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post #21 of 106
Oh Changed, I totally understand. I lost a bunch of weight about six years ago and kept it off, then gained a ton when I was pregnant and still had quite a bit to lose when I got pregnant again. No matter what, I can't help feeling huge and ugly. With my daughter, I loved my rounded belly, but now it just seems...gross. I don't know how to describe it.
So lots of hugs coming your way.
I have an appointment tomorrow night and I'm going to look at beads! I can't wait! I keep thinking about holding those beads during labor and the strength they'll give me. Okay, now I'm just sounding extremely corny. Ahh, the hormones...
post #22 of 106
I went by myself to BRU last night and I think I've found our crib! I'm so excited, and it's so nice. The only thing is we definitely can't afford the whole set (it also has a dresser & armoire) so we'll have to mix & match pieces - but I'm not too bummed about that. I just can't justify spending more on my baby's furniture than what we spent on our own bedroom set, lol.

Other than that, my sister officially asked me for addresses for my shower, so something is in the works. That makes me feel special, and also makes me realize how SOON this pregnancy is going to be over! It's flying by, seriously! There are days when I think to myself, "I'm never going to be pregnant with my 1st baby after this," and I get a little sad - but looking forward to meeting her is enough to cheer me right back up!

Still can't concentrate at work.

Still only want to look at baby stuff online.

Oh - I bought my beads last night! They are so pretty! I hope everyone loves them - now I just have to think of a positive saying to put with them for you all. I can't wait to mail them out!
post #23 of 106
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Still can't concentrate at work.

Still only want to look at baby stuff online.
SAME HERE! I used to be such a model employee type, too.
Congrats on finding the crib! I'm excited because I've narrowed it down to five that I like. Finishing the nursery during the second trimester is really important to me, but I am running out of time, and I've done very little in there.

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I'm 22 weeks and I'm sick. I have some sort of stomach bug.
Hope you're feeling better!

TaraRae - Sorry to hear about your DH's grandpa. Hope everything works out for the best with the u/s and your family.

triple07 Have you tried calling about the furniture? Maybe if you explain the situation they will be more cooperative? I hope they can get it to you sooner. I feel so sorry for you not having a comfy place to sleep.

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Greetings, everyone!

I'm sorry and saddened a little to hear you guys struggle with your weight. Don't get me wrong - I mean that in the best way - I just wish it didn't have to be present in your minds.
ITA! Best of luck with your upcoming move!

I was sad to discover the little bead shop near my house went out of business some time back. I was hoping to get some great beads for y'all there. Now, I'm not sure where I'll go - Hobby Lobby or Michael's may be my only options unless I order online.

Everything else is going really well. Yesterday, DH finally got a long overdue BIG promotion and raise. I'm so proud and happy for him. So now I' can talk to HR later today or tomorrow to find out my options for maternity leave / leave of absence. I don't really intend to come back, but I'm not interested in burning in bridges either.

I'm hoping to get nursery furniture soon, and get the room put together. I'm afraid I won't feel up to it later into the pregnancy. I want to do it now while I'm feeling so good.

Hope everyone is having a great week!
post #24 of 106
^ Dude, my pregnancy book says the 3rd trimester starts at 25 weeks. Um...wth? I'll be in my 3rd trimester come Sunday? So much for getting anything done during the 2nd trimester! I haven't even cleaned the baby's room, let alone gotten anything decorated or set up! I think it's off by a few weeks - another site online says I don't start the 3rd till 4th of July. I like that better!
post #25 of 106
According to Amazing Pregnancy, my 3rd tri starts on the 1st day of my 28th week, July 25. My doula says it starts the 1st day of the 29th week. Everyone counts it differently.
post #26 of 106
oh, it's fun to read that we're all starting to get ready now! Carrie, 25 weeks? I thought 3rd tri started at 27!! I guess it's all rather inconsequential anyway, but WOW! This is all very exciting. Glad to hear you found the crib you want. :

I've been in the same mode - in fact, I did a blog post about getting stuff ready yesterday (link in my sig). I spent time washing and sorting all those wee clothes I've collected over the years, only to discover how little I actually have for each size! I got my stroller over the weekend, though, which has been weighing heavy, since the one I really wanted was over $800 new! I managed to get one used on eBay for just $240! I'm trying to be a responsible consumer and get most of the baby stuff used, and have been looking for this stroller for the past 3-4 months!

Cribs are a whole different story... I just don't know what to do. I'll cosleep with the boys, but with only me in the bed, and having never done this before, I don't know how long it will be feasible or safe. I have a double pack n play, and I'm hoping to make do with that, a baby hammock, and either a cosleeper or an amby bed (second hammock) until at least February. Any thoughts on this from you experienced mamas? I just can't see buying a crib (or 2) right now.

Today I'm taking my little sister to the Oregon coast for her 30th bday... should be an amazing little day trip.
post #27 of 106
Woot woot! 22 weeks today!!

Getting super anxious. I just bought the 1st clothing for my little girl. They are so adorable! But I'm not buying anything else bc I'm getting a TON of girl clothing given to me by family and freinds. Well... I may buy something for Halloween or something that says "Daddy's Little Girl." I'm a sucker for that kind of stuff.

Starting to worry about fitness a bit. I've never been really fit and I've never ha sto schedule in time to do it. I want to do it in the afternoons, but my boog man (aka ds) is determined to foil all mt stetching by trying to get a piggy back ride or sit in my lap. I fear I shall never master the flat-footed squat, lmao.

Oh and I think I'm starting to get my 1st stretch mark for this pregnancy. Where my belly button is pierced (that's where I got my 1st stretch mark with my son too) there's redness. It's not sore like it would be if it was infected, but the redness is staying. I knew it would evntually happen, so why am I a little sad?? Well, guess I'm about to be a tiger again! RAWR!!!

I keep thinking more and more about going for my VBAC. I'm sooo excited, but I'm trying to prepare myself for another c-section. I'm confident that I will be sucessful and that I will give birth to a beautiful baby girl with no issues, but there's always that what if. So I guess I'm trying to prepare myslef for a let down so that if I do get a repeat for necessary reasons, I don't get so upset and I'm still able to enjoy the wonders of being a enw mom.

That's about all of my blabbering!!
post #28 of 106
Celeste- That sounds like plenty to me. You should look into getting a double sided bed rail and plan on putting your bed directly on the floor by 4 or 5 months. It's hard enough to keep one baby from crawling off.

I adore cosleeping as does DH so we aren't buying a crib or anything like that. I had 2 beautiful pottery barn style cribs and we gave them both away to my sister and brother who never use them either because they cosleep now too!

Amy- I got my very first stretch mark there too with my first. Luckily, it ripped so badly that time it hasn't ever worsened.
post #29 of 106
We had a second hand crib with ds1 that everyone said we'd 'need.' I made all the linens for it, too. Well, when ds had other plans about sleeping anywhere but with me and dh, much less in the crib, we got rid of it almost as quickly as we got it set up. We've co-slept with our babes ever since, getting them their own "big kid" bed around the 2 year mark.

I will say though, I often find myself drooling over the pottery barn kids catalogs and their baby linens. Dd's toddler bed fits crib sheets so that's how I get my fix of all those pretty linens. I've had a ball making sweet little pillows from vintage quilts and and other fabrics to match some of the PB sheets. I'm sure I'll do the same for this babe once she's ready for her own bed.
post #30 of 106
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Well, after I was on WW for a long time that's what I was at. I bet 1500 would be ok for me too though.

I think a lot of it is mental. Lately I don't feel satisfied after I eat for some reason. .
Oh my gosh, ALL I want is sweet stuff. I usually don't have much of a sweet tooth-I eat tons of fruits and veggies and prefer that. I'm also vegetarian, and all I've wanted recently is ice cream, cookies, and hamburgers!! It's crazy what our bodies make us want.
post #31 of 106
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I keep thinking more and more about going for my VBAC. I'm sooo excited, but I'm trying to prepare myself for another c-section. I'm confident that I will be sucessful and that I will give birth to a beautiful baby girl with no issues, but there's always that what if. So I guess I'm trying to prepare myslef for a let down so that if I do get a repeat for necessary reasons, I don't get so upset and I'm still able to enjoy the wonders of being a enw mom.

That's about all of my blabbering!!
where are you VBAC'ing? i had a VBAC 2 years ago but didnt transfer until 33 weeks..i know the fears all too well. You can do this though....there are so few MEDICAL reasons for a repeat. are you reading? are you on ICAN? (i had to unsub from ICAN b/c i was reading about too many interventions and it wasnt making putting me in a good place for another VBAC if that makes sense). it ebbs and flows over there though.
post #32 of 106
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Oh - I bought my beads last night! They are so pretty! I hope everyone loves them - now I just have to think of a positive saying to put with them for you all. I can't wait to mail them out!
I went to get my beads today and I had my *ideal* stone in mind, but the store only had TINY beads in the stone I wanted So I am still looking for the perfect bead. I am going to look up other shops around here...

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^ Dude, my pregnancy book says the 3rd trimester starts at 25 weeks. Um...wth?
Yeah everybody counts it differently. I usually count 3rd tri starting at 27 weeks. But that, too, is just around the corner for the both of us

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the one I really wanted was over $800 new! I managed to get one used on eBay for just $240! I'm trying to be a responsible consumer and get most of the baby stuff used, and have been looking for this stroller for the past 3-4 months!

I just can't see buying a crib (or 2) right now.
Is it the peg perego??? I totally want one of those that the front seat can turn around so I can see both my beautiful babes at the same time

And as for the crib, we got one free at SAMS Place (a thrift store, that is free for military, on bases) and we used it a little bit but I don't really see that happening too much. DS has been cosleeping MOST of the time since he was born and exclusively for about 4 months now... Plus, when he wasn't cosleeping in the beginning, he slept wonderfully in the pack n play

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getting them their own "big kid" bed around the 2 year mark.
Thats what we are planning on doing now...
post #33 of 106
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Originally Posted by PassionateWriter View Post
where are you VBAC'ing? i had a VBAC 2 years ago but didnt transfer until 33 weeks..i know the fears all too well. You can do this though....there are so few MEDICAL reasons for a repeat. are you reading? are you on ICAN? (i had to unsub from ICAN b/c i was reading about too many interventions and it wasnt making putting me in a good place for another VBAC if that makes sense). it ebbs and flows over there though.
I'm VBACing at Baptist hospital in Little Rock, AR. According to state laws I can't get a midwife or do a HBAC (trust me, I asked around like crazy, lol). Ths hospital is the best one to birth at if you want to get as close to a home birth as you can and they are very supportive of natural childbirth. And my OB is the shizz! He's anti-repeat c-section and is very relaxed about everything. He's even gonna let me go past 42 weeks if I want to!!! He knows I refuse a repeat unless absolutely necessary (emergency) and agrees with me that that's the best way to go. And my doulas are so great also. I'm so excited to be doing this, lol.

I KNOW I can do it and I'm so ready to experience labor finally, but I'm just afraid of one of those "OMG the baby's heartbeat keeps dropping my stomach is killing me, could I be rupturing?" types of things. I've so far read the following books:
Ina May Gaskin's Guide to Childbirth
Birth After Cesarean by Bruce L. Flamm
The VBAC Companion
2 Bradley books (the original one by Bradley & one written by a coach)
Thinking Woman's Guide
And another which I can't recall the name of


I'm a member of my local ICAN, I'm active in several groups directed towards natural childbirth and VBAC's, I'm researching like crazy to make sure I'm not missing anything. I guess I'm just getting anxious, lol. I want to hold my little girl sooo bad.
post #34 of 106
For some reason, the whole rupture thing really doesn't worry me. With my first VBAC, it did a little but truthfully I never thought about it once during labor. Good luck with your VBAC!
post #35 of 106
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For some reason, the whole rupture thing really doesn't worry me. With my first VBAC, it did a little but truthfully I never thought about it once during labor. Good luck with your VBAC!
Yeah I'm not really worried about it, but I know it will be in the back of my mind. Hopefully the contractions will be too painful for me to think about it in labor, lmao. jk

Thanks for the GL wishes. Very muchly appreciated!
post #36 of 106
... cheering on all the VBACers!

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Is it the peg perego??? I totally want one of those that the front seat can turn around so I can see both my beautiful babes at the same time
No, though I looked at that one. I got the Mountain Buggy Urban Double - it seems like everyone who has one worships it, lol. I wanted something I could easily fit thru doors and maneuver myself being alone. I know it'll be heavy, but I'm convinced it's the best option for me.

Thanks for all the feedback on sleeping arrangements. I'll take the $ I would have spent on bedding for them (crib, toddler bed, linens, etc) and just buy us a big, fabulous mattress.

I took my sis to the beach today, and boy was that a mistake. I'm having a lot of BHx lately, and today was over the top. I was actually worried. Plus, my mid/upper back was in spasm for almost the whole of the 3 hours in the car. No more of that for me, that's for sure.
post #37 of 106
Oh no! I hope you're feeling better today Celeste.
post #38 of 106
Thread Starter 
So DH and I had an argument yesterday...

When he got off the phone with his mom I asked if he every planned on telling them that we are having a homebirth, since they are :sigh: flying up here for the birth, and they won't be at the birth like last time since it was in a hospital (I didn't really want MIL and SIL there that time either...) So he says that I should tell them since its "my thing"

Then he says that I was too excited for him to say that he didn't want a homebirth and all this crap and I just kept getting so mad! Then he said HE doesn't even want to be there. If I am having my mom here, then why does he have to be there because it grosses him out and I about ripped off his head...

Eventually it was dropped without resolving a damn thing and we watched in disgust as the Celtics killed the Lakers...
post #39 of 106
Crap. That just stinks. I hope you can work it out.
post #40 of 106
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Then he says that I was too excited for him to say that he didn't want a homebirth and all this crap and I just kept getting so mad! Then he said HE doesn't even want to be there. If I am having my mom here, then why does he have to be there because it grosses him out and I about ripped off his head...

Eventually it was dropped without resolving a damn thing and we watched in disgust as the Celtics killed the Lakers...
That's really harsh. Grosses him out? I'd tell him to grow up, but that's just me. Hon, you must be so upset. I'd let it rest for a day or maybe even not a whole day before bringing it up again - I'd tell him of course you need him there, but you don't need his family there and that it's his responsibility as your partner to tell them that.

Just as an aside, I've been fighting with Chris lately too b/c he's been making really stupid comments - it's like we pg women are more hormonal and emotional, but these men start getting really dumb and insensitive at the same time. And I nearly flipped on my little brother-in-law the other day b/c he was being such an effing jerk about the cloth diapers. It's like, would you just be SUPPORTIVE?!

I'll be thinking of you, babe.
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