annoyed at breast feeding mantras?

[pumpkingirl71]

Anyone else feel like they are going to explode at the next person that gives kind, yet completely wrong advice?

For me, it is "Feed on demand and everything will be fine." As a mom with low supply, that could undermine everything. I have to feed on a schedule to get in enough feedings to keep my supply up. If I fed on demant, my daughter would still be losing weight. So I guess I am pretty tired of "she won't let herself starve" too

I udnerstand that there are common pitfalls and that is why those mantra exist. But if I followed them, I would not be breastfeeding right now.

[visrumxl5]

there's a whole list of them!!

but the one I hate the most is "there's no such thing as loww supply - you aren't trying hard enough" or "you must be doing something wrong"

or even..."poor little baby, still hungry?" added to the embarrassment of my DD still sucking her hands after a full feed in full view of relatives who supposedly mean well.....

or having to go away into another room to top-up with the SNS to avoid having to explain it.....and have the whole joint family wonder why I can't just sit and feed her like they all did...

[justthinkn]

All the things that are so good for most mothers to hear are just stabs in the heart when you have low supply.

Friends really meant well when they acted as if I just needed to finesse my pumping skills to get up to a full supply, but really, please, just believe me - I can't make enough milk.

[MarcyC]

: All of the above!!!

If I had followed some of the advice I've gotten from well-meaning lactivists, my last three children would have died.

[GISDiva]

This just happened to me today, in fact. I posted a question about donated milk on our local mom's site, and instead of answering the question, all I got was "have you tried herbs to increase your supply" and "maybe you could just pump more".

I've tried every herb in the book, lady, and if I pump any more my nipples WILL fall off. Oh yeah, and maybe I should just nurse DS more. If I could do that, perhaps I wouldn't be asking for milk...

Rant over. Thanks ladies...

[GooeyRN]

I got the "If you would just LET HER nurse from the breast, you wouldn't have to deal with these problems." LET HER? : I still try to get her to nurse 2.5 years after her birth. LET HER. HA. She could not at birth, and still WILL not.