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post #21 of 44
6/18/08 at 11:57am
I say where what you want. Besides, the sunlight is probably good for the baby anyway. All that vitamin D seeping through the skin.
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post #22 of 44
6/18/08 at 1:34pm
Pregnant women are beautiful and sexy and should wear whatever they feel comfortable in. If someone has a problem with it then they can go the other way and keep it to themselves. Being pregnant is natural and wonderful and its how we all came to be so there should be no shame in it.
post #23 of 44
6/18/08 at 3:16pm
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Originally Posted by zoebird View Post
it's very weird, but my mother considers it "Obcene" to show the belly.

i think this is because it is an obvious indication that i've had sex. LOL
--snark alert--

In that case, should I wear a glove over my left hand to hide my wedding ring?
post #24 of 44
6/19/08 at 9:55am
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When I went to the pool yesterday I tried to remember all the positive posts and feel like not everyone was staring at my huge belly. it helped.
I asked my mom why it bothers her and she said it was the belly button. Anyway, thanks for all the reponses.
post #25 of 44
6/19/08 at 12:01pm
Wouldn't it be nice if people would just live and let live? Wear whatever makes you feel comfortable. It's no one's business. I do know that is easier said than done though. People make all kinds of stupid comments to pregnant women at a time when I think we need even more sensitivity. Pregnancy is such a beautiful thing. We should never allow anyone to make us feel otherwise.
post #26 of 44
6/19/08 at 3:49pm
hey, you can be married and still not have sex, you know? some people, it's just a domestic arrangement or some such.

but, it's OBVIOUS when you're pregnant that you've had sex. I mean, you can count back the weeks and know exactly when i had sex with my husband. it's in-your-face evidence.

the wedding ring just says that you have a certain domestic and legal arrangement. doesn't require sex. LOL
post #27 of 44
6/19/08 at 5:31pm
the only thing I cover up is my bum and most of my boobs I figure the cute young girls sun bathing topless right next to me take all the attention away

But I live in europe and it's ok to bare it all, so i guess if I sun bathed topless, at the beach, no one would care.

Sometimes I don't get the conservetism in the US: boobs yes, butts yes, but no bellies pealse... ??
post #28 of 44
6/20/08 at 8:10pm
I say wear whatever you want. I have gone swimming with my big ole' twin carrying belly just hanging out--it's comfy and I don't care what people think. I don't even know if I could FIND a bathing suit big enough. So I wear a sports bra and shorts! People can just deal, we have normal (and pretty damn cool) bodies.
post #29 of 44
6/20/08 at 8:11pm
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Originally Posted by zoebird View Post
hey, you can be married and still not have sex, you know? some people, it's just a domestic arrangement or some such.

but, it's OBVIOUS when you're pregnant that you've had sex. I mean, you can count back the weeks and know exactly when i had sex with my husband. it's in-your-face evidence.

the wedding ring just says that you have a certain domestic and legal arrangement. doesn't require sex. LOL
Well then I really throw people for a loop--they see me and my (female) partner and REALLY get wondering...well...hm..I suppose they have sex but how did SHE get pregnant?!?! Then people get all nosey!
post #30 of 44
6/20/08 at 8:16pm
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Well then I really throw people for a loop--they see me and my (female) partner and REALLY get wondering...well...hm..I suppose they have sex but how did SHE get pregnant?!?! Then people get all nosey!
I was thinking that. Being pregnant does not always mean you had sex to get there.
post #31 of 44
6/21/08 at 12:16am
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Originally Posted by AngelaM View Post
Yeah, I just wear my old bikini. Occasionally people stare, but you know what? My pregnant belly is still smaller than some of those big old men with beer guts in speedos!

I vote wearing whatever makes you feel comfortable. I mean, come on, it's just a body...


I second that!!

I just used one of my pregnancy tank tops (black) and wore a 5 dollar pair of shorts from walmart :P
post #32 of 44
6/21/08 at 1:52am
I only wear bikinis. I did buy a new one because my breasts are huge and there's no way they'd fit in my other tops.

I love having the sun on my belly and it needs to be a little less white than it is. If someone doesn't like it...well, I'm not going to lose any sleep. I look great and I'm not worried about it a bit.
post #33 of 44
6/21/08 at 9:46am
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Originally Posted by zoebird View Post
i think it's a generational thing.
It's just plain old sad that some women (especially when it's loved women in our lives) feel compelled to share their thoughts and views on the offensiveness of a naked belly. I thought this was the generation of women that fought tooth and nail to liberate and celebrate our sexual freedoms, rights to vote and be represented, and express ourselves. I can't honestly think of a more natural and beautiful expression of womanhood than letting the belly see the sun and elements. To me, it feels like I'm letting my growing baby get one step closer to the world outside my womb.

We're finally starting to get warm weather here in the Pacific Northwest, and I will certainly be wearing my bikini in solidarity with all the other mothers who wish to work it, flaunt it, and love their bodies.
post #34 of 44
6/21/08 at 10:52am
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Originally Posted by scd1978 View Post
Well then I really throw people for a loop--they see me and my (female) partner and REALLY get wondering...well...hm..I suppose they have sex but how did SHE get pregnant?!?! Then people get all nosey!

*gasp* That's extra dirty. Man, would I love to see the confused look on people's faces.
post #35 of 44
6/21/08 at 11:33am
Whomever made that comment to you needs to SHUT IT. You should wear whatever you want to the beach. I don't know why anyone else would care if you show your belly or not. That is so strange and frustrating.
post #36 of 44
6/21/08 at 12:14pm
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Originally Posted by star792 View Post
When I went to the pool yesterday I tried to remember all the positive posts and feel like not everyone was staring at my huge belly. it helped.
I asked my mom why it bothers her and she said it was the belly button. Anyway, thanks for all the reponses.
: Next time you're together, put a Band Aid over it, in a crazy color. Tell her that you're just trying to make her feel comfortable. And bat your eyelashes.
post #37 of 44
6/21/08 at 12:18pm
With that, I will take my very controversial protruding belly to the pool.

The last time I did notice a could of witchy girls that were looking at my belly. Hey! I look better than both of them. And I'm doing something great. They can suck my butt if they don't like it.

And BTW, MEN find sexy, pg women very hot!
post #38 of 44
6/21/08 at 12:38pm
Our bodies are all unique and lovely. I can't believe a stranger would think it was Okay to comment on someone else's body. I would be mortified because they didn't see how rude they were.
Oh, just wait until you breastfeed! I am a bit of a breastfeeding exhibitionist. I figure it's food and the weird ideas that people propagate in the own minds are not going to stop my baby from eating when it's hungry. My poor father couldn't look at me and talk for about a year after our first was born, but for the second I guess he got over it and he actually would talk to me and look at me when the babe was nursing.
Sometimes, we Americans, are really prudish!
post #39 of 44
6/21/08 at 1:26pm
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Originally Posted by scd1978 View Post
Well then I really throw people for a loop--they see me and my (female) partner and REALLY get wondering...well...hm..I suppose they have sex but how did SHE get pregnant?!?! Then people get all nosey!
Yup, me too! People make a lot of assumptions, and sometimes I'm willing to do the work of explaining ("this is how a sperm bank works...we have a donor, not a dad..."), but other times, I just want to live my life and not deal with being a spokesperson for queer America.

I had a painful exchange with the luggage guy at the airport the other day, who kept asking, "Are you two sisters?" and "But where's the dad?"

After I said about a million times, "There is no dad," he actually said, "Well, there has to be a dad. Is he dead?"

(Is he dead??? Who asks that?!?)

Finally, DP looked at him and said, "We're both raising the baby, okay? There's no one else."

Mr. Luggage looked very awkward, and we all just sat there until our bags showed up.
post #40 of 44
6/21/08 at 2:07pm
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Originally Posted by AngelaM View Post
Yup, me too! People make a lot of assumptions, and sometimes I'm willing to do the work of explaining ("this is how a sperm bank works...we have a donor, not a dad..."), but other times, I just want to live my life and not deal with being a spokesperson for queer America.

I had a painful exchange with the luggage guy at the airport the other day, who kept asking, "Are you two sisters?" and "But where's the dad?"

After I said about a million times, "There is no dad," he actually said, "Well, there has to be a dad. Is he dead?"

(Is he dead??? Who asks that?!?)

Finally, DP looked at him and said, "We're both raising the baby, okay? There's no one else."

Mr. Luggage looked very awkward, and we all just sat there until our bags showed up.
That's when the smartass in me would have to take over and explain in great detail the entire process of sperm banks ---- and just for good measure include menstruation and ovulation details, since he is so curious.
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