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post #1 of 29
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Hello ladies...I will for the most part not be participating here any longer. I have decided to seperate from my husband and between taking a full load of classes this summer and caring for my kiddos I just am not going to have the time to be here. Let alone leaving my husband changes all of my birthing plans, and will be having a hospital birth now...I just cannot handle reading a bunch of beautiful birth stories when mine will be everything but beautiful.

I am so proud of this group by the way....still no babies yet...we ROCK!! You are all a bunch of very wonderful stron women and I wish you the best at the end of your beautiful journies.
Alicia
post #2 of 29
do not forget your own strength and beauty, btw.

it takes a lot of strength to do what you are doing, and it is possible to have a beautiful hospital birth (though i think it takes a lot more effort)--so no worries.

definitely strive to spend a bit of time on you, time enjoying the summer and the end of your pregnancy! good luck with everything!
post #3 of 29
you can and will have a beautiful birth in the hospital.

But I do see where it'd be painful to read about people having the births you've been dreaming of.

Take care of yourself, take care of your family, and please stay around until the birth stories start. It's selfish of me, but I hate to lose your knowledge sooner than absolutely necessary.
post #4 of 29
Good luck to you mama--you will be missed. I am sure you will have a lovely birth, even if it is not 'perfect', or even far from it, for you will have a lovely child to bring home. (This is all so apparent for me now, of my 4 IRL friends who have been pregnant with me these last months, I am the only one still pg, you are right that this DDC is Sooooo fortunate that way, my friends have represented so many of the possible perils-- late m/c, life-incompatible chromosomal abnormalities, emergency delivery/induction for a babe who had stopped growing in utero at 3 1/4 pounds. SIGH.) Enjoy the rest of your pregnancy and I'm hoping for you the best birth experience possible!
post #5 of 29
Awwww mama. I don't know the reasons for your decision to leave your h but I did it last year after realizing I was being emotionally and verbally abused. It was an easy decision once I realized I couldn't go on living the way I was. Since leaving, I have found peace, joy and confidence in my abilities (and my soul mate who is the father of this baby ). I realized I am a strong woman. It has been a very positive experience for me overall even though there have been some bumps in the road. The single mama's board here on MDC has been a wonderful resource. PM me if you need someone to talk to.
post #6 of 29
I don't even know what to say other than you will surely be missed.

Good luck, mama! You'll do great.
post #7 of 29
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Take care of yourself mama. Your birth will be beautiful. We'll be thinking of you.
post #8 of 29
Alicia! You can and will have a beautiful birth
post #9 of 29
I am so sorry to hear about this. I hate that you and hubby are breaking up and that you are leaving the DDC but I understand. Your birth experience can still be whatever you want it to be. Don't lose sight of that. You know that when ever you are ready to return, we will all be here for you. And when you go into labor, we'll all be cyber chanting for you.
post #10 of 29
{{{BIG HUGS}}} I wish you all the best during this difficult time. Sorry to see you leave, but I understand. Your birth WILL be beautiful. It will be yours and no one else's and that is gorgeous in its own right. I wish you all the best!
post #11 of 29


I wish you could stay regardless....

we will miss you Alicia you can still have a beautiful hospital birth, so if you have your baby, please post something in here I will love to know how it went and how are you doing in general!

God Bless!
Enith
post #12 of 29
Sorry to hear things are not working out with your husband. I can't imagine going thru a divorce or seperation while pregnant. You hang tough, mama!

I do think your birth can be a wonderful experience in a hospital, welcoming a child into the world is beautiful no matter what.

Take care.
post #13 of 29
I am so sorry to hear that you are going through all of this - especially right now. I know your birth will be beautiful though, despite the circumstances. You will still have your sweet baby, no matter where you give birth. *hugs* Please keep in touch when you can, to let us know how everything is at least.
post #14 of 29
I am so sorry mama. Your birth might or might not be whatever your vision of a perfect birth is, but either way, your baby will be beautiful and amazing and if you don't get the birth you wished for, you know how quickly the importance of that will fade as the reality and love of your baby in arms grows.

Whichever way it goes for you, best of everything. And so sorry about your current situation.

post #15 of 29
I am sorry to hear about your situation I am in a similar situation myself and am planning to leave my husband also. I just have not decided if it will be before baby is born or after. Do you have any friends who can go to the hospital with you for support? I wish all the best for you. You are one brave mama
post #16 of 29
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Originally Posted by alicia9178 View Post
Hello ladies...I will for the most part not be participating here any longer. I have decided to seperate from my husband and between taking a full load of classes this summer and caring for my kiddos I just am not going to have the time to be here. Let alone leaving my husband changes all of my birthing plans, and will be having a hospital birth now...I just cannot handle reading a bunch of beautiful birth stories when mine will be everything but beautiful.

I am so proud of this group by the way....still no babies yet...we ROCK!! You are all a bunch of very wonderful stron women and I wish you the best at the end of your beautiful journies.
Alicia
You should really take a look at this:
http://navelgazingbirthstories.blogs...tos-words.html
post #17 of 29
Alicia,
I am sorry that this is a tough time for you. I wish you well. If you haven't read Gentle Birth Choices already, I suggest you do now. There is quite a bit of 'having a good birth at the hospital' information in it. And... I see no reason for you to leave our ddc unless your time is so restricted that you don't have 5 minutes a week to check in with us. We are all planning a "perfect" birth, but as we ALL know not every birth is what we plan. They are all still births and all still very important. I hope you reconsider that choice. I wish you many blessings with the process of leaving your husband. I hope it can be as gentle on you and the children as possible.
post #18 of 29
You will be missed! Best of luck in your new path!!
post #19 of 29
Not in your DDC, but : for you.

Feel free to pm me if you need anything.
post #20 of 29
I am sorry to hear that you are separating from your husband but I hope that you know that you can still have your HB. Be empowered! You are woman! Can do it confidently either by yourself or with a friend at your side. Good luck! You will be in my T&P.

Chelci
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