me with DS, because he just gets up, eats, showers, and then leaves for work. So it is pretty much like he isn't here all day.