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post #1 of 16
6/16/08 at 2:38pm
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I just wanted to share. My sil had a baby two months ago and I never asked her if she had him circumcized. It's none of my business, but I also didn't want to be heartbroken is she had informed me that they had the surgery done so I avoided asking. She knows my son is intact and that I disapprove of circumcision in general, but I never tried to influence her decision concerning her own son.

Just yesterday, when visiting for the first time, I noticed during a diaper change that he is intact! I am so relieved! I didn't say anything, I just smiled inside, snuggled him close and felt that my new nephew is one lucky little boy!

There is one more intact boy in the world! Yeah!
post #2 of 16
6/16/08 at 2:49pm
YAY! Congratulations!
post #3 of 16
6/16/08 at 3:43pm
Maybe you influenced her. Great job.
post #4 of 16
6/16/08 at 3:48pm
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Originally Posted by Sileree View Post
Maybe you influenced her. Great job.
awesome!
I'd make sure though that she reads the Warning for Parents of Intact Sons thread. Would have been really heartbreaking if the little guy gets circ'd later due to doctor's ignorance.
post #5 of 16
6/16/08 at 3:56pm
You know, I really don't want to be a wet blanket, because you probably know exactly what you saw.

I just wanted to throw it out there that I've seen plenty of boys who I know were circed who don't look circed at all. Very loose circs seem to be more common these days and it can be really hard to tell from just a casual glance.
post #6 of 16
6/16/08 at 4:02pm
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Originally Posted by l_olive View Post
You know, I really don't want to be a wet blanket, because you probably know exactly what you saw.

I just wanted to throw it out there that I've seen plenty of boys who I know were circed who don't look circed at all. Very loose circs seem to be more common these days and it can be really hard to tell from just a casual glance.
I was thinking the same thing. I wouldn't trust myself to tell the difference without asking.
post #7 of 16
6/16/08 at 4:09pm
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Originally Posted by leila1213 View Post
I was thinking the same thing. I wouldn't trust myself to tell the difference without asking.
From far away, perhaps, but if you are right next to someone, its pretty obvious. If the glans did not show, he is not circed.
post #8 of 16
6/16/08 at 4:11pm
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Originally Posted by tennisdude23 View Post
From far away, perhaps, but if you are right next to someone, its pretty obvious. If the glans did not show, he is not circed.
What about the converse? If a little bit of glans shows, is it conclusive that the boy is circed?
post #9 of 16
6/16/08 at 4:13pm
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Originally Posted by l_olive View Post
You know, I really don't want to be a wet blanket, because you probably know exactly what you saw.

I just wanted to throw it out there that I've seen plenty of boys who I know were circed who don't look circed at all. Very loose circs seem to be more common these days and it can be really hard to tell from just a casual glance.
I agree with sending the link to the Warning for Parents of Intact Sons thread - this would also put to rest whether he possibly has a loose circ too, since I'd assume the SIL would say something if you sent it and it was not needed, kwim?

But I've seen a couple of babies with loose circs and it was still pretty obvious that they were circed because of the small bit of dark purple/red glans peeking out.

I think that is wonderful that your nephew is intact!
post #10 of 16
6/16/08 at 4:50pm
Well, a foreskin cone-shaped tip would certify he's intact.
post #11 of 16
6/16/08 at 5:00pm
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Originally Posted by tennisdude23 View Post
From far away, perhaps, but if you are right next to someone, its pretty obvious. If the glans did not show, he is not circed.
I know of four boys in my mom's group, all were circed with the clamp, and none have any glans showing. They've discussed how "gross" it is, but that it's supposed to be better, so they all decided they'd just have to learn to live with it. :
post #12 of 16
6/17/08 at 12:55am
At least they arnt getting it done again...poor kids...

My nephew had some foreskin left and healed horribly wrong. By the time they were done with him, he had almost no penis left. I mean, I saw him before and after and then after again and then after again (he had TWO corrective surgeries) and he went from (not to be graphic) the same *size* as my ds to well...a little nub. Maybe 1/4 the size it was. Its just so sad....that poor kid is going to have some very painful erections when he goes through puberty
post #13 of 16
6/17/08 at 1:58am
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Originally Posted by tennisdude23 View Post
From far away, perhaps, but if you are right next to someone, its pretty obvious. If the glans did not show, he is not circed.
My nephew is not circed but definately has a glans that shows. But not for lack of trying, my sis wanted it done but no ped or OB was available before her hospital d/c to do it. So she left it as is.

No circs for my 2 DS's, all intact and happy

Just my :
post #14 of 16
6/17/08 at 3:22am
The new looser circs often still cover the whole glans so it is possible to be circed and have the glans hidden totally.

I am glad he is intact.
post #15 of 16
6/17/08 at 12:40pm
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Originally Posted by MCatLvrMom2A&X View Post
The new looser circs often still cover the whole glans so it is possible to be circed and have the glans hidden totally.

I am glad he is intact.
Ok, that's really weird; I have never heard of that. If its not showing, then its more of a partial circ. I guess.
post #16 of 16
6/17/08 at 6:03pm
Thread Starter 
The first time was a glance, but today, she was over again and I was sitting right next to her when she was changing him and I really looked (I can only say something like that here without anyone thinking I'm some pervert! lol!). I looked really good because I too, doubted myself and thought maybe it was too good to be true, but it looks just like my sons penis. It is cone shaped at the tip just like someone earlier mentioned. It looks perfectly normal to me (intact being normal, of course!)

The conversation about whether you can tell or not is interesting. I too, often wonder about that. A friend of mine had her son circumcized and they "left too much skin" so they did it again. I guess circumcision is somewhat of an "art" (however barbaric) and everyone does it differently. "Beauty" is in the eye of the beholder. What I want to know is why can't the penis in it's natural state be "beautiful?" Just leave it alone!!!!

I still haven't said anything to my sil, but I could send her the link. She does know not to retract and she knows to watch that doctors and anyone who changes him do not attempt to retract him because she has listened to all my stories and frustrations with this concerning my son so I am confident she at least has the basics done when it comes to care of the intact penis.
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