For jeanniebeanieI tried to e-mail you but it didn't work, so here it is:
My mother had my older bro in a hospital back in 1968 and said it was horrible. I was born in 1979 and my little bro in 1981, both planned unassisted homebirths. I grew up thinking that was the way babies were born and always assumed I would do it that way as well. I read Laura Shanley's "Unassisted Childbirth" and while I do not agree with many of her views, I think she knows
what she is talking about when it comes to homebirth and the dangers of medical intervention.
My husband would not go for the unassisted birth. He didn't feel he could do the job, so we hired a midwife. Then I found out I was GBS positive so I ended up delivering in the hospital. It went fairly well - I felt like everyone listened to me, and I had a minimun of interventions, with no drugs. The hospital had all this "standard procedure" stuff, but I was able to refuse that as well. It was a
really difficult delivery, a lot harder than I expected, so I'm glad I went to the hospital after all. If I have another baby I will plan on going to the hospital, as long as I know it's a good one, or maybe I could try a birth center if one is available. Plus Medicaid paid for it all, and would not cover the midwife. And after birth I kept the baby with me the rest of the time I was there - no one tried to take her away. That was what was most important to me.
I suppose if the second baby was an easy birth and I wanted a third baby and were GBS negative, I would want to try it at home, but I don't think I want 3 kids. Also it was nice to be waited on in the hospital postpartum. Everyone there was really supportive.
My mom said I was a really easy delivery and took only 3 hours. She said my little brother was more difficult, maybe 12 hours. I don't know much about the first baby. (He was adopted.) Mine took 38 hours and finally I asked the doc to use forceps, which I didn't like, but I just wanted it all to be over. If I had done it at home I'm sure it would have gone on a lot longer.
I still think it's the best way to have a baby, but some midwives are more like doctors and will do all these horrible interventions that will make it so a hospital transport is needed.
Also, my mom never had any trouble getting birth certificates for us.