At what point do you get concerned?

[BekahJ]

Ok so both of my children have food allergies nothing life threatening but I really don't like the look of bright red cheeks on my DD. We took DS to the allergy dr. to have him tested and he pretty much acts like it's not that big of a deal. DS tested very sensitive to eggs, and somewhat sensitive to wheat and beef. To me it seems like that if you give your child food and they break out in hives or red bumps all around their mouth that it is a big deal. He told us just to feed him the foods and if he has a reaction to it don't give it to him(well duh). I ignored some of these signs with DD because I was ignorant and her allergies got worse I'm not going to do that with DS but I don't want to be paranoid either.

[lil_miss_understood]

All the doctor likely meant is that hives aren't really that high on the grading scale for allergic reactions. I believe it's considered a grade 2 reaction (scale goes to 5). Red cheeks are considered grade 1.
I used to have a link to the grading scale but can't find it atm. I'll try to find it again later.
Any allergic reaction is serious, you're right, but it's not worth freaking out over. You just become informed about ingredients and vigilant as to what enters the allergic person's mouth (or surroundings for environmental). The more calm and rational you remain about it, the more effectively it can be dealt with (imo).
I think every mom with allergic kids goes through her "paranoid" thing, but remember, it's not paranoia, it's your child's health. Some allergies go away but, to my knowledge, most don't and in fact get worse. My ds's allergies aren't life-threatening either, but I make a big deal out of them, because to me they are. I will do everything in my power to keep things which aren't healthy for him out of him and to prevent him from being more allergic in the future.

[BekahJ]

Yeah I mean I don't freak out about them of anything but like you said I don't want them to get worse. With my DD I didn't know and they did get worse and now she has excema that is under control but still I would like for her skin to be better. I just don't want him to get like that.

[kjbrown92]

Was DD tested as well, or did you ask about DD, while DS was at the doctor? My DS got the bright red cheeks with soy (he never tested positive on a skin test to it, but he can't tolerate it) and DD got the red cheeks to a variety of foods. Take them out of their diet. And even if they don't "test" positive and you notice a reaction, take it out. I think the red cheeks are a sign of intolerance, not allergy, right? At least both my kids get them from food, and neither are "allergic" to anything.