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post #1 of 16
6/22/08 at 1:14pm
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Yep, my almost 5 year old ds is positively obsessed with breasts!

He searches through magazines looking for women wearing bikini tops. I stopped at Victoria Secret to pick up some new underwear and he was so amazed and practically drooling. He stood in front of a naked mannequin completely mesmerized!

At the book store, I was perusing the the self-help section quicly looking for a book for a friend. I look over and ds is looking at a book about women's bodies and he was intently focused the chapter with pictures of women's breasts, of course. I could not get him to leave the book. "Mommy, PLEASE can we buy this book PLEASE, PLEASE, PLEASE."

Now, I am not a prude, nor am I uncomfortable with human bodies or sexuality, but this obsession is starting to concern me.

Additionally, he is constantly trying to touch or rub against my breasts. To be honest, that kind of wigs me out.

Can anyone share some insight into this crazy obsession?

I keep thinking, perhaps irrationally so, it is because my breasts let him down when he was a baby (I was not able to breastfeed him for longer than 3 weeks--it was pretty devastating for me).
post #2 of 16
6/22/08 at 2:21pm
My almost 3 1/2 yo DS is really interested in breasts too. I told him he has "boobs on the brain" so now he will yell that out of nowhere. If he sees a woman showing lots of cleavage in a magazine or a video he will yell "Boobs!" He was mesmerized by a headless mannequin wearing a bikini at Kohls one day. Unfortunately it was down low within his reach so he was basically groping it.

I don't really have any advice...I am thinking it is a somewhat typical male obsession with breasts. My son is very interested in pretty young women and smiles and chats them up when we're out. Plus I think at this young age they associate breasts with comfort and cuddles. When my DS tries to touch my breasts I move his hand and say "That's private", and he doesn't do it very often after repeating this several times.

Don't beat yourself up thinking that this is because your breasts "failed" at BF-ing. I BF my DS until he was 14 months and he still has a boob obsession.
post #3 of 16
6/22/08 at 2:27pm
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Unfortunately it was down low within his reach so he was basically groping it.
Happy to hear I am not the only one with a ds who gropes mannequins.

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When my DS tries to touch my breasts I move his hand and say "That's private", and he doesn't do it very often after repeating this several times.
Yeah, I often say, "This is my body and you need to respect my wishes when I ask you to not touch my breasts."

Although, he often does it very covertly, such as rubbing his head all over them. He also stares at my chest.

It makes me feel uncomfortable.
post #4 of 16
6/22/08 at 4:27pm
I don't know if it is just a male obsession - I think it may be developmental. My niece was completely fixated on breasts when she was about five or six - when dd1 was born her eyes were glued to me as I breastfed. She seems to have grown out of it.

And my dd1 is also quite impressed with my breasts now - she was swinging them and playing with them as I got ready to shower the other day. I asked her not to, and her reply was, "but, they're just so cool!"

I wonder if maybe it is because they stick out and we as a society make such a big deal out of them, especially covering them up.
post #5 of 16
6/22/08 at 5:08pm
Lots of kids like their moms boobs because they are so soft and squishy and smell like mom. When DD was about 2 she was thumbing through a magazine pointing to all the women going "milk, milk, milk". Have you asked him why he likes them?
post #6 of 16
6/22/08 at 10:29pm
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Have you asked him why he likes them?
No, I haven't. But, I am definitely going to!
post #7 of 16
6/25/08 at 1:04am
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Originally Posted by lyttlewon View Post
Lots of kids like their moms boobs because they are so soft and squishy and smell like mom. When DD was about 2 she was thumbing through a magazine pointing to all the women going "milk, milk, milk". Have you asked him why he likes them?
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post #8 of 16
6/25/08 at 1:51am
I don't think this is relevant at all.. but one time I saw my good friend after not seeing her for so long... She was holding my little guy (and granted, this was burning man, so she was wearing 'lighter clothing') and he poked her nipple and said "Ding Dong"...


Apparently daddy taught him that for his own nipples.. and ds took that to mean all nipples! Thanks dad.. thanks...
post #9 of 16
6/27/08 at 2:08pm
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Originally Posted by Bredette View Post
I don't think this is relevant at all.. but one time I saw my good friend after not seeing her for so long... She was holding my little guy (and granted, this was burning man, so she was wearing 'lighter clothing') and he poked her nipple and said "Ding Dong"...


Apparently daddy taught him that for his own nipples.. and ds took that to mean all nipples! Thanks dad.. thanks...
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post #10 of 16
6/27/08 at 2:53pm
My DH blames my son's boobie obsession on BFing too long!! I weaned him at 4, he hasn't had a boob in 4 months, but he still tries to nurse and grope me. I'm glad to know my DS is normal in that area. I was starting to get worried...
post #11 of 16
6/27/08 at 8:15pm
My DD has a naked Barbie and she LOVES her breast.

DD says there are not real breasts because they don't have nipples!
post #12 of 16
6/27/08 at 10:05pm
I am so glad to see my DS is not alone! He has the fascination with mine, his two older sisters and just about any woman who walks by. We were at Hooters not long ago, before the fascination really presented itself, and the waitress walked up to ask if we needed dessert. Her breasts were eye level with DS and he stared straight at her chest and in an inappropriate tone said "Oh Yeah"!
post #13 of 16
6/27/08 at 11:13pm
OMG I would have died laughing right there!!!
post #14 of 16
6/28/08 at 12:07am
I weaned my son at 2 1/2 and then gradually he started back up again(even with no milk) and then I really had to wean him at four because I was pregnant with #3. After the baby was born he wanted to nurse, so I let him just for a little while, thinking he would try it and then get over it. He is five now and still trying to nurse! He gets offended when I tell him no and doesn't seem to understand why. I don't feel like he's obsessed with breasts, in particular, just nursing.
post #15 of 16
6/28/08 at 12:02pm
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OMG I would have died laughing right there!!!
the waitress blushed, I wanted to crawl under the table, DH and DD's laughed their fannies off.
post #16 of 16
6/28/08 at 12:47pm
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My DH blames my son's boobie obsession on BFing too long!! I weaned him at 4, he hasn't had a boob in 4 months, but he still tries to nurse and grope me. I'm glad to know my DS is normal in that area. I was starting to get worried...
I totally understand what you are going through. I am going through a similar with with my 3 yr old right now and my DH keeps complaining that I've made him boob obsessed, b/c we've nursed for so long (he is down to just one nursing session a day right now, but he gropes me and asks me all day to nurse).
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