DS has appointment ont he 27th, scared to death

[Ayla Serenemoon]

Ok so here's our story.

Despite daily brushings, good nutrition, no refined sugars, exculsive bf etc ds has MAJOR cavities. They came in at two and I tried natural remidies for years. They seemsed to be at bay but then a year and a half ago they just exploded and his teeth are rotting out of his mouth.

So that's when I started trying to get on medi-cal because we have no insurance and we are a totally broke, pay check to pay check family. It's been a nightmare and after a year and half he finally has coverage and an appoitment on the 27th (which was considered the soonest "emergency" appoitment when I scheduled it in April!!)

So we are going to go the dentist on the 27th and I'm scared to death! I know ds needs so much work done and I'm so afraid that he'll freak out and not let them do it and I'm in a rual area and if he puts up a fight I have to pay to take him 5 hours away to the nearest medi-cal accepting dentist that will put him under. I'm so freaked out! Plus, selfishly I'm afraid the dentist is going to think I'm a horrible mother because of my son's teeth when I've done so much for the past 3 years to try and help him the best way I could. I did so much research and tried so hard and here I have to go hang my head in shame.

*sigh* It sucks. Any advice? Anyone been through this before?

[juliebird]

Oh Momma, don't worry. You did the best you could. You are taking your LO to the dentist for all the right reasons even though it's not comfortable for you...many people who aren't as strong (or able to "deal" with tough situations) would just avoid the dentist altogether. But you are facing it. Good for you...

hugs

and let us know how it goes, ok?

sending u positive vibes!!

[flowmom]

Originally Posted by Ayla Serenemoon

Plus, selfishly I'm afraid the dentist is going to think I'm a horrible mother because of my son's teeth when I've done so much for the past 3 years to try and help him the best way I could. I did so much research and tried so hard and here I have to go hang my head in shame.

ECC is a complex, multifactorial disease that has not been adequately researched in low-risk populations (most of the studies have been done in high-risk communities). There is no need to feel ashamed .

Originally Posted by Ayla Serenemoon

So we are going to go the dentist on the 27th and I'm scared to death! I know ds needs so much work done and I'm so afraid that he'll freak out and not let them do it and I'm in a rual area and if he puts up a fight I have to pay to take him 5 hours away to the nearest medi-cal accepting dentist that will put him under.

One thing that I've read repeatedly from dentists on dental fora is that parents often freak their kids out with their fear at the dentist office. That's why many dentists forbid parents to be with their children during procedures. Now, I don't agree with that as a policy, but I see their point. If the parent is vibrating with fear and stress, their kids will pick up on that. So, I would really prepare yourself with meditation and stress relief measures and try to trust that everything will be OK. Have a stiff whiskey before the appt. if necessary . You need to find the place within yourself where you are letting go of the guilt and stress and trust the professional to help your child. I am phobic about medical procedures so I know how hard this is.