|What is interesting to me is that nowhere in this thread has anyone mentioned that they will start considering letting their children stay home alone when their CHILDREN feel ready.
|What I was trying to say is that I wouldn't talk about it until my child talked to me first, then, as I originally pointed out, that we start talking about it together. Not for them to make the decision, but to start evaluating the situation at that point.
I brought it up to my child first. IMO it showed her that I
felt she was old enough & mature enough to handle the responsbility of being by herself for 30-60minutes. I asked her if she wanted to stay by herself or come with me. Sometimes she wanted to stay, other times she wanted to come. IMO if she did not feel she was ready she would not have stayed by herself. sometimes kids need to be pushed a little to do things you know they are capable of but they need that extra bit of confidence from you to know it themselves. It's been about 9months since I've been leaving my 9yo by herself & at times with her sisters(who are 6, & 7). If I ask her if she's coming she wants to know what we're doing first. If we're NOT going to the bookstore or store where she MAY get something she doesn't want to come.lol