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Oh.My.Goodness....I hadn't read this before.  

post #1 of 8
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I have heard of Marilyn Milos but I'd never read her story. Someone just posted this on another forum...I just can't imagine. I get sick to my stomach just reading this.

Quote:
Infant Circumcision: "What I Wish I Had Known"


by Marilyn Fayre Milos
Published in The Truth Seeker, "Crimes of Genital Mutilation." (July/August) 1989; 1(3):3.




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I didn't know what circumcision was when I consented to have my three sons circumcised. My doctor had told me the surgery was a necessary health measure, that it didn't hurt, and that it only took a moment to perform... like cutting the umbilical cord, I thought. I certainly wasn't prepared when, in nursing school several years later, I saw the surgery for the first time.

We students filed into the newborn nursery to find a baby strapped spread-eagle to a plastic board on a counter top across the room. He was struggling against his restraints - tugging, whimpering, and then crying helplessly. No one was tending the infant, but when I asked my instructor if I could comfort him she said "Wait till the doctor gets here." I wondered how a teacher of the healing arts could watch someone suffer and not offer assistance. I wondered about the doctor's power which could intimidate others from following protective instincts. When he did arrive, I immediately asked the doctor it I could help the baby. He told me to put my finger into the baby's mouth; I did, and the baby sucked. I stroked his little head and spoke softly to him. He began to relax and was momentarily quiet.

The silence was soon broken by a piercing scream - the baby's reaction to having his foreskin pinched and crushed as the doctor attached the clamp to his penis. The shriek intensified when the doctor inserted an instrument between the foreskin and the glans (head of the penis), tearing the two structures apart. (They are normally attached to each other during infancy so the foreskin can protect the sensitive glans from urine and feces.) The baby started shaking his head back and forth - the only part of his body free to move - as the doctor used another clamp to crush the foreskin lengthwise, which he then cut. This made the opening of the foreskin large enough to insert a circumcision instrument, the device used to protect the glans from being severed during the surgery.

The baby began to gasp and choke, breathless from his shrill continuous screams. How could anyone say circumcision is painless when the suffering is so obvious? My bottom lip began to quiver, tears filled my eyes and spilled over. I found my own sobs difficult to contain. How much longer could this go on?

During the next stage of the surgery, the doctor crushed the foreskin against the circumcision instrument and then, finally, amputated it. The baby was limp, exhausted, spent.

I had not been prepared, nothing could have prepared me, for this experience. To see a part of this baby's penis being cut off - without an anesthetic - was devastating. But even more shocking was the doctor's comment, barely audible several octaves below the piercing screams of the baby, "There's no medical reason for doing this." I couldn't believe my ears, my knees became weak, and I felt sick to my stomach. I couldn't believe that medical professionals, dedicated to helping and healing, could inflict such pain and anguish on innocent babies unnecessarily.

What had I allowed my own babies to endure? and why?

The course of my life was changed on that day in 1979. I have now dedicated my life to bringing an end to this horrendous practice.





IF ANYTHING
IS SACRED
THE HUMAN BODY
IS SACRED
—Walt Whitman
The Children of Adam
post #2 of 8
I just sent it to 2 nurses I know.
post #3 of 8
There are lots of stories by nurses on my site in my sig. Just click the blue menu bar under "Nurses".
post #4 of 8
oh, that makes me *sick* to my stomach. *sob*
post #5 of 8
Yep....that is honestly the main reason I am against circ. I understand the sensitivity and better sex and all the other 'pros' to being intact, but that story right there is my main reason for hating circumcision. I cannot fathom how a mother can hand over her infant to be tortured. Plain and simple it is abuse and torture. We (the US military that is) treat prisoners of war better than our one day old infant boys.

I saw my first circ in the NICU as a graduate nurse. After that I did all I could to never have to witness one again. Unfortunately I had to endure 4 of them beofore I was able to go to night shift. We do not do circ on night shift and becuase of that, I will never go back to day shift again. (Just for clarity, we have a circ room in our NICU. The neonatal drs do not do the circs. I work in a hospital with an L&D unit so the OB comes to circ the babies that are ready to go home from the NICU 'step-down' area.)

I am also even more appalled by the parents who circ their 24-25-26 weekers who have been with us for 3 months or more. They have been through hell to live and now must go through hell to go home.
post #6 of 8
I have met Marylin Milos. She is a wonderful person. When she started her advocacy, anesthesia was never used for the procedure and the vast majority of hospital born infant males were circed. For years she has advocated against infant circumcision to anyone who will listen - parents, doctors, nurses, etc.

In 1985, she was fired from her nursing job for advocating against circumcision:
Quote:
As a nurse, I told parents what I wished someone had told me before my sons were circumcised. I thought every parent had a right and an obligation to be fully informed. I was told to keep my mouth shut. So, I made a video of a circumcision for parents. I was told it was too much for parents to see. I said, 'Perhaps, then, it's too much for a baby to endure!' The video was censored, and, in 1985, I got the ultimate censorship * I was fired.
Now, circumcision rates are much lower in the USA and most parents are aware that they have a choice with regard to circ. Unlike the 60's, doctors are required to obtain signed parental consent for circ. Much of this is because of what Marylin started.

Never underestimate the power of one woman to create change.
post #7 of 8
Thank you so much for sharing that. I've already e-mailed it to my friends/family and am going to add it to my MySpace blog.

I NEVER understood how anyone could do this (whether it be performing the circumcision or handing your child over to get it done when you know darn well what is going to happen).

Like a PP said, this is why I don't circumcise. And this is why I get so darn mad when sheeple go ahead and do it because "it won't hurt", "it's just a little snip" and "it will look better/smell better", etc. For the love of God people, pull your heads out of your rears and stop doing this to helpless babies.

It makes me so mad. And sick at the same time. I had a hard time reading that, there's no way I could be present when that was being done.

Painless my a**.
post #8 of 8
That story makes me sick to my stomach every time I read it. :cry:
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