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post #41 of 128
If I just pop by I expect nothing. If the place is a mess because you weren't expecting me than that is my own fault. Same goes for people just popping by my place.

If I know you are coming than the place should be in order. Tidy, clean bathroom, dishes stacked they don't have to be clean. Dog hair swept up.

I think dirty bathrooms are #1 on my gross list though. Dirty, crunchy hand towels with visable stains on it. Ewww!
post #42 of 128
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Originally Posted by ParisApril View Post
If I just pop by I expect nothing. If the place is a mess because you weren't expecting me than that is my own fault. Same goes for people just popping by my place.

If I know you are coming than the place should be in order. Tidy, clean bathroom, dishes stacked they don't have to be clean. Dog hair swept up.

I think dirty bathrooms are #1 on my gross list though. Dirty, crunchy hand towels with visable stains on it. Ewww!
See, all the things I listed as bugging me are things that I take care of ASAP even without company. If I hadn't gotten to something yet when you showed up, I'd clear off the couch (if that was one of the things) and ask you to sit and give me a minute. Or, since you'd be a close friend if you're dropping in suddenly, "I need to take care of a few things, mind tagging along for a minute?"
post #43 of 128
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Originally Posted by Collinsky View Post
I have cleaned his place, we doused everything with bleach and scrubbed and swept and repainted. The smell remained. I think it's the smell of evil.
Ack! I know that smell! It has permeated the apartment we just moved into. I really think it IS evil...

Here is my short list:
-dirty toilet. Don't care about the bowl, but the seat and the part where the hinge is should be cleaned.
-no soap in the bathroom, crusty or no hand towel
-stench
-mold
-dog and cat poo. how can anyone stand it just laying there on the floor?
-nasty carpet. not stained, nasty slimey carpet
-nasty sitting spaces. Like couches that smell like sour milk and wet dog and have a fine film of grease on them *shudder*
post #44 of 128
Wow, I would be afraid to have some of you over, ever Mostly because I almost always have dirty dishes sitting somewhere other than in the kitchen. Not for days at a time, but sometimes for a day. And unfortunately I now have to keep the cat box in the corner of the kitchen, which I think is gross, but we don't have a big house and we have a 1-year-old, so, there are only so many places to put it.

For me, I'm grossed out if I get the impression that someone isn't even trying to clean. If it's clear that there is built up disgustingness on several different surfaces, that's gross. It's double gross if they have small children and it's like that. If I see a windowsill that's dusty or something, that's not bad, but if there is stickyness with hair and dirt incorporated into it anywhere, well that's just sad. And that said, if anyone on here ever comes to my house, please give me at least a couple hours notice.

Regarding the pink stuff around the bathtub, I don't know why that happens, but when I lived in Georgia, my bathtub always turned pink, almost immediately after cleaning it. Anywhere water pooled at all would turn pink.
post #45 of 128
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Originally Posted by wednesday View Post
You can wear a rubber glove...like the kind made for cleaning that goes up to your elbow.
I'd still throw up. I nearly throw up using my long handled disposable toilet cleaners.

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Originally Posted by sapphire_chan View Post
They sell pumice stones on sticks. Just attach a longer stick to one of those.

Also, turn off the water to your toilet and flush. Empty! No bailing.
I might be able to do that but I'd have to throw it away afterwards.

Our toilets don't actually have all the time rings. We do have hard water though and they require cleaning every 4 days or so which seems excessive for other places I've lived in which the bowl got cleaned 2 twice a month while the seat got wiped down more often. I know its just the water though as we have issues with our diapers too. Perhaps I should put calgon in the bowl

I also throw away any storage containers that get moldy. It happens rarely but in the deep recesses sometimes you forget something. Into the trash it goes. Dh tries to catch it before I notice though, he doesn't like it when I throw them away. I'm sure as heck not cleaning them though!
post #46 of 128
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Originally Posted by SAHDS View Post
I don't like dirty:

strong, unpleasant odors (urine, cigarettes, pets, garbage)
visible catbox
stained carpet
filthy blinds
dirty toilets
floors that need vacuuming and mopping
dirty dishes
messy kitchen, period.
messy bathroom, period.

I don't mind a mess:

a pile of clean clothes that need to be folded
toys spread out because they're being used
unmade beds

Will I judge? Nope. Will I be uncomfortable? Most definitely.
: My house is always a mess, I have piles of paper on the banquet, clean chlothes that are to be folded on one couch, I rarely empty the dishrack after the dishes are dry. But it is not dirty, the bathroom is disinfected and clean, my floors are sweeped, I have clean sheets on the bed, etc.

and smells bug me too
post #47 of 128
dirty dishes anywhere but the sink if old
poop or pee on the floor and no attempt to clean it
yucky bathroom w/ no tissue
dirty clothes scattered all over......in a pile is fine, in a basket is even better
trash or garbage laying about here and there
an overflowing garbage can

and ok i admit surfaces covered with too much stuff, i spend my time metally filing your papers neatly away, putting your gracerys away, etc., sorting your recyclables...

but as long as there someplace to sit with nothing visible that needs to be thrown away or washed, if most of the surfaces are relatively clear, i can walk without bumping into stuff and the bathroom isn't nasty, its cool

i actually don't mind stink so much
post #48 of 128
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Originally Posted by ~Megan~ View Post
I'd still throw up. I nearly throw up using my long handled disposable toilet cleaners.



I might be able to do that but I'd have to throw it away afterwards.

Our toilets don't actually have all the time rings. We do have hard water though and they require cleaning every 4 days or so which seems excessive for other places I've lived in which the bowl got cleaned 2 twice a month while the seat got wiped down more often. I know its just the water though as we have issues with our diapers too. Perhaps I should put calgon in the bowl

I also throw away any storage containers that get moldy. It happens rarely but in the deep recesses sometimes you forget something. Into the trash it goes. Dh tries to catch it before I notice though, he doesn't like it when I throw them away. I'm sure as heck not cleaning them though!


You might want to rethink that attitude. We are actually having a problem with global warming and way too much garbage and pollution in this world! I go way out my way everyday to do good things for the environment and people like you just don't give a s**t. People like you make me ! Good for your DH at least someone is thinking in your household!

P.S. Reading your post makes me want to throw up!
post #49 of 128
as a realtor we see all sorts of "homes" on a weekly basis .. and I distinctly remember one a few years ago .. we knocked on the door and this great big man answered the door he was wearing an sleeveless undershirt that did not cover his big belly ... he positively wreaked of sweat and beer , he had a garlic sausage in one hand and a cigartte in the other .. as he stepped backed to let us in the smell of all of the above was distinctly mixed with dog and cat pea.......wow -- I was gagging and had to go back outside. Fortunately my DH is also a realtor and so he went in and showed our clients. I still feel ill thinking about that place. (Needless to say it was on the market a very long time!)
post #50 of 128
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Originally Posted by ParisApril View Post


You might want to rethink that attitude. We are actually having a problem with global warming and way too much garbage and pollution in this world! I go way out my way everyday to do good things for the environment and people like you just don't give a s**t. People like you make me ! Good for your DH at least someone is thinking in your household!

P.S. Reading your post makes me want to throw up!
Helpful hint: If you're trying to convert someone to your way of thinking, insulting them is not the way to go. Your post doesn't exactly inspire someone to hug trees, you know? You can be informative without being aggressive.

Back to topic: I have to say that for me, smell is also the number one offender. And I have a morbid fear of mold, so if I saw that in someone's bathroom I'd run away shrieking. But if a house is just messy (not outright nasty), I'm actually more comfortable than if the place is spotless...
post #51 of 128
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Originally Posted by beccalou79 View Post
Helpful hint: If you're trying to convert someone to your way of thinking, insulting them is not the way to go. Your post doesn't exactly inspire someone to hug trees, you know? You can be informative without being aggressive.

Back to topic: I have to say that for me, smell is also the number one offender. And I have a morbid fear of mold, so if I saw that in someone's bathroom I'd run away shrieking. But if a house is just messy (not outright nasty), I'm actually more comfortable than if the place is spotless...
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post #52 of 128
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Originally Posted by ParisApril View Post


You might want to rethink that attitude. We are actually having a problem with global warming and way too much garbage and pollution in this world! I go way out my way everyday to do good things for the environment and people like you just don't give a s**t. People like you make me ! Good for your DH at least someone is thinking in your household!

P.S. Reading your post makes me want to throw up!
Wow, totally uncalled for, and to be honest it is bordering on being a UAV. Please try to be respectful even if you don't agree with something that is said/done. If cleaning or reusing acontainer that has had mold in it makes her feel physically ill, that's not an attitude, it's an uncontrollable gut reaction, likely a very real one to her. All the snark in the world won't settle her stomach.
post #53 of 128
i've thrown away the occaisional storage container too, meagan.
post #54 of 128
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Originally Posted by beccalou79 View Post
Helpful hint: If you're trying to convert someone to your way of thinking, insulting them is not the way to go. Your post doesn't exactly inspire someone to hug trees, you know? You can be informative without being aggressive.
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For instance, how about something like:
"Since your dh isn't bothered by that stuff, could you redistribute the chores in your family so you generate less waste?"

Really, if you're getting sick from doing a chore, it shouldn't be yours to do.
post #55 of 128
I had a friend a long time ago that would never clean anything.

One time I went over after church. Before church, her 4-5 yr old had gotten up early, taken off a poopy pull-up, and sat on the carpet to watch tv. She did not clean it up before going to church. At all. When I came over, I watched the dog lick it up.

She also had a mama cat in the basement who kept moving the newborn kittens from the warm pile of blankets onto the cold cement floor. The kittens died. She left them. For weeks.

These are just TWO of the nasty things I saw at her house. She had 4 kids at the time, and now has 5.

THAT is BEYOND disgusting to me. So I kind of use her as a rating. If your house is cleaner than hers, it's fine!
post #56 of 128
When I'm in someone else's home I don't mind clutter as long as it's not in my way. If they have a dog or cat I expect that their house will smell like it and that I will leave with pet hair on me. I don't like seeing a litterbox unless it's clean and there isn't litter on the floor. I was once at someone's house who asked me to take off my shoes and I had to walk on cat litter to use the bathroom. That was pretty icky.
I don't care if their bathroom is moldy or their sink has gross old dishes in it as long as I'm not taking a shower or doing something in that sink.
As long as I can sit in a chair, eat at the table and not have anything gross on my feet when I leave I'm ok.
There's a difference between messy and dirty. Dirty is gross, messy is life.
post #57 of 128
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Originally Posted by beccalou79 View Post
Helpful hint: If you're trying to convert someone to your way of thinking, insulting them is not the way to go. Your post doesn't exactly inspire someone to hug trees, you know? You can be informative without being aggressive.
I'm not trying to convert her. I'm just giving my opinion on an issue that is very important to me. Someday she will know that I was right. Feel free to report me if you wish.

And reading her post did and still does make me want to throw up!
post #58 of 128
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Originally Posted by ParisApril View Post


You might want to rethink that attitude. We are actually having a problem with global warming and way too much garbage and pollution in this world! I go way out my way everyday to do good things for the environment and people like you just don't give a s**t. People like you make me ! Good for your DH at least someone is thinking in your household!

P.S. Reading your post makes me want to throw up!
Yeah, I'm sure you really converted her with that little gem. :

I recycle like crazy, even behind people at work. And you know what? I'm totally guilty of throwing away a nasty storage container before. It was GROSS and making me sick, and it went in the trash. If something makes you ill, you can't help that. Give her a break.

OP, I can stand a little mess (like clean laundry or toys out) but everything must be deep down clean. I can tolerate more at other people's homes as long as they dont stink .. but at mine, floors and all surfaces must be fresh and clean, smell good (I love to burn soy tarts and candles), dishes clean and put away (I have a thing about dirty dishes, even in the sink) bathroom must be sparkling clean with a fresh smell. No dust, dirty windows, etc. I'll admit, I'm a bit anal about how clean my house is.

But the one area where I fail MISERABLY? My room. I'm nuts about having fresh, clean sheets on the bed, and I do laundry daily. But I'm awful about putting it away. You will find piles of clean laundry all over my room. I just can't keep it all put away like I should.
post #59 of 128
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Originally Posted by ParisApril View Post
I'm not trying to convert her. I'm just giving my opinion on an issue that is very important to me. Someday she will know that I was right. Feel free to report me if you wish.

And reading her post did and still does make me want to throw up!
If it's an issue that's truly important to you then you should realize it will take more than your individual desire to make a difference. Nobody has ever changed the world (in a positive way, that is) by alienating others. You can recycle all you want, and boycott plastic water bottles all the livelong day, but your efforts will be wasted if your attitude turns others off of environmentalism altogether. To tell you the truth, the snarky way you've worded your signature line is probably making someone twist off the cap of a 20 oz. Aquafina right now, just out of spite.
post #60 of 128
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Originally Posted by ParisApril View Post
I'm not trying to convert her. I'm just giving my opinion on an issue that is very important to me. Someday she will know that I was right. Feel free to report me if you wish.

And reading her post did and still does make me want to throw up!
And you are totally entitled to your opinion, and to be honest the point is not whether you are right or wrong, the point is that there was no reason to be disrepectful, and that if you care about the earth and want to improve things, a little friendly teaching will go so much further than snark.
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