Originally Posted by fullofgrace
With all due respect, to have a real and full discussion regarding what you say you intended, we do
need to get into the variables different families face. It is inappropriate (and against the UA) to make sweeping judgments about groups of people, but especially so without all the facts. This is why the discussion has been allowed to move on as it has. I hope that clarifies for everyone.
Hmmm... I should have multi-quoted, but it was not posted when I started.
I have read all of posts (unless some just
posted) and I have enjoyed the discussion. I think we all acknowledge that there are some situations where a parent just can't stay home, and some situations where it is is possible, but may not be the best idea. There are many who have shared stories of becoming SAHM only to find they need to bring in income to keep from going into debt each month. It is important to remember that each family needs to make a decision based on their situation.
I'l give an example based on my own situation. DH is very supportive of me staying home, but I make almost as much as DH and I carry the insurance since it is a lot cheaper. Although I would not have to pay for daycare for DD2 if I stayed home, that savings would not cover the rest of the bills I pay, and we would be in serious financial trouble. At this point we can't move because of DH's job (and our condo is not selling), and our fixed bills (mortgage, HOA, electric, student loans) are more then DH's income brings in. Our thought right now is to wait until DH's income improves and/or we pay down bills such as Student Loans and mortgage.
I think the OP realizes that her situation is not something everybody can manage to do, but she also realizes that our society sees two-income families as the norm and I think she would like to let others know that they don't have
to be a two income family because everyone else is. My understanding of her message is that she would like to have people take a look at their situation to see what works best for them.