Originally Posted by MCR
I'd ask her parents, does she have any allergies or sensory issues which would stop her from eating any regular foods you prepare. Then if you know nothing is wrong, I plonk a plate of what we are having in front of her, I usually try to have one food that the fussy child will eat, even if it's only dinner rolls. If she eats she eats, if not she can wait till the next meal or snack. She won't starve to death.
Ds has a friend who won't eat anything without a side of mustard
He has been here when all I had was Gray Poupon, he won't touch that, he picked at dinner and ate a bit, but he survived, and it didn't harm the friendship. He's been back since. His mom hates that he's so picky, but she buys into it and lets her three boys all be picky, so each night she is a short order cook. I refuse to go there.
She lets him be picky? How do you know that?
Is it because he will occasionally try other foods in your home? That's pretty common for kids to at least try an unfamilar food in a home other than their own, peer pressure partly playing a part.
I wouldn't presume she was allowing him to be picky, considering the stories I've read from so many mamas here about their picky eaters and how their kids would really rather starve than eat certain foods, their parents have tried various means to get them to eat with little result so I think it's rather judgemental and unfair to accuse her of letting her kids be picky eaters.
Back to the OP for a moment. I'd have no problem with you politely telling my child that he/she is being rude, criticising your food, I agree that is rude and unacceptable.
However I would be furious if you insisted my child try a bit of everything on their plate, asking is fine, insisting is most certainly not.
I'd just stick with having one or two 'safe' foods and making sure she has some of those on her plate and not worry too much about her going hungry, she'll make up for it the next day.
I'm not a picky eater but there are some foods I couldn't and wouldn't possibly try if they were on my plate, even if my host thought I was being rude, not that I'd comment on it, just push it to one side.
Coleslaw being one of those, not even an incentive of money could make me put a forkful of it to my lips.