Originally Posted by SarahGuinn
She is telling this to people who want to be able to do it too, she's not running wild eyed through corporate picnics and grabbing women with childbearing hips and telling them to get home to their mayun and their baybees because it's the right thing to do.
If a mama who works expresses a wish to a SAHM that working mama would love to be able to stay at home but doesn't think she can do it, good for OP for giving them some ideas! I've known not a few working moms who've expressed the same wish, and simply telling them about The Complete Tightwad Gazette, for example, has helped give them the HOPE that it is possible. Some families might be able to go to mom being a SAHM right away by simply cutting a lot of bills/spending. For others, it might take a while (with 2nd kid, for example, not the first) - they have to sell a house, move, make a job change, etc. Or maybe a woman can't be a full-time SAHM, but working part-time is a good choice for her. Or maybe it works better for DAD to be the SAHP.
Given our extremely consumeristic/materialistic society, giving stuff up (whether it's cable TV, going to one car, not eating out as much, etc.) is scary to a lot of people. Talking to other people who've done it or reading about it can give them that boost to think it IS possible to be a SAHM.
It's great to hear OP's DH is totally supportive of her being a SAHM. I've actually had first dates with guys who told me they did NOT want a wife who wanted to be a SAHM. They liked their toys and gadgets and didn't want to make ANY sacrifices for a wife to be SAHM. Yes, this was on the FIRST date. Good thing, because it helped weed out the guys with different values.