Originally Posted by lab80
DD was born over a week ago and our apartment looks the worst it's ever looked and it is DRIVING ME CRAZY. As an OCD person...I cannot clean because it hinders my after-birth healing...The more I move the more I bleed...it's aggrivating. Asking him to clean is like pulling teeth. All of the visitors we have had, had not offered to help clean anything(
My mw gave me a really great sign to put on the front door that says:
Please be a considerate friend/family member and help this family.
Providing a calm and loving welcome for the parents and the new baby is the responsibility of everyone who comes in contact with the new family. Please support this fragile and glorious begining.
It is important for the baby, parents and siblings to rest and get to know each other in a quiet and peaceful atmosphere. It is requested that EVERYONE limit themselves to short visits. 15 minutes represents a short visit.
This is a very special time and the desire to share it with you must be weighed against the need for rest and quiet. Those who can understand this need, help the most.
Before you leave, CONSIDER THE HELP IT WOULD BE to lend a hand~ quietly wash dishes, take a load of laundry home, water the plants, sweep the floor, go to the grocery or bring back a prepared meal, or any other nice thing you feel inclined to do! Your consideration and contribution will be remembered long after this child has grown.
IT IS IMPORTANT TO "MOTHER" MOTHERS AFTER A BIRTH!
Thank you for your helping hand!"
Maybe you could print out something like this. Actually after just typing this out, I think I am going to make one of these today with some slight modifications to have ready to put on the door! Hey, it may not help with the dp./dh factor(bless them!)
, but at least we will hopefully get our dishes in the dishwasher!